Life can be sticky. It can get messy, and some days it feels like you will never get out from the crap pile that has been the last few weeks of your life.

Your mood starts to suffer, you begin to feel drained, you’re getting tired of constantly feeling like doors and walls are being slammed in your face. It’s all part of the vaguely horrifying and confusing journey that is becoming an adult. You sometimes have to learn things the hard way- the sticky way.

You try to just push forward alone so you don’t bother anyone (because, surely people have their own problems to deal with), but it quickly gets exhausting trying to do it by yourself. You need someone to lean on, someone to confide in.

The best thing on this earth is a good, quality friend.

The type of friend who is there for you, who listens to your problems and then helps you work through them. The type of friend who you can call up out of the blue crying, and she listens and offers encouragements, and even has you laughing by the end of the phone call. The type of friend who specifically wants to schedule facetime dates with you, just to hear how life is treating you. The type of friend who has been with you for years and knows you in deep ways because she’s stood by you for so long. The type of friend who you have only known for a few months, but who has been so honest with you while you have been honest with them.

I think that it is really easy to try and go through life relying only on yourself, whether it be because you’re too independent for your own good, or you just get busy, or have been burned one too many times in the past. But God designed us to be social creatures. It is His will that we have a strong community of people around us to fall back on when the going gets tough. He designed us to work better as a group rather than as a lone ranger.

When we cordon ourselves off from support, we open ourselves up to the lies of the world, and the hardships and struggles that are easy to get stuck in and that’s when we get into trouble.

So find yourself people that are able to surround you with love and support. Develop relationships that you can find yourself feeling secure in, even when it feels like you can’t do anything right. Find yourself pals that will care for you just as much as you will care for them.

Find yourself friends who make you feel rested after being with or talking to them. These are the best kinds of friends, friends for the soul. They may not live near you, you may not talk to them every day, but they are in your heart, and you are in theirs. You deserve friends who help you get by in life, and who encourage you to live.

So hold on to the ones you already have, and go out and find the ones who are waiting to journey through the path of life with you. Because you are worth it. Because getting by is a little easier with the help of your friends.