You Can Forgive, But You Can't Always Forget
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You Can Forgive, But You Can't Always Forget

When people wrong you, it can be really hard to let it go, especially if it has happened so many times.

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Some people are usually very open and forgiving. I happen to be one of those people. It can be a blessing and a curse. I'm nice, but am I too nice? Should I be used to the letdowns and the grudges?

That is a firm no.

Coming from the girl who has been through the gauntlet of forgiveness hundreds of times, you can trust me when I say that it will be okay. The pain is the worst. Your mind will not shut up about it, no matter how horrible and gut-wrenching the deed was. In time, though, it will get better, and you'll actually get over it. It seems so tough in the beginning, but you'll realize that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Let me give you some simple advice that you can choose to take or ignore, up to you. You can forgive anybody for anything you choose, but you don't have to forget what they did to you.

Personally, I think it is better to be forgiving to others. Life does go on. Some of these letdowns will come from strangers, so you may not even be phased by it. But I hate to break it to you that other letdowns will be from the people you know, or maybe the people you are close with.

That's why it can have the potential to really hurt.

Don't be afraid to forgive almost all the time. Don't listen to others when they try to tell you that forgiveness is limited. You can do what you want, but you don't have to have those restrictions.

When people wrong you, it can be really hard to let it go, especially if it has happened so many times. I have run into that issue, trying to figure out why I'm holding a giant grudge for nothing. I don't know why I let it bother me.

Don't let it bother you.

Maya Angelou once said, "At the end of the day, people won't remember what you said or did. They will remember how you made them feel." Take that to your advantage, but don't abuse it. Always be the bigger and better person.

It's always the right thing to do.

You can forgive all you want, but that doesn't mean you have to forget it.

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