I am seeing so many articles, tweets, Facebook posts, and everything else you can imagine that center around how the game Fortnite is 'ruining' relationships. They usually claim it is ruining relationships because boyfriends from across the world are spending more time playing the game than they are spending time paying attention to them.
I am seeing girls say that their boyfriend is cheating on them with Fortnite and some are claiming to be victims of the game, dubbing themselves "Fortnite widows."
Girls are putting out petitions to make their men stop playing even.
All of these claims that Fortnite is the reason that relationships are having issues seems wildly inaccurate.
If your boyfriend is playing around and you are just watching and twiddling your thumbs wondering when he's going to get off the game and pay attention to you, then that is a relationship problem caused by the fact that your boyfriend isn't respecting your time or your feelings.
That is not the games fault.
It is your man's fault for not considering how you are feeling and what you want.
Fortnite is not "dangerous" or "toxic." It is a game.
And for the girls out there, you are not 'crazy' or needy for wanting your boyfriend to pay attention to you; you are a normal female and it is not your 'raging hormones' that make you feel this way. If your boyfriend can't understand that you want to spend quality time with him and actually talk rather than sit there and watch him lose yet another match then there is a clear lack of communication in your relationship.
Seriously, if he wants to play his game instead of spending time with you, then his priorities are messed up, which has nothing to do with the game.
If your man is not crazy about you and doesn't want to spend time with you and would rather play his game, then maybe it is time to find a new boyfriend.
But, if you want your boyfriend's attention to be on you, instead of a screen and are willing to compromise, then a talk needs to be had.
My boyfriend loves to play Fortnite just like the millions of other boys out there, but we have never let it lead to any kind of dispute.
He plays when I am just hanging out with him doing my own thing, such as writing an article or doing my makeup. He rarely does it when he knows it is time to just have some quality time together.
In fact, I tried the game to see why people were raging over it and I discovered that it was quite fun and now we take turns playing or play together.
It doesn't have to be between choosing a video game and your relationship for guys. It shouldn't be. But, you showing interest in something that matters to him can go a long way.
You know your boyfriend may wait for you while you are shopping, getting your nails done, or doing your makeup? It's similar in a way. He is patiently waiting for you while you are doing something that you enjoy so that you guys can spend time together, even if it is something he doesn't want to do, so why can't you do the same?
Try and show some interest in something that matters to your boyfriend a lot, like he does for you. You never know, you may even enjoy it as I did. I liked it so much that I played until I got a win, which is featured as the cover photo for this article.
Just remember that Fortnite is a game and that if it is causing issues in your relationship then there is probably an issue deeper rooted than just him spending too much time on his video game.
Fortnite is not 'another lady' in his life. You are his lady and while you shouldn't have to compete with a video game, there is no one else to blame except for one or both of you guys.