4 Ways I Found My Tribe In College

4 Ways I Found My Tribe In College

It's all about finding your people.

Coming to college is a hard transition for anybody. With the new host of classes, the anxious feeling that you don't have enough friends, the expectations to go to the gym and maintain a healthy lifestyle, it can drive you crazy. During my first semester of college, I really struggled to find my group of friends. Without a sorority, I felt lost in how I would possibly find girls with the same personality and values as me. All of these feelings changed once I came to school second semester and met tons of new girls through my sorority. These were girls I had barely known for two weeks, and I was already being my embarrassing, nerdy-self around them. I had not felt this way since August when I said goodbye to my high school best friends. While I could literally be sitting in my room doing nothing with them, here are some of my favorite things to do with my besties here at college.

1. Ice Cream. Always.

No matter your age, you always get excited to hear the ice cream man is coming. Well... in my case this means my friend stopping at C-Club to get me a pint of mint chocolate chip Grater's ice cream and hand delivering it to my room. Call me spoiled, but this

is the best part of my day. And I don't even have any regrets about it.

2. Car Harmonizing

It never matters where we are going, but the aux is always on point. While I like to think my voice is good, the truth is that the music is never low enough for me to actually hear myself... Guess that is a good thing for my friends in the car. The best thing about my friends: we harmonize. Yup, be jealous.

3. #sratlife

Being in the same sorority as my best friends is probably the best thing ever. I always have someone to walk to chapter with, to do homework with at the house, or to shop for cheap party clothes at Forever 21 with. My closet, my free counseling services, and my study buddies have been multiplied because of Alpha Phi, and that's a pretty great thing.

4. Who Needs Boy

We aren't anti-male, but it is great to have some ladies to spend Friday nights with. Sometimes you just need your girl time: no makeup, sweats, and Nicholas Sparks movies. The best part about these girls is that they are always down for a GNO... or a girl's night in!

Making my "group" here at college has been one of the most exciting experiences. It is always scary being uncertain about things, but one thing I have learned being away at college is that sometimes it takes the best things, the longest time to develop. You can't rush a good thing, but hey, if you want to find you're best friends; you CAN rush aphi! ;)

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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