As a young adult, the saying I hear the most is “Rachel, get your shit together.” Most of the time this comes from my mother. Isn’t she sweet? Just kidding, I love her, and most times I think she is 100 percent right about everything. However, when it comes to this I must say that I disagree. I am 21 years old. No one I know that is 18-24 has their “sh*t” together (of course there are some exceptions, I just don’t know them and nor would I like to). To someone my age this phrase does more harm than good. It makes people in their 20s feel guilty for not having their lives figured out.

I thought college was the only time that it was acceptable to have a “shambly” life and make five mistakes in one night? If not, I'm doing college completely wrong.

From the mouths of babes, I think the phrase that would benefit anyone around my age is “get uncomfortable.” Yes, you heard me. Get uncomfortable. It’s the only way we can grow. If life was easy and nothing bad ever happened to you, would you really be growing as a person? No. There would be no need to. Unfortunately, that lifestyle doesn’t even exist; everyone is uncomfortable and struggles at some point. The best piece of advice, I can offer to anyone, is to get uncomfortable (another mama Gedosh quote). Embrace the experiences and situations where you don’t know the outcomes. Use these moments to better yourself and become the woman/man who will eventually have their shit together! I know it’s much easier said than done and honestly being uncomfortable sucks. I was the most uncomfortable I've ever been last spring, but I survived and came out stronger! And now, I know that I can come out on top with every other uncomfortable situation life throws at me. The sooner you learn how to deal with these types of situations, the better your life will turn out and the happier you will be. Besides, everything always works out one way or another and sometimes better than we expect!

College – or the ages of 18 to 24 – isn’t the time to get your life in order (or even try to figure out what you want). It is the time to get uncomfortable, stay out too late, eat too much, and binge watch an entire TV series in a week. Whoever said we need our shit together now, is wrong. Nothing in my life is put together and I’m okay with that. I have the rest of my life to get my shit together and as of right now I just want to enjoy growing into the person that will have her life in order at some point! I bet she's really cool.