How do I say no to a commitment or a person, when I said yes in the first place? How do I say no when all my friends are involved? How?
Saying no is hard. You might pride yourself on your ability to tell people no and turn something down. However, if you’re like me, I have a difficult time saying no.
Why?
Because I want to be a person who can do everything and still function. Unfortunately, that’s not how people are meant to work. I think we are meant to immerse ourselves in two or three clubs, one theatre production, or one to two jobs.
We can’t put our all into everything.
Putting our all into too many things is impossible because there are only so many hours in the day.
Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about commitments, especially those commitments that say you will only put int 6 hours a week but it ends up being 12 hours. We started talking about how important self care is.
To be able to put in 100% to a commitment, you have to be fully there yourself.
It’s vital that you take care of yourself before putting school, clubs, or jobs before your health. Today, we talk about health so much and mental health because we are the generation that is finally understanding the importance.
Mentally + Physically Healthy You = 100% Commitment
Sometimes we get in over our head with commitments and the idea of saying no or backing out is terrifying because all our friends are in it or our parents raised us to be annoying, committed, overachievers. But, I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to back out of a commitment, especially if it’s because of your self care. Too often we believe that people back out of things because it’s too hard or they just don’t care anymore and we don’t think about how mental health and our health is a valid reason.
You are more important than the commitment you made.