For the Girl Learning to Love & Live Again

For the Girl Learning to Love & Live Again

'Be unapologetically you. Be fearless.'

This isn't you. This cold-hearted, closed off girl. You don't put up walls, you don't knit-pick. Who are you? Where's your old self? Did you leave her with him? Why? There is so much life ahead of you and so many others to meet. Why close yourself off? We all have scars, yours make you beautiful.

Stop selling yourself short. Making little excuses for why people enjoy your company, personality, looks. You are beautiful. You are funny. You are smart. You are you. People do like you for you. Not what you have to offer. Don't let those old mind games rule you. You're so much more than your past.

Since when did you start hiding that smile with a stoic grin? Remember those times you used to smile from ear to ear? Remember how happy you were then? Let yourself have those times again. Belly laugh when you feel it coming. Let your abs hurt from the late night conversations with the people who truly care about you.

I'm proud of you. The woman you've become. The woman you will be. You should be proud, too. The progress you've made is unspeakable. You've learned to love yourself. Your curves, your freckles, your odd tendencies, your crooked smile, your childlike laugh. So why not let others love you, too? It's not as scary as you make it seem.

One person doesn't define an entire population. You're letting your scars cage you within a box. A box of fear, timidness, and self-doubt. Stop. Life was made to take risks. Put yourself out there. Take every opportunity offered to you. Flaunt that smile, that confidence, that knowledge, the body you spend hours in the gym working to achieve, and be fearless.

Take life by the reigns and give it all you have. We only have one chance at this and who knows how much time we have? You've spent most of your life within your comfort zone and the box others confined you to. That's not you anymore, and that's a good thing. So what are you waiting for?

Picture yourself traveling to all the places you've always wanted, go on all those spontaneous day trips with your friends, make the first move and talk to those new people you see at every party. This isn't you giving up your morals or changing who you are. This is you growing, don't let anyone try to stunt that.

Be unapologetically you. Be fearless.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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You Don't Need A 'Bikini Body' To Fully Love Yourself This Summer

You don't need to be stick-thin to feel good about your body.


One of my favorite quotes of all time is, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Want to know why? Because it's true.

I could look in the mirror one day and feel totally confident about myself. Then I'll see a post on Instagram of some beautiful girl, feel awful, and wonder why I don't look like that. But there's a reason I don't look like that — because I'm me, not them.

The fact of the matter is that we need to love ourselves for who we are. We need to stop comparing our beauty to that of others. We are all our own people and we should feel confident in our beauty.

Bikini season is a major source of struggle for me and many others. Everyone is lounging on the beach in bikinis and you feel like you just want to hide under your towel. Every other photo on your social media is a super skinny girl from high school showing off her body. You will NEVER see a photo of me in a bikini on social media because I'm simply not comfortable in my body enough to show it off like that. I have always wished that I was, but at the same time, that's not who I am.

You don't need to be stick thin to feel good about your body. Every body is beautiful, and we need to embrace that. If we constantly look to others as a source of comparison, we will literally never be happy in our own skin.

Bikini season is tough as it is, don't make it tougher on yourself by allowing your mind to take over. Enjoy your spring break, enjoy your summer, enjoy your life. You deserve it. You deserve happiness.

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