A little over a year ago, I became single.

Of course in the moment I was heartbroken, but not to sound like a whore, I got back on my game about two weeks later. It’s a long story and I was basically over my ex before it ended. Again, long story.

You know how when you set your status to “single” on social media, your inbox suddenly gets lit up by messages of thirsty dudes reaching out hoping to get some? Yeah, I know that too. However, not all of them are thirsty nor are they all out for one thing. Here is a story proving that.

Take it back to the week that I had gotten my heart “broken.”

My mom and I had taken a trip to the outlets near me as a little retail therapy. When we walked into one store, I had noticed this boy. He was tall, brown hair, and his smile lit up the room. I instantly was attracted to him and thought he was super cute. However after the trauma I’d just been thrown into after my last relationship and had just gotten out of it, I was very hesitant.

Fast forward to a few weeks later, this guy had friend requested me. I noticed he had also followed me on Instagram and Snapchat. I had recognized him a bit from school, we both go to Rowan.

But I really recognized him from that night at the outlets. I saw where he worked and it was the SAME STORE. He caught my eye and I instantly wanted him to message me. But he didn’t, so I kept doing me.

I had talked to a few guys here and there and had gone out, but nothing serious. I wasn’t feeling any of those dudes and I was honestly getting frustrated.

The dudes in my inbox seemed thirsty, and for the most part, they were. I was getting annoyed at talking to them and constantly getting asked to “send pictures” or “come over."

And the occasional smooth ones who tried to seem like they cared but it all ended with the same want: sex.

HOW ABOUT NO?

A couple weeks passed and my frustration grew stronger. I occasionally like to game, so as the single girl I was, I posted on Facebook that I had Xbox and asked for gamer tags. I didn’t think much of it, I just wanted some people to play Xbox with.

But then it happened.

The guy I’d been hoping to message me commented on the status and gave me his gamertag. He then gave me his number and told me to text him when I got on next. I was a little hesitant about the whole number part, so I kind of didn’t respond mostly because I didn’t know how.

Two days later, I get a DM about how he wanted to know if I was down to play Xbox. He didn’t say “Hey beautiful” or “Wow, you’re gorgeous" or "Let’s hang out.” He approached me through a connection we both had which was gaming. So I responded and we played Xbox together.

We exchanged numbers and started texting a lot. We would text all day. I’d wake up to a “good morning beautiful” text every morning. I was falling, and I was scared, but I was so happy.

Fast forward almost a year later and we’re going stronger than ever. I’ve never in my life felt so comfortable with someone and formed such a close connection. His family is amazing, and he’s honestly the best boyfriend that I could have ever asked for.

All this came from a simple DM.

A DM asking if I wanted to play some Xbox. I believe that our paths would have crossed either way because we are meant to be together, but it was that DM that started it all. If I’d decided not to give him a chance simply because he didn’t talk to me in person, I would’ve missed out on bliss.

So, I gave the dude who slid into my DM’s a chance and it turned out to be the love of my life. So, ladies, if a guy approaches you via a DM, don’t be so quick to call him “thirsty”. You never know, he could turn out to be your prince charming. But remember, it's how he approaches you that's key!