Best friends do a lot for people. Without mine, I would be nothing. From the time we were 6 I knew that there was something special about her and it wasn’t just the red hair. So, Nikki, thank you for always helping me be the best version of myself. Without you, I am not sure where I would be.
Thank you, for leaving me.
Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.
Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.
Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.
I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.
In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.
You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.
Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.
So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.
So, thank you for leaving me.
Ah yes, you start seeing this guy and he's super incredible. He's everything you could've ever hoped for and more. He's sweet to you and your family, he's loving (bonus, he's also super cute). Nothing could take away this incredible feeling.
Then he tells you his best friend is a girl.
I can't lie, it always rubs me the wrong way too, at first. I've been in a relationship where I was seeing a guy who had a girl best friend. And despite better judgement, I let it slide. Only for him and I to stop dating and he start dating her a month later.
But I can promise you, it isn't always like that. Is it scary to think about? Of course. When my current boyfriend had told me I was going to meet his girl best friend, I wasn't thrilled about it. As sweet and nice as she was when I met her, I still wasn't thrilled about it. We had just started dating, so I hadn't yet gotten over those insecurities yet.
Questions ran threw my head. Had they ever had feelings for each other? Do they have feelings for each other and just won't act on them for the sake of their friendship? I couldn't seem to get my head to stop.
Until I started to talk to her more.
When I tell you, the best thing you can do in ANY relationship, is become friends with their best friend. They know everything about your significant other. The good, the bad and everything in between. You'll learn more about your boyfriend/girlfriend from their family and best friend than you will from them. You see a different side of them when they're with them.
To say I was apprehensive at first is probably an understatement. It didn't help that I had this awful gut feeling that she hated me. (BTDubstep, her and I are best friends now). But, after letting go of those insecurities and getting to know her, I realized that there was no form of intimacy or flirtatiousness between them at all. I had no worries because I trusted both of them.
She actually lives with him and his other brother. People always laugh at me when I tell them that because they think the stereotype and assume they have a thing. I love my boyfriend, I trust my boyfriend. I love his(and no mine) best friend, I trust her. There's nothing we don't share with one another because all 3 of us are very open with communication.
Just because your significant other is best friends with someone of the opposite sex, doesn't mean they're in love with them, or that they are trying to sleep with them.
Take the shot, the worst that happens is they do have a thing and you break up. If that's the case, they aren't right for you anyway. But take the shot, you might even gain yourself another best friend.
I know I did.