When you first join a sorority, getting your big sister is a super important moment. There's a whole week worth of gifts before you meet your big officially, and everyone who already has their big tells you how amazing the experience is. Everyone tells you how your big is gonna be this big, important part of your life, and they'll be your best friend.

But big sisters aren't just there to be your friends, and sometimes they aren't even your friends at all. Your big is meant to be something much more important than just a friend. Your big is your mentor through the hellishness that is pledging. She's there to help you learn everything you need to know, and she's there to calm you down when you're on the verge of a panic attack.

Now, it's incredibly important to remember, you and your big find each other VERY early on in your pledging process. You might not wind up having much in common with your big, and that's okay.

Not everyone is close with their big, in fact, I know many people who rarely speak to their big now that they're done with their pledging. And that's okay. Your big doesn't need to be your friend because you have a whole sorority full of girls that can be your friends.

Now, as far as getting your big goes, I don't know how it works for different sororities, but I believe they all have a week or so for all the potential bigs to get to know the potential littles, and during that time, it's super important to go into it being yourself.

Also, when picking the girls you'd most like to be your big, don't just pick who you had the most fun with. Pick someone you think you can learn from because that's what they're really there to do.

They're there to help you learn the secrets of your sorority, and make sure you know all the things you need to know for initiation.

So, enjoy your big for who she is, because she is super excited to have you, even if you don't always see this.