Things That ALL Freshmen Learn During Their Freshman Year

Things That ALL Freshmen Learn During Their Freshman Year

I grew up a ton this year, and I have learned some important life lessons.

Freshman Year of college has been a ride for sure. I have experienced some really high highs and some deep lows. Growing up, I have always pictured being older, but I never dreamt of the college life.

I don’t know why, but going into college I was scared out of my mind to even leave my hometown. After being away and experiencing college life, I am so grateful that I have left my hometown and that I went to college. I don’t know why, but a part of me never thought that I would actually leave for college.

I guess part of me was scared to actually become an adult. It’s always fun to be an adult in theory because there is so much freedom. Kids live such structured lives, and they don’t have as much freedom.

With freedom, comes responsibility and that is the scariest part. That’s the part that makes adulthood not as fun, and real. The real world is hard, especially coming from a town where not many bad things even happen to begin with.

Before coming to college, I essentially lived in this bubble where there were only good things. I didn’t know a lot about the real world, and college taught me that really quickly, and it popped my bubble. Going through that, and experiencing it was the scariest thing of my life.

Freshman Year was my first taste of the real world, and although it was the hardest and weirdest time of my life, it was also the best time of my life. I have done a lot of cool things, and I have learned so many life lessons that I am glad I learned in college.

First, I learned a lot of cool things and I learned that being an adult is scary, but totally doable, and it takes discipline. The discipline part is all about just holding yourself accountable and doing things that are just not fun. Personally, I hate doing laundry and cooking, but I do it because I want to be clean, and I need to nourish myself.

I’ve also learned life lessons in college, and life lessons that can be talked about for days on end on why they are so important, but you really need to experience them to understand why they are important. A big life lesson is that not everyone is motivated and is passionate about school. That’s so hard for me because I came from a high school were everyone cared and wanted to be the best.

On the other hand, I learned how to not to care about everything, primarily the rules. That is so hard for me to do because I am such a rule follower, and I get anxiety when I break the rules. I go into this state of paranoia, and not everyone cares about them, so I had to stop caring that they don’t care.

Basically, I had to learn how to go with the flow, and to do my thing and accept that others are going to be it differently. That is the hardest lesson I have learned because I am so passionate about school and following the rules, that when people break them, I somehow take offense to it. I don’t know why I care so much.

The biggest life lesson I’ve learned is that I need to constantly be taking personal risks, which means to be leaving my comfort zone. That is a scary thing because I like my shell and what I know, leaving that shell would be really hard for me to do. Essentially, I think it of as walking into something blind and possibly failing at it, I don’t like the feeling of failure.

However, when I did leave my comfort zone it lead to the greatest and happiest times of my life. I consistently tried to leave my comfort zone towards the end of my freshman year, and I am so much happier as a result. I have stories of why and how, but ultimately it boils to taking and owning that risk. Trust me, you’ll be way happier.

On top of the lessons I’ve learned, being happy came from all of the amazing friends I have gained this semester and year. I have friends who lift me up and make me feel important, and I have friends that care. It took a long time to get them, but now that I have them they are so worth it.

My friends are also like the coolest people in the world. Like if you’re a friend of mine and you’re reading this, I love you. You’ve been a positive and amazing impact on my life, and I genuinely hope you know that you’re a great person on the inside and out.

All of this I have learned and experienced in my freshman year. My lows have taught me the lessons, and my highs have been the best points in my life so far. I am eager to start my sophomore year because I am excited to continue growing and becoming an adult.

As for my plans until sophomore year, I am working at a great day camp with a great mission. I don’t know what else I can reveal, but it has an amazing mission and I can start to change the world through this. I am really excited for that.

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You May Have Worn The Prom Dress With Him, But I Get To Wear The Wedding Dress

You had him in high school, but I get him for the rest of my life.

High school seems like the best time of your life when you are in it. You think that all of your friends will be with you until the end, and that you will end up with whoever you are dating your senior year. For very few, that might just be the case. For all others, that is far from true.

You thought that you would marry your boyfriend and you thought that everything would work out how you had always imagined. I don't blame you though. He's great. You wanted everything with him, but you were just not right for him.

I wish I could say that I am sorry it didn't work out for you, but I can't. I can't because he is mine now, and I get to cherish him forever. You didn't do that right, and you were not meant to be together. You will find someone too, but I am happy that you were not the one for him.

Sometimes I have issues with jealousy, and I hate that you got all of the high school stuff with him. You got to go to games and support him. It kills me that I couldn't be there for him because I know I would have actually been there wholeheartedly. I would have done it out of love, not as a popularity appearance.

I hate that you got to go to all of the school dances with him. He got to see you all dressed up and probably told you how great you looked. I'm sure you did look great. Prom dresses were always fun to pick out and so colorful. It was exciting to match colors with your date. I am sure you had fun choosing his matching tux to your dress.

I find myself getting jealous, but then I stop. I am getting to match his tux with our wedding colors. I got to go dress shopping in a sea of white, and he doesn't get to know one detail about that dress yet. He will get to see me walk down the aisle and then every day forever. I get to love him forever.

I try to not get jealous of all of the things you got with him because it is all in the past. You had your time, and now I get the wedding. You got to dress up in high school, but I get to dress up for my wedding with him. He may have put a corsage on your wrist, but he will be putting the wedding ring on my finger.

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I Expected It To Have It All Together By 22 And I'm Still Far From That

What we expected and what reality actually is, are two completely different things...


Oh our 20s, how we expected them to be so different. We expected to graduate college at 22, have a career by 23, be engaged by 24, married with a house by 25, kids by 26-28, vacationing with the family by 30, and retired by 60. We expected college to be parties and cute boys/girls. Instead, we got late nights of studying and crying after a job that barely pays for our car, food, dorm, and textbooks. We get no social life and if we do our grades suffer for it.

Our 20s were expected to be all fun but all we got were struggles and stress. I mean I don't know about you but I expected, to have it all together and I'm nearly 23 and far from it. I had all the scholarships and great grades, and I still don't have any type of degree.

Reality hits after 18. Most of us don't have the help of mom and dad anymore. We have to find our way and make a path for ourselves. Sometimes our dreams and goals have to be put on hold for that. The 20s isn't fun. It's about discovering who you are, who you want to be, and where you want to go. Some of us serve our country, some become incarcerated, some of us parents, some teachers, others cops, others travel or study abroad, some dead, some ill, other managers, others homeless, some still living home, and some even addicts.

The weird thing about your 20s is everyone is doing something different, but yet everyone is confused and comparing themselves to others. People feel if they're not doing what others are doing, in their age group then they have failed themselves. What people forget is that with life comes obstacles and sacrifice and everyone's life and situations are different. You are where you need to be right now, for you, and I think that's something to remember in your 20s.

Another thing about your 20's is you're free to think for yourself now. No more having to follow a religion you dislike or hold back from things you love. The world is literally yours to discover and learn from. Possibilities are endless! I think your 20's are the years you create yourself to the best version of you and build the foundation for your future. Just remember, we all build at our own pace.


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