How To Keep Moving Forward, From A Soon-To-Be College Grad

How To Keep Moving Forward, From A Soon-To-Be College Grad

Looking on the bright side of stress

For this week’s article, I have decided to write about stress.

Now, stress is a broad subject. Everyone is a victim of it. There’s stress in school, personal and social life. It seems as if there’s no way to escape it. In my opinion, the worst form of stress comes in the form of over-analysis and assuming the past will repeat itself. This is something that has come to surface in my life quite recently. So here I am writing about how I feel.

The only way I know how, getting my crazy over-the-top bubbling emotions out of my negative black cauldron.

It isn’t a secret that 2015/2016 was a tough year for me. I experienced a lot of changes and lost a few people I hold close to my heart. I also lost myself for a little bit. Being the same time of the year when shit hit the fan last year, a lot of past emotions are surfacing.

A friend of mine suggested I write this, in hopes of relieving myself in a way, making me realize I should listen to my friends more because my cauldron becomes clouded in smoke — quite literally.

A year ago during this time, my world was turned upside down, and I was forced to learn how to pick up my broken pieces. I had no choice. I couldn’t go back; I could only move forward. And that’s the piece of advice that I continue to carry with me. That the past is the past and all we can do is fix what we can and move on to create an even more fulfilling result.

I can honestly relate to the Chinese pottery technique known as Kintsugi. Do me a favor and look it up if you don’t know what it is. Kintsugi is the art form where broken pieces of pottery are repaired with gold, creating an even more unique and beautiful piece.

Something that was once damaged came out looking better than ever before.

And that’s my goal, to keep doing better.

To keep mending my broken pieces until all you can see is the gold shining through. And, there wouldn't be the gold if mistakes can't be made. As hard and tedious as it may be, the outcome will always be golden if you work hard and power through the breakage.

Coming from a lazy girl like me, working hard is not fun. But it’s worth it in the end.

I keep saying "end" as if there’s a point in my life where I’m going to say, oh yeah, I won the race, I’m here. But in reality, there are hundreds of ends we face in our lives. And that just means we just have to keep striving to do better and be better and lean on those who want you to lean on them. We can't go through life alone, living isn't intended that way.

One thing I’ve learned that plays a role in coping with stress is the concept of patience and listening, something I do not practice well. I’m lucky enough to have friends who understand what I’m going through and teach me how to have the patience and persistence that I need.

The fact is, we aren’t living life locked away like Princess Fiona in Shrek. We can't just wait around for things to happen, assuming life will fall into place. Taking action and moving forward is the only way to go. You'll trip over yourself if you stand still and the world keeps moving.

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Finals Week As Told By Schmidt

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Finals week is finally upon us. The time every college student has dreaded all semester and there is no avoiding it. Let the stress, tears, and sleepless nights commence. Here's Finals Week as Told by Schmidt.

1. When you walk into the library and see that there are no more spots available because every freshman decided to start using the library now.

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2. You run into someone from your class and they ask you how prepared you are for the final.

3. Your first meltdown begins...

4. And then you get a call from your parents asking you why you've been so on edge lately

5. When you're three coffees deep at 2AM and believe everything will be okay even though you still haven't studied.

6. The day has arrived and it's time to take your first final so you give yourself a quick pep talk.

7. When you are the first one to finish the final early because you didn't study.

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8. Trying to pack while studying.

9. And then you start wishing you didn't wait until the last minute to pack because now there is no way your stuff will fit into your car.

10. When you get your first grade back.

11. And you have to tell your parents how you did in the class.

12. When all of your roommates are done with their finals and you still have one left.

13. But then your time has finally come and you have finished your last final as well.

14. And you realize you have survived yet another hell week.

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Feelings About Going Home For Winter Break That All College Students Can Relate To

"Christmas is cancelled!" - Michael Scott


With Thanksgiving break behind us and the holiday season quickly approaching (yay for time off school!) comes mixed emotions about seeing your family over the holidays.

It's exciting!!!

There are SO many things to be excited about! Getting to sleep in your own bed, see your family, have some time off class... the possibilities are endless.

It's boring...

The one thing about going home now that you've gotten used to dorm life is that it can be so. stinkin. boring. Don't get me wrong, I love spending time with my family when I'm home! But when they're all asleep by 10 pm and my night is just getting started, I'm kind of wanting to go back to school just for the entertainment factor.

Also, instead of having a hundred friends on your hall that are down to go do something when you get bored or need a study break, you just have very stressed out parents (because what parents aren't stressed during the holidays, duh?) and some siblings that you swore were more fun to hang out with before you moved out.

It's.... weird? (You mean I finally get to sit at the adult table?!)

Apparently, once you come back from college, your family will no longer tell you to go play with your cousins or cover your ears when they start talking about family drama or anything remotely inappropriate. You'll get all the tea. And you'll learn some things you never really wanted to know in the first place.

It's annoying

Another thing you'll experience when you see extended family: interrogation. Suddenly every family member is interested in how your studies, your social life, your dorm life, and every other aspect of your college life are going. You'll answer the same questions a million times, one of which is dreaded...

And it's filled with relationship questions! (Ugh!)

Relationship questions!! Apparently this is your grandma's new favorite question because you're now getting older and need to start thinking about marriage, apparently?

And your uncle's favorite question.

And your third cousin twice removed's.

And your great aunt's.

Just stop with these questions, people. We don't even know what we want to get a degree in, let alone who we want to spend the rest of our lives with.

And finally, it makes you want to become a quitter.

Family time is great, but it is only great in small dosages. By the end of the holiday, you'll be dying to get back to school far, far away from your loved ones.

Who you do still love! Just from afar.

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