To The Girl Who Puts Her Future Before Anything Else

To The Girl Who Puts Her Future Before Anything Else

So live for you and only you. Be who you want to be and do what you want. Succeed like never before!

Soon to be 20 and still have not dated anyone, kissed anyone or been with anyone. I am here to tell you that this is okay because life is not about being in a relationship all the time and I feel that our generation is so stuck on the company of a relationship and relies on it to too much that it makes them feel happy. It gives us something to lean on and a reason to love ourselves but here is the thing once you gamble on it too much at some point there will be dark spots. Since you never put in the time to live your own life and love yourself, you will not know where to go from there. So I have always been the girl who put her future first and I am okay with that. These reasons below are my reason why.

Learn to love yourself

You do not need the constant reminder that you are beautiful on a regular basis because you know your worth. You find happiness and become your own person no matter who you are. You learn to accept things about yourself without the help of another individual.

Becoming independent

You do not depend on anyone but yourself. You work hard for what you earn and no one can take that way from you.

You dream big

You dream big and fantasize about what life could bring you. You go to college and believe that there can always be a better you in the world. You do not settle for less than you know you deserve.

You are happy and accepting

I love life and maybe there are times where I have a bad day but most of the time I enjoy what I do. I am happy where I am and what I am choosing to accomplish at this point in time.

Rushing is not your style

If you have not been in a relationship for a while or even at all you begin to accept that. You do not rush into things, you wait for them to come to you. So when something does not work out, you move on because you know there is better somewhere else.

Free to be you

No one is holding you back from accomplishing your dreams or telling you what they think is best for you on a daily basis (well besides our parents, which they do know whats best). Anyways, you do not have to feel like you have to surround yourself with things you hate rather you get to indulge in what you love and the person you want to be.

In all seriousness, maybe some of these reasons do not reflect you. Maybe you feel different about not being in a relationship but what is the rush nowadays? Why is getting married so young a thing? I prefer to live a little before I settle down and by any means, I am not saying settling down is a bad thing but it comes with some restraints. I am OKAY with being the soon to be 20 years old who has never had a relationship. I just wanna live a little, go on adventures, go to college and make something out of myself. Maybe one day I will get into a relationship but I will not let it jepordise everything I have worked so hard for.

So live for you and only you. Be who you want and do what you want. Succeed like never before and if the right person comes along then they do...but do not let that take away from what you deserve.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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10 Things Girls Secretly Love

Come on guys — take a hint.


Let's face it, girls can be a little stubborn at times and not directly come out and say what they want. But, a few of these should be obvious clues that boys should be able to pick up on. So I have comprised a short list of at least ten obvious things girls, or at least I secretly love.

1. Leave her cute texts

Quickest way to put a smile on her face or leave butterflies in her stomach is to send her a cute text. Even if it's simple

2. Kiss her in front of your friends

Don't be one of those guys that treats your girlfriend/SO differently because you are around your friends. It validates that she really means something to you if you still show her off around your friends.

3. Tell her she looks beautiful

Even if she denies it and says she looks gross, you've still managed to get her attention and show her you think she's beautiful no matter what.

4. Kiss her forehead

5. Let her take photos of you

Slight obsession over your boyfriend is normal, I promise, she just thinks your adorable.

6. Tell her when you have something to do, don't just ignore her randomly

Most girls won't be mad when you have something else to do. It's the fact that you couldn't take the time to send a text that would probably take a minute to write to let her know you aren't just dodging her messages.

7. Play with her hair

If she does it for you, then you do it for her. Don't just let her play with your hair for a half hour then run your fingers through her hair twice and think your done. No, we want the relaxing feeling of fingers running through our hair too.

8. Watch movies with her

You don't always need to go out and do something active, watching a movie and cuddling is nice too. Netflix and Chill

9. Let her fall asleep on you

10. Be her best friend

Sometimes all you need is someone to laugh at stupid jokes with, sing loudly in the car with, or just sit in silence and listen to the world outside a car window.

Every girl wants to feel special and treated the right way in a relationship. But just as girls are stubborn, guys are just a little bit clueless. So take notes boys.

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