From The College Girl Who Loves To Stay Home

From The College Girl Who Loves To Stay Home

"I had a lot of dates but I decided to stay home and dye my eyebrows" -Andy Warhol

My entire life I've been a talkative and outgoing person. I always run my mouth and ensure that my opinions and ideas are heard. Many people assume that my loud and rambunctious personality means that I am a party animal. They thought wrong.

Being a senior in college, it is easier now than ever to be a hermit as well as an extrovert. People don’t question me anymore. I'm not coming to a new area, trying to meet new people and attempting to discover my place here in college.

As a freshman and sophomore, however, it was a bit harder to be a person who likes to stay home. While all of my friends wanted to go out to bars and frat parties, I wanted to find a less crowded and calmer activity surrounded by my favorite people. My freshman and sophmore year, I did a lot of exploring throughout the city of Charleston. Because I didn't have the drive to go to bars, I forced myself to make an effort and find something new outside of my apartment that would give me a sense of wonder and excitement. I didn't need a crazy night of drinking extravaganzas. Now, don't get me wrong, going out and letting lose is fun at times but, for me, I prefer to do so on special occasions, when I appreciate it more.

It has taken me a while to come to terms with this part of myself. When I was younger, I’d find myself anxiously wanting to go back home whenever I was out at night. I wasn’t sure why I didn’t enjoy staying out late and partying the night away. I had thought there was something wrong with me or that it would pass. Now I know that there isn’t something wrong-- it’s just a preference. If I feel more comfortable at home, in cozy clothes, surrounded by the people I love, what’s the problem? That doesn’t mean I NEVER go out, but my idea of a party is one surrounding my living room table listening to my favorite music doing my favorite activities.

So for those of you out there, struggling to find your place in college and feeling uncomfortable because the party lifestyle isn’t for you—know that it is absolutely okay! You are who you are. Just know that you shouldn’t be afraid to go out of your comfort zone every so often. Life would be boring if you hid in your room every second of every day. I know being home is the best place to be, but what if there are other better places to be that you wouldn’t discover if you don’t leave your room? There would be no room for new experiences and fun adventures because the only room you're thinking about is the one with a bed. Test the limits, try new things and push your boundaries. If at the end of the day you realize that you would rather be doing something else, now you know, and at least you tried.

Most importantly, don’t allow others to bring you down. No one can make you feel any type of way. Peer pressure is one of the worst feelings, especially in any new environment. Stand up for yourself. The earlier you do so, the easier it will be for you to find your place in this world, I guarantee it. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind and make decisions for yourself—as long as it’s not hurting you or others. Just because you aren’t a part of the status quo, doesn’t mean you’re not living college the “right” way. Whether these four years are the best or worst years of your life, don’t allow others to make you feel like you need to experience college in a way to please THEM. Experience college in a way to please yourself and no one else. Because, the truth is, you’re stuck with YOU forever. If you aren’t happy with your decisions, you’ll kick yourself around because you wished you would have listened to YOU and not others. What’s the key word here?


Cover Image Credit: Sydney Friedman

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What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

Price: $8.49 (one pack), $14.99 (two pack)

2. Phone juul holder 

You know those cardholders everyone sticks on the back of their phones? Well, now a Juul holder for your phone is on the market! This will save your favorite frat boy from ever again losing his Juul!

Price: $10.98

3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

Price: $1.95

4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

Price: $28.46

5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

Price: $12.00

6. Condom case

This condom carrying case will not only protect condoms from damage but also make frat boys more inclined to practice safe sex, which is a win-win situation!

Price: $9.99

7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

Price: $16.99

8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

Price: $6.50

9. Natty Light t-shirt 

Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

Price: $38.76-$41.11

10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

Price: $21.85

11. Bud Light Neon Beer Sign 

A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

Price: $79.99

12. Beer Opener

Although most frat boys' go to beers come in cans, this bottle opener will be useful for those special occasions when they buy nicer bottled beers.

Price: $7.99

13. Frat House Dr. Sign

Price: $13.99

Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

Lights are an essential for any party and these will surely light up even the lamest parties.

Price: $17.19

Please note that prices are accurate and items in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

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