From The College Girl Who Loves To Stay Home

From The College Girl Who Loves To Stay Home

"I had a lot of dates but I decided to stay home and dye my eyebrows" -Andy Warhol
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My entire life I've been a talkative and outgoing person. I always run my mouth and ensure that my opinions and ideas are heard. Many people assume that my loud and rambunctious personality means that I am a party animal. They thought wrong.

Being a senior in college, it is easier now than ever to be a hermit as well as an extrovert. People don’t question me anymore. I'm not coming to a new area, trying to meet new people and attempting to discover my place here in college.

As a freshman and sophomore, however, it was a bit harder to be a person who likes to stay home. While all of my friends wanted to go out to bars and frat parties, I wanted to find a less crowded and calmer activity surrounded by my favorite people. My freshman and sophmore year, I did a lot of exploring throughout the city of Charleston. Because I didn't have the drive to go to bars, I forced myself to make an effort and find something new outside of my apartment that would give me a sense of wonder and excitement. I didn't need a crazy night of drinking extravaganzas. Now, don't get me wrong, going out and letting lose is fun at times but, for me, I prefer to do so on special occasions, when I appreciate it more.

It has taken me a while to come to terms with this part of myself. When I was younger, I’d find myself anxiously wanting to go back home whenever I was out at night. I wasn’t sure why I didn’t enjoy staying out late and partying the night away. I had thought there was something wrong with me or that it would pass. Now I know that there isn’t something wrong-- it’s just a preference. If I feel more comfortable at home, in cozy clothes, surrounded by the people I love, what’s the problem? That doesn’t mean I NEVER go out, but my idea of a party is one surrounding my living room table listening to my favorite music doing my favorite activities.

So for those of you out there, struggling to find your place in college and feeling uncomfortable because the party lifestyle isn’t for you—know that it is absolutely okay! You are who you are. Just know that you shouldn’t be afraid to go out of your comfort zone every so often. Life would be boring if you hid in your room every second of every day. I know being home is the best place to be, but what if there are other better places to be that you wouldn’t discover if you don’t leave your room? There would be no room for new experiences and fun adventures because the only room you're thinking about is the one with a bed. Test the limits, try new things and push your boundaries. If at the end of the day you realize that you would rather be doing something else, now you know, and at least you tried.

Most importantly, don’t allow others to bring you down. No one can make you feel any type of way. Peer pressure is one of the worst feelings, especially in any new environment. Stand up for yourself. The earlier you do so, the easier it will be for you to find your place in this world, I guarantee it. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind and make decisions for yourself—as long as it’s not hurting you or others. Just because you aren’t a part of the status quo, doesn’t mean you’re not living college the “right” way. Whether these four years are the best or worst years of your life, don’t allow others to make you feel like you need to experience college in a way to please THEM. Experience college in a way to please yourself and no one else. Because, the truth is, you’re stuck with YOU forever. If you aren’t happy with your decisions, you’ll kick yourself around because you wished you would have listened to YOU and not others. What’s the key word here?

You.

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What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

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5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

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6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

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Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

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Is your life on instagram depicted the same way it is in reality?

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Do you ever scroll through your Instagram and get aggravated by how amazing the pictures are? Or get aggravated by how perfect the people are….. Or how joyful the people seem to be in the pictures displayed? All these questions build up and make you wonder why your life isn't as cheerful as those figures seen on social media. Well, every time I view Instagram on my devices, all I see are perfect images and perfect moments captured. I often wonder why MY life isn't as impeccable and why I'm am not having as terrific of a time as the pictures seem to portray.

Thoughts bubble up in me, and I find myself asking: is this how everyone really feels, or is it just me?

I've come to the conclusion that people who post cheerful and seemingly admirable pictures on social media are the ones who are deceiving themselves and fooling me along with. If the moment was so tremendous, why was there a phone out? If the moment was so wonderful, why did they choose to take a picture of it instead of immersing themselves at the moment? Was it certainly a perfect time? No. Then it genuinely wasn't the time of your life.

The picture seeks to depict the time as perfect, but that wasn't what actually occurred. In reality, the people would have been crying or just sitting around the whole time, but in that exact split second of the picture, they were able to display a flawless image that people who scroll through Instagram desire to experience with their friends.

After experiencing moments that people capture on a mobile device at parties and casual hangouts, I have come to a realization that not only do people deceive others by faking happiness on social media, but they also deceive others into thinking their life is outstanding. In that picture perfect moment, it wasn't as joyful and valuable as it seemed to be.

The only thing they did was take pictures to depict a favorable time, but was it REALLY a breathtaking occasion or did you just take pictures to make it seem as if you did? The picture was taken to allow others to view it as the best time ever and have others believe you had fun. You would definitely say it was fun, but in reality, all you did was take pictures to make it seem fun.

It is insane to think about the countless times a person goes through their feed feeling upset about their life by simply viewing someone's picture and assuming they are having "the time of their life." They don't even think about how the amazing picture is, but the moment wasn't.

This must come to an end. Though some people would argue and say they want to share aesthetic and pretty pictures on their social media, Instagram isn't for this. The purpose for Instagram is to post pictures with friends and family along with funny memes to keep Instagram lively, though Instagram isn't being used in this context. People need to essentially begin living in the moment instead of worrying about getting an Instagram picture. It isn't worth the hassle.

If you aren't truly having fun in life then what do you have to show off? Why not genuinely enjoy the moment, and worry about capturing a picture or two later? It is crazy to think about how people only care about how others view them. They don't care about how they view themselves or whether they are fulfilling their happiness. This society is definitely based on a sense of belonging, of being accepted into the community.

At the same time, people viewing these images begin to lose self-esteem because of the flawless group of friends they see on their Instagram feed. The thought of making yourself happy and enjoying the moment is diminishing as people begin to deceive their happiness. So, let me ask again: is the fun shown on Instagram reality, or is it just a deceptive fantasy?

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