While trying to get ready for spring break, I was at the gym the other day, and I noticed something. I first noticed how out of shape I was, but then I noticed that there were people looking around. More specifically, girls were looking at each other. Some girls would come in as a group and be supportive with that group that they came in, maybe say hi to a friend or two, but from my generalization, girls were judging and comparing themselves to others.

Now, I am not saying I don’t do this. I compare myself to others all the time without thinking about it, because its what society has shaped us to do.

We, as girls, need to change the way we think. We need to form together and create an alliance instead of judging and comparing ourselves.

Coming from a family of four girls including myself and my two sisters, and my mom, I know that if we form together, we can become a force that can be unstoppable. I have grown up with my mom telling me to be nice to everyone – this is something that most people hear. But she also showed me how women, when they are helping each other and working together to accomplish a common goal, can do so much more, because they are on the same team.

When I was talking to my manager the other day, we mentioned how sororities are often thought of. Sororities are thought of as a place where girls get together and form these lifelong friendships that will last you through the worst times in your college to the best days like when you get married, great. But then we think about the Greek system and how we rank the other houses compared to ours, instead of how we are all in the same boat together. How we all have found our homes that recognize our differences, and how we need to support each other to be a strong community as a whole.

Right now in the world, there are too many things that women have to fight against, that we should be bonding together instead of judging and creating cliques.

So, for the future, when we are out, branch out and congratulate that girl who is working her ass off at the gym, because she is killing it. Branch out and tell the girl sitting next to you in class that her eyeliner is spot on, or that her highlight is poppin'. It’s the little things that we have control over, that can make a difference in how we perceive one another, but can make the difference.

I look forward to the day that girls are bonding together, and laughing with each other on a whole different level of support.

Cheers ladies.