4 Sure-Fire Ways To Re-Find Yourself In The New Year

4 Sure-Fire Ways To Re-Find Yourself In The New Year

It's not too late to get back to the old you!

It's that time of year again... The holidays are coming to a close, decorations are being torn down, and we're staring at the face of a long winter that's only just begun. It can be effortless to fall into a funk where you just don't feel much like yourself, and nothing's more frustrating than being mentally disconnected and emotionally checked-out, especially as we embrace the new year!

Here are four sure-fire ways to get back to your old self and make 2018 your best year yet!

1. Log off of social media/get offline

One of the best ways to reclaim your old self is to take a step back from the little screen in your hand every now and then. Studies show that Americans spend 10 hours a day just staring at screens. That means we are spending 41% of our day, constantly consuming media, posting on social media platforms, and aimlessly scrolling through pages and pages of content that may not even be relevant to us. That's not to say that the internet can't be an extremely valuable tool in aiding education and communication, I just think it's important to take into consideration that maybe the constant assessment and comparison of whose profile has the most followers, who takes the best pictures, and who gets the most likes gets to our heads after a while. Give your brain a breather and log off!

2. Spend time with people you can be yourself around

It's easy to lose sight of who you really are when you're constantly wearing a mask for other people. If you feel like you need a reset, perhaps surround yourself with people who make you feel like the most organic version of yourself. Go home, get back to your roots, get lunch with your mom, and take a step back. You may be frazzled and out of sorts, but spending time with the right people could be enough to bring you back down to earth and make you feel like yourself again!

3. Spend some time alone

Though spending time with close family and friends could help pull you out of your slump, spending time alone can be just as beneficial. Spend a day devoted to yourself entirely. Put your phone away and get back to the basics. Exercise. Go for a drive. Buy yourself a new outfit. Do whatever you have to do to feel like yourself! Reflect on your current issues and worries and know that you're in complete control of your own life. Remember that you don't have to be anyone but yourself when you're alone. Sometimes a little time alone is exactly what's need to put your head in the right spot.

4. Take a walk down memory lane

What better way to reconnect with your old self than to reminisce on things and times that remind you of the person you want to be. Try going through some old photo albums, listening to your old favorite songs, or watching your favorite movie from your childhood. You'll find that reflecting on old memories can ignite a desire to go back and claim your true self. Remember that everyone falls into a slump every now and then, just be patient with yourself and always put your mental health first.

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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I Was Sick Of The Dating Scene, So I Started Dating The One Person Who'll Always Be There: Myself

I am fully capable of loving myself in all the right ways.


It's no secret that dating these days is next to impossible. There are so many rules and to-dos and not-to-dos and never-EVER-dos. You have to play the game without being a player and always be three steps ahead while simultaneously falling back, so the person you're into won't know that you're into them.

A headache is what it is.

After getting out of a long-term relationship and being thrown back into the "dating scene" (if you could even call it that), I was totally blindsided and quickly overwhelmed by how messy it was.

After many failed attempts at finding love that only ended in frustration and bewilderment, I decided it was time to do something. I decided I would date myself.

I know, it sounds ridiculous and a little confusing... OK, maybe a lot confusing.

And trust me, it felt even weirder. But I powered through, and I honestly grew so much from my time with myself.

I started out simple. I went to the mall to window shop and treat myself to some Chinese food. It wasn't super weird during the window shopping part because I've frequented malls on my own in the past. After about an hour, I decided to head to the food court. I fought the urge to scroll through my Instagram feed or call a friend because I would never do that on an actual date, and I had to get it into my head that that's what this was.

I got my food (bourbon chicken with the fried rice and green beans, for those of you that were wondering) and I located a vacant table. I sat down, painfully aware of how alone I was and started eating. Slowly, I stopped judging myself by every person's glance my way. It became less weird. And on the drive home, I actually thought to myself how enjoyable the time I spent alone was.

I was ready for things to get a little more serious.

For my next date, I took myself to one of my favorite places in the world: Spruce Street Harbor Park.

Now, at first, I was kind of nervous to do this. A young girl, alone in the city at night. But I swallowed my fears and realized that many people were alone in cities bigger than this all the time. So I paid the parking fare and ventured into my night.

It could not have been more perfect! The weather, the atmosphere, the sights and the food. My favorite place in the world became so much more special to me because for the first time, I wasn't distracted by anything else. I wasn't trying to keep up a witty banter or impress anyone.

Instead, I walked around and took everything in. I developed a new appreciation for not only the views but for myself.

While at first this little experiment of mine had seemed daunting and unsettling, I was now starting to look forward to my dates.

For my third date, I decided to take myself to the movies. This was probably the roughest situation for me. Everyone goes to the movies with someone, it's scientifically proven (I mean, not really, but it's a known fact). But I powered through.

I walked in and purchased my singular ticket, then proceeded to my seat. I got settled in with a Sprite (I had eaten before I came and I'm not really a fan of popcorn) and kicked back. I felt super self-conscious throughout the previews, as everyone else came in pairs or groups or families. I kept my eyes fixated on the screen, and (surprise, surprise) no one gave me a second look.

As the movie began, I got into it like I would any other time in the theater. By the time it was over, I had almost forgotten that I was alone. Even more than that, the word didn't seem to weigh me down anymore.

On my journey home that night, I reflected on what I had learned in the past week. I'd proved to myself how easy dating can be... when done the right way. I also learned that I don't need a relationship to be happy.

I am fully capable of loving myself in all the right ways.

In fact, it's something I want to continue and plan to make a weekly event of.

Dating doesn't have to be complicated, and being alone doesn't have to be so taboo.

There is power in being your own person, and there's even more power in loving that person the way you deserve.

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