All My Friends Are Getting Married and I’m Still Eating Chicken Nuggets

All My Friends Are Getting Married and I’m Still Eating Chicken Nuggets

What even is adulthood?

As I grow older into this “not a teen but certainly not an adult” phase of my life, things only get more and more confusing. This is not your standard “hit-11-here-comes-puberty,” or “hit-18-buy-your-first-lottery-ticket-slash-cigarette.” Everyone is taking 19-24/25 at incredibly different paces. Honestly it’s a little frightening. Here are just a few things I’ve noticed are significantly…varied.

1) Housing

Some kids are in dorms. Some are in apartments. Some are at home. Some are probably homeless. And we’re all reaching these milestones at very different times (maybe except for the homeless thing.) For example, I know kids that got their own place right after high school graduation. Some went to dorms, like I did, and moved off-campus their sophomore year. Some people didn’t get apartments/their own place until 22/23. I’m not saying one way is right, or better, or anything like that. But it’s weird seeing your twenty-four-year-old ex-coworker buying their first place as you sit in your first place…at eighteen.

2) Relationships

Why in the hell are some of these kids married? Okay, wait, that sounds really harsh. I don’t mean it like that; if you’re happy and in love and want to get married, great. That’s fantastic. Congrats. But we were dipping chicken nuggets into our mashed potatoes in the cafeteria what feels like just a little while ago. I so often see photos of people I knew in high school getting married, getting pregnant, celebrating their kids’ birthdays, etc. Meanwhile, I’m watching American Beauty alone, eating dry Froot-Loops in my Batman pajamas, resisting the urge to go back on Tinder. (If you’re single, never get on it. You’re welcome.) Do you notice any inconsistencies?

3) Socializing

Okay, I don’t even care if I sound mean: some of you guys went insane. You got three minutes of freedom and you whip out the fake I.D. To be honest, I like partying just as much as the average person. But when I’m living in a dorm and you wake me up at four A.M. because you drunkenly tried to open the wrong door? You very likely have a problem. You’re also breaking the law, but I’m not gonna snitch on you. I’ll let you do that on your own when you pass out on the quad.

Please balance work and fun. You don’t have to drink to have a good night. Eat some ice cream. Watch a bad movie on purpose. Lay outside with your friends and tell them your dreams. I don’t know. Just do me and your liver a favor and lay off on the margaritas.

4) Interaction With Other Adults

I’m talking real adults. Established jobs, a spouse, the whole shebang. This is especially prevalent to me in university where, yes, my T.A. may only be four or five years older than me, but I still feel the need to call them “sir” or “ma’am.” It’s a difficult time when your generation is becoming people of authority and you’re unsure if you have to treat them as such. Another would be talking to older people—some of my peers talk to professors like they’re best friends. They’re totally comfortable, feel equal, and share a mutual respect as adults. I’m still sending e-mails because I’m too scared to piss them off. Yes, we’re all adults here, but you’re still teaching me. Where can I draw the line?

So while we all struggle in this odd stage of post-adolescence pre-adulthood, let’s remember just that. We’re all struggling. I don’t care how established you are. It took a hell of a lot to get there, didn’t it? So be kind to one another; don’t let your friend do something super stupid if you can help it. Motivate one another to get that essay done, or work through that final hour of their shift. We’re all in this together, and yes, please feel free to sing that aloud. Your peers will join in.

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"What would I do without you guys???"

1. "Can I wear your shirt out tonight?"

2. "Does my hair look greasy?"

3. "We should probably clean tomorrow..."

4. "What should I caption this??"

5. "Is it bad if I text ____ first??"

6. "Should we order pizza?"

7. *Roommate tells an entire story* "Wait, what?"

8. "How is it already 3 AM?"

9. "I need a drink."

10. "McDonalds? McDonalds."


12. "Okay like, for real, I need to study."

13. "Why is there so much hair on our floor?"

14. "I think I'm broke."

15. "What do I respond to this?"

16. "Let's have a movie night."

17. "Why are we so weird?"

18. "Do you think people will notice if I wear this 2 days in a row?"

19. "That guy is so stupid."

20. "Do I look fat in this?"

21. "Can I borrow your phone charger?

22. "Wanna go to the lib tonight?"

23. "OK, we really need to go to the gym soon."

24. "I kinda want some taco bell."

25. "Let's go out tonight."

26. "I wonder what other people on this floor think of us."

27. "Let's go to the mall."

28. "Can I use your straightener?"

29. "I need coffee."

30. "I'm bored, come back to the room."

31. "Should we go home this weekend?"

32. "We should probably do laundry soon."

33. "Can you see through these pants?"

34. "Sometimes I feel like our room is a frat house..."

35. "Guys I swear I don't like him anymore."

36."Can I borrow a pencil?"

37. "I need to get my life together...."

38. "So who's buying the Uber tonight?"

39. "Let's walk to class together."

40. "Are we really pulling an all-nighter tonight?"

41. "Who's taking out the trash?"

42. "What happened last night?"

43. "Can you help me do my hair?"

44. "What should I wear tonight?"

45. "You're not allowed to talk to him tonight."

46. "OMG, my phone is at 1 percent."

47. "Should we skip class?"

48. "What should we be for Halloween?"

49. "I love our room."

50. "What would I do without you guys???"

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Stepping Way Out Of My Comfort Zone Into A Country Concert

As it's important to try new things.


I hate country music. For those who have met me, I am sure that determining I am not a country-music-lover is fairly easy. I never thought, in a million years, I would find myself in a crowd of 2,000 people wearing cowboy hats, Timberland boots, Carhartt attire, and matching camouflage sweatshirts until I was in the center of one of these crowds last night.

I was nervous.

I have always told myself to try new things—whether that be the chicken chalupa box I ordered for the first time from Taco Bell last night or the ten pairs of shoes I tried on at Nordstrom Rack today. Although, this "new thing" happened to be one I would never expect myself to try.

The L.L. Bean country concert in Freeport, Maine was heavily anticipated by friends of mine, and I heard about it nearly ten times before I decided to attend. My initial plan was to spend the day shopping with my friends and then leave afterward so they could enjoy the concert.

After a few hours of walking through the Freeport shops, I thought back to how I should spend my life trying new things—and my friends must have convinced me well enough that I must stick to this.

A few hours passed and I was soon in a crowd of people singing along to Cassadee Pope and Chase Rice. I must say—both of them had good voices, and with my friends' positive energy, I knew it would be a great night no matter what. As Cassadee Pope began singing known songs of my liking, like Cheap Trills by one of my favorite pop-sensations, SIA, I actually found myself singing! At a country concert!

The people around me were extremely nice. I never expected to receive any compliments in the midst of 2,000 people singing along to country, but a woman approached me and truly made my day with how kind she was. I began to notice that the environment was very nice, the country-music-lovers around me were kind, and that I was surviving the first country concert that I swore I would never go to.

Although it is likely the only country concert I will ever attend, I made it through, had a great time with my friends, and got to hear a cover of Cheap Thrills. I was definitely able to check the "try new things" column off my bucket list and astounded both myself and my friends as my pop/indie music taste found itself in the midst of the country concert last night.

Truly, I had a great time, and although country music is still not my cup of tea, living in the moment is extremely important and I definitely believe that I did just that.

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