There are times in everyone's life when they stop and think, "Why am I doing this?" Not to mention the countless similar questions that come up in our day-to-day lives. The truth of the matter is that we get ourselves into situations we don't want to be in, without even knowing how we got there. And definitely without knowing how to get out.
One of the most common reasons for this scenario seems to be that we don't know our own worth. We end up letting other factors determine how we see ourselves and how the world sees us.
We lose touch with who we really are and what we will stand for.
I am not a confrontational person, which means that you can wrong me, hurt me, or just not treat me with the respect I deserve way too long before I will bring it up.
I "people please" and as a phenomenon, it needs to stop.
Regardless of the specific scenario at hand, family disagreements, a toxic relationship, a grueling job, people need to take a second and take stock of what role they play in it all.
Are you being taken advantage of? If so, why? What can you do to stop it?
The first step is to acknowledge it, but the immediate next one should be to tell someone how you feel about the situation. If there is a blatantly unfair and/or wrong issue at work, you need to decide if it is just an inevitable result, or if you are being put into this situation through other factors.
This isn't the first time it has been said that you need to love yourself before you can love someone else, nor will it be the last, but if you think about it, doesn't that apply to more than just romantic relationships?
You need to know, love, and understand yourself before you devote yourself to a person, an argument, an opinion, a job…. the list goes on and on.
It is when we forget that self-love and understanding that we start getting put into these kinds of situations.
So, please, for the love of everything (but mostly yourself), take a second and really think about where you are in life. Are there any aspects of your life that sound similar to the above issues? If so, don't just brush them off.
You are worth more than a half-hearted "I love you," the angry and mean words you're called, and/or the unprofessional disrespect you're forced to deal with.
No, this doesn't necessarily mean that you have to remove yourself from the situation (or in certain cases maybe you should), this necessity for realization means that you have the ability to make things better, just by speaking up for yourself.
You freaking deserve better! Understand that, then live like it.
This is just the start, but it can be the hardest part. Respect and self-love can easily get lost in the daily struggles and issues of life. Sometimes it feels too late by the time you notice just how bad it has gotten.
Please, keep this in mind. Don't sell yourself short, and remember that you're worth it, regardless of what "it" is to you.