4 Ways I Found My Tribe In College

4 Ways I Found My Tribe In College

It's all about finding your people.

Coming to college is a hard transition for anybody. With the new host of classes, the anxious feeling that you don't have enough friends, the expectations to go to the gym and maintain a healthy lifestyle, it can drive you crazy. During my first semester of college, I really struggled to find my group of friends. Without a sorority, I felt lost in how I would possibly find girls with the same personality and values as me. All of these feelings changed once I came to school second semester and met tons of new girls through my sorority. These were girls I had barely known for two weeks, and I was already being my embarrassing, nerdy-self around them. I had not felt this way since August when I said goodbye to my high school best friends. While I could literally be sitting in my room doing nothing with them, here are some of my favorite things to do with my besties here at college.

1. Ice Cream. Always.

No matter your age, you always get excited to hear the ice cream man is coming. Well... in my case this means my friend stopping at C-Club to get me a pint of mint chocolate chip Grater's ice cream and hand delivering it to my room. Call me spoiled, but this

is the best part of my day. And I don't even have any regrets about it.

2. Car Harmonizing

It never matters where we are going, but the aux is always on point. While I like to think my voice is good, the truth is that the music is never low enough for me to actually hear myself... Guess that is a good thing for my friends in the car. The best thing about my friends: we harmonize. Yup, be jealous.

3. #sratlife

Being in the same sorority as my best friends is probably the best thing ever. I always have someone to walk to chapter with, to do homework with at the house, or to shop for cheap party clothes at Forever 21 with. My closet, my free counseling services, and my study buddies have been multiplied because of Alpha Phi, and that's a pretty great thing.

4. Who Needs Boy

We aren't anti-male, but it is great to have some ladies to spend Friday nights with. Sometimes you just need your girl time: no makeup, sweats, and Nicholas Sparks movies. The best part about these girls is that they are always down for a GNO... or a girl's night in!

Making my "group" here at college has been one of the most exciting experiences. It is always scary being uncertain about things, but one thing I have learned being away at college is that sometimes it takes the best things, the longest time to develop. You can't rush a good thing, but hey, if you want to find you're best friends; you CAN rush aphi! ;)

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A Letter To My Best Friend On Valentine's Day

Because you are my ultimate Valentine.

To my beautiful best friend,

Warning: This letter is about to get extremely cheesy. I am talking four cheese lasagna cheesy. But no one deserves a love letter like this more than you do.

This Valentine’s Day, I want to express my love for you. On this wondrous occasion with which most people express their love to their significant other, I want to tell you, my best friend, how much I cherish our friendship.

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You are the ultimate love of my life. Boys have come and gone but you remain a constant; for that I am grateful. You have been there for me when my family could not be; for that I am grateful. You have been my backbone, my rock, and all those other clichés people use to describe the people they care about, and yet you have been so much more than that as well; for that I am grateful.

All my love this Valentine’s Day goes out to you, my friend, because you do not receive it enough. You have picked me up out of the dirt, brushed me off, and kissed my wounds more times than I can count, and I will never be able to thank you enough for that, but I am sure am going to try.

Thank you for the midnight cries. Thank you for the midnight laughs. Thank you for ordering way too much food with me and still just eating it all. Thank you for the advice, both solicited and unsolicited. Thank you for telling me what I need to hear, even when it isn’t what I want to hear. Thank you for the silly pictures. Thank you for the stupid inside jokes. Thank you for making bad decisions with me. Thank you for laughing with me and laughing at me. Thank you for the endless memories.

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More than anything, I want you to know that I love you. I love you. You are the family I get to choose, the one I go to when I have nowhere else to turn. You are the one I know I can always run to, whether we saw each other yesterday or haven’t seen each other in a year. You have played a part in molding who I am as a person, and I am so grateful for having such an amazing person affecting my life in such a positive way.

With all the love in my heart,

Your friend
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To My Best Friend At A Rival University

No amount of school rivalry could ever change our friendship.


In high school, we were practically inseparable- you and I and all of our friends. Even though we saw each other every day during the week (when both of us decided to actually go to school, at least; senioritis was real and it was rough), we usually saw each other at least once over the weekend, whether it be a coffee date at Starbucks, a sleepover, or a trip to the movies.

We would go on spontaneous trips to the local ice cream shop (for us, it was Twistee Treat) far too often for our own good. We spent so many summer days at theme parks, followed by sleepovers that consisted of painting each other's nails, baking break-and-bake cookies, and falling asleep in the middle of 'Men in Black.'

Now, we attend rival universities. The stories we share involve names and places foreign to the other. We each have friends that know us apart from one another. Some days, we hardly get a moment to talk, other than sending funny memes back and forth through Instagram.

Though it may seem like being away at rival schools would hurt our friendship, I think it's only made us closer.

When I come to visit you (or you visit me), we always make the most of our time, knowing that it's limited. We often do the same things we would've done at home, but in new locations, which makes it even more fun. Sometimes, I wish we would've chosen the same school- because having your best friend with you, sharing new experiences is always better than not- but I know we're each happy where we are. We're making new friends and new memories, which makes for new stories to share with one another.

I know that I can share anything with you without fear of judgment, and I think you know the same.

Even though we can't just stop by unannounced anymore, planning weekend trips to visit one another is still really fun.

Sure, we go to rival universities and we will never agree on whose school is superior, but in the grand scheme, it doesn't even matter. Your school is extremely lucky to have you and in my eyes, you are what makes it great.

No matter the distance, no matter how strong the rivalry between our schools, you will always be my best friend and the memories we've cultivated throughout our friendship will never be forgotten. I can't promise I'll wear your school colors again (that was a one-time thing and does not diminish my love and respect for my school!), but I can promise that you'll always have a friend in me.

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