Odds are, you're hurting and looking for a step-by-step plan on how to get over your heartbreak. Unfortunately, this is not that.

To be incredibly honest, as hard as you look, you won't find what you're looking for. Trust me, I've tried. There are Facebook stories, Pinterest quotes, blog posts, YouTube videos, and the list goes on and on as far as tips to mend a broken heart. Unfortunately, but also, fortunately, this journey is yours. While I may not be able to offer a quick catch-all solution, I can share some insight from my own experiences.

First and foremost, please PLEASE give yourself time to heal. A time to revel in your pain and feel bad for yourself. Good news, you can stay in bed and keep eating your ice cream. On a less exciting note though, this span of time can only last so long. At some point in time, you need to pick yourself up and dust yourself off.

While it would be nice to turn off the feelings of heartbreak, try giving yourself a span of time a day to really feel bad. Start with an hour a day and go down from there. It's so important that you understand how okay it is to feel pain. If you keep yourself from hurting now, it'll hit you later.

Remove, delete, unfollow, block. Do whatever you have to do to get all negative influence out of your life. One of the hardest things in the world is cutting someone or something out entirely. It's so easy to convince ourselves that we are able to maintain a conversation or see social media posts. This "one foot out the door" mentality drags on the heartbreak process for way longer than it needs to be. Allow happiness, happy people and happy things to be the only major influencers in your life, even if it means cutting something out.

Allow yourself a season to focus on you and your own personal growth. Those that jump from one relationship to another are masking the healing process that should come along with a broken heart. Whatever self-betterment looks like for you, prioritize that. Focus on your physical, mental or spiritual health. This time of self-improvement will allow you to fall back in love with the person you were before a season of heartbreak. At the end of the day, you have to be happy with yourself before you can ever be happy with someone else.

Give yourself time. It seems like everyone and their brother has a time frame in their mind as far as the healing process goes. "It's been _____ months. You should be over him by now." This is one of my LEAST favorite statements of all time. Your relationship was just that, yours. No one knows your heart like you do. Give yourself all of the time you need to cope and move on. If that's a month, great. If that's a year, that's okay too. Others do not get to have a say about whether or not you're recovering too quickly or not quickly enough.

When the time comes for you to move up and move on, let yourself do that. For some this means unblocking on social media, for others, it means seeing an old friend and being able to be happy for their happiness. Whatever that process looks like for you, do it and be done. Go through the motions and allow yourself to grow and move on.

Every heart is different. Some are stronger than others. Some have been through a lot. Some have been rather lucky. Unfortunately, though life has its way of throwing some MAJOR curveballs. While there is no perfect list or formula to mend a broken heart, there are some tricks and tips for some great personal growth in the face of adversity.