4 Freshmen Year Discoveries I Made That Changed My Perspective On Adulting

4 Freshmen Year Discoveries I Made That Changed My Perspective On Adulting

This is what I learned in one semester of college.

Starting your first year of college is intimidating. Within one semester of living on the campus of the College of Charleston, I have had the most life lessons and growth that I have experienced in such a short amount of time.

I have always been fairly independent so moving away from home didn’t sound like it would be anything too arduous. On my first day of living on campus, I realized that being on my own came with a lot more than I thought. Though this was a challenge, I now feel more equipped to begin my transitions into adulthood.

The first semester of my freshman year I discovered the following:

1. Living is not cheap

I always had the luxury of coming home to food in my fridge, and availability of things like laundry detergent and cleaning supplies. It was a pain in the ass to buy these things with my own money at first, but now I feel independent and self-sufficient because I learned to take care and provide for myself.

2. No one has it all figured out

The first month I spent in college was somewhat erratic. My sleep schedule was off, I had more assignments than I knew what to do with, I hadn’t exercised and I felt like my life was in scrambles. Everyone else in my class was in the same position I was. Realizing that I wasn’t supposed to have everything together gave me the freedom to mess up, make mistakes and struggle without feeling alone in it all.

3. College provided me the opportunity to advance my critical thinking

In the beginning of my courses, I felt like the coursework was about the same as high school. As I’ve begun this new second semester, I see now that I can take my professors’ words and instead of accepting them as facts, I have my own perspectives. College professors open up room for their student to speak. This provides personal growth in our ability to contemplate an idea and create our own views of it. Professors like to hear your input and open up the floor for discussion which has actually caused me to bridge the material into my other classes.

4. I make time for friendships

In college, you make time for the people that are important to you. The ones who prioritize you are the people you want to keep around. The friendships I have made in college are special in that I don’t have classes with all of my best friends or see them in the cafeteria every day.

You learn quickly who is really there for you, where some friendships from the beginning of the year don’t last, but that's okay. Meeting a new variety of people in college allowed me to become more openminded, and close to people who I wouldn’t have otherwise.

Due to this, I believe I have become a better friend, developing special bonds with the people that give me a community, a family away from home.

So college can be intimidating and a difficult initial adjustment. The college rumors are true.

However, I really wouldn’t want it to be any other way. I now feel confident than ever. Not only in my ability to decipher my own opinions but as well as the perceptions of people. These subtle but crucial adjustments allow me to thrive in a place where the opportunities are endless.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Why Passion Leads To Success

Success is based on what a person wants to accomplish and the journey they take to accomplishing their goals.


Passion is extremely important to a person's success. I think success is when a person is happy and content with their life and they have the career they have dreamed of and they make the right amount of money to live the way they want. I also think it is that a person meeting their goals and taking advantage of opportunities in their lives to better themselves is important to become successful. Success for an individual is usually based on their goals in life and the passions they have for certain subjects and career choices.

Kids always are forced into doing what their parents want and high school pressures kids to go to college way too much. I chose the path to go to college, but it is not the only option or always the right one. All people are different and they all have different interests, and that is the key point to their success. People have plenty of hobbies they enjoy, but they are always certain subjects and activities that people are passionate about. After graduation, the options are endless, because there are jobs a person can advance in to become a top employee in the company. A person can also go to all kinds of schools such as college, trade schools, tech school, beauty school, dental school, and so many more. A person can also join the military and serve their country while trying to find a career to enjoy in the military, so they have options after their service. Some people cannot handle the military, college, or trade school and there is nothing wrong with that. The journey a person takes and the goals they achieve cannot be rushed, but takes hard work on finding out what makes you happy and what makes goals achievable.

I know some people that are still trying to find their passion in their early twenties and there is nothing wrong with that. Some people are having kids or getting married, while others are achieving some goals or getting into trouble. The point is everyone is in a different place and have a different journey as they attempt to find out their passion. An important quote to me comes from Walt Payton. Payton was a running back for the Chicago Bears in the 1970s and his quote was "If you're good at something you'll tell everyone, but if you're great at something they'll tell you." This quote is important because usually if an individual is great at something and people tell you, then a person will likely fall in love with that activity. People love to be complimented and hear positive comments about themselves to boost their self-confidence. People perform their best at the subjects that they care about and have a passion for, but they also need the praise and support from the people around them to push them to be their very best. This is how I found my passion, but some people will stumble on it themselves. I started writing papers for English classes and computer classes in high school and my first year of college. I enjoyed having the freedom to write about what I wanted and being recognized for that made me feel confident so I decided to major to become a journalist. I never imagined that I would become a journalist, but that turned out to be something I loved doing and I continue working hard to improve my writing skills.

Society judges a person's every move and they peer pressure many people into feeling they have to make all the money they can or they have to go to college to be successful. I know people that have not attended college and they are making good money at their job and enjoying what they do. I know some friends who go to trade schools or are getting certificates to establish their career. The best thing America offers an individual is the ability to have the power to choose your career based on personal interests and skills a person possesses to make themselves content with their lives. People should take advantage of the opportunities around them and try to do their best in their profession. People do not live forever, but their work and impact they leave around them are important, so people should make the best of their life and find their passion.

Passion is important for every human to find, but do not rush your life or career, because people will find their passion at all different ages and periods in their lives. Young adults should enjoy their lives and have fun with their peers as they find their passion and set their goals to become the best they can be in their career. I have seen people of all ages in my college classes; Kids from high school, young adults, and even adults in their thirties to sixties. This proves people can change their current situation any time they want and find their passion at any age. People need to get more confidence in themselves and put their best effort into every aspect of their lives, so they can be happy and successful. Life is all about what a persons makes it because they are in control of their destiny, but they must find their passion and capitalize on their opportunities.

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