I don't know when it'll happen. I'm just as curious as you, but the only difference is, I'm not constantly asking. There are a few reasons why, and I never hesitate to say them. It's important for me to be just as honest with him as I am with you, so here it goes.

I don't know when I'll get engaged. I don't feel like I should pressure him to do it, and I don't feel like you should either. Our current situation-whatever you want to call it- works for us right now, and quite frankly is all that really matters to me. If that means we live in this house with no rings on our finger for the next few days, months, or years- then okay. I'm not going to question when he feels the right time is because that moment when he actually does ask me, I know it's time & I only want that "special time" to come from him. Not you.. not me.

I think about the day that he will ask me, rather frequently. But never once do I feel entitled, like he should ask me around this time because, well you know, we've been together for a while. I don't feel like I deserve it because we live together. And I surely don't think you'll encourage him enough to ask me just by consistently bombarding him with when he's going to "pop the question".

I'm not worried that you'll scare him away, I believe our love is much stronger than that. I actually don't want him to be asked nor I because I want that moment to feel so surreal. I can tell you how it won't, and that's if anyone else makes him feel rushed or pressured. Girls dream about the day where that one guy gets down on one knee and asks her to spend the rest of her life with him, and I don't know about anybody else but I don't want the little voice inside my head to be saying he felt pressured or obligated.

From the bottom of my heart, I don't find it necessary for anyone to ask anyone when they plan on getting engaged. Just let it happen for the both of us. Let us get a handle on all the other stuff we have going on, let us take it as slow or as quickly as we want to. And when the day comes when he does ask me to be his wife and I say yes, I promise you all will know whenever that time comes.

I never understood why it was so important to everyone else to try and get to the bottom of when another couple will tie the knot. "So when do you feel like you guys will get married?" It's probably one of the most overwhelming questions I've ever been asked in my life. When will I turn from a miss to Mrs.? When will it be not frowned upon for us to start having children? When will older people finally accept that I'm allowed to live with my boyfriend before agreeing to be his wife or after stating the Vows.. you see I have questions too, but out of respect for you and myself I don't ask them.

At the risk of sounding unappreciative to those who actually do care, please know I mean nothing offensively, there are just some questions I would rather not be asked 24/7 365.

No matter what point of your relationship you're in with your significant other, somebody else will always have an opinion on whether you should or should not be getting married. "They've only been dating for six months, why are they engaged?".. Or "they hit that two year milestone, it should be any day now." Why? Why are some of you so against two people knowing that they want to spend the rest of their life with one another and are ready for the commitment? Even if that means they've only dated a few months. And why are the same people wondering why that other girl isn't getting married to her boyfriend of over two years. In different minds we see different outcomes, but that doesn't mean we can't respect the ones who feel the opposite.

I am undoubtedly feeling the pressure in my 20s. A lot of people are getting engaged early on, and that's fine for them, we just decided to take it a bit slower. Thinking about all the money we will have to spend on a wedding let alone the drinks for my entire family--Who trust me is able to out drink them all-is such an overwhelming thought that I'd rather just not think about right now.

It's not that I'm not excited for this day to come, but thinking about everything leading up to it and everything that follows after makes me incredibly anxious. That thought on top of the thousand of other things that I have to go through right now in my 20s, while getting settled into my first place of my own, with my all of my own responsibilities, job, car, bills, and education to worry about, just doesn't leave room for much else right now.

I don't mind answering questions about my relationship, and there quite a few other ones for you to ask. Here, I'll try a few with you,

"How is it living with your boyfriend?"

"You two look really cute together, are you happy?"

"Does he treat you well?"

"Do you treat him well..?"

Ask me those questions, and then ask yourself one too. Is it really worth knowing? What's the difference if I get married today, tomorrow, a year from now, or five. Will it really make that much of a difference in your life to know that I'm guaranteed a husband at some point in time?

Sometimes when I'm standing there with my boyfriend and somebody asks "so when are you going to make her your wife", I just want to dive right in and say--"you know what that thought can wait, because as of right now we're both really happy with where things are going". He handles it well, smiles, and says "someday". To which we hear the very annoying reply of..."someday soon? Or Someday later?"

You see I'm a lucky girl, and I'm sure there are many of you out there that feel the same. When you know you found the one but you don't want him or yourself to feel any pressure to ask or be asked a question that will change the rest of your life. We feel nervous enough thinking about him asking the question, we don't need any more of you to ask it too.

Please stop asking me when I'll be engaged, the time will come for me when it's right, and I think it would be better for the both of us if we just left it up to fate.

Wouldn't you agree?