You become best friends, you start to plan when you’ll be bridesmaids in each other’s wedding and how your kids will be best friends. But then reality and life happen and you two don’t talk anymore. This is what we call a best friend break up, and honestly, it can be worse than relationship break ups.

Yes, relationship breakups are heartbreaking, but you have best friends to get you through them. So, what happens when that same best friend isn’t there, who helps you get over that?

We became best friends over silly things, the way we both liked Starbucks and how we both thought some girl was annoying. One day of just talking and laughing started to grow into a friendship and from there we became best friends. We were inseparable, even going to class with one another so we could drive to class together.

It was your typical college girl friendship - we stayed up late and talked about boys and went shopping together. You were even there to stick up for me when the boy of dreams came around and no one else saw what you did. You saw how I felt about him and you were my number one supporter and made sure that we were together. We lived together and laughed and you third wheeled on our dates with us.

But when the boy of your dreams came along, I wasn’t there for you the same.

I was feeling as if I was losing my best friend and that’s when the end started to come. It was my fault and when you needed me there to support you and your relationship I wasn’t there and I regret that. But it happened and we did still hang out and had our girl time with each other. But things were fading, you were starting to get new best friends and hang out with. I got a puppy and she started to fill all my time. And that was the break up happened.

We started to talk less and less until it was only talking in class and about class. So, then that was the end and I felt alone and sad and missed my best friend. But time goes on and yes, I still miss mine, but you know what things never could be the same. No matter how much you wish they could be.

Obviously, not all best friend breakups are like mine, but they do all hold the same pain. You still get that feeling to text them whenever something exciting happens and you feel that peg of sadness hit when you see them post pictures calling someone else their best friend. So, to all the best friends that have been lost, we miss you and hope that life is everything that ever wanted.