To My Future Husband, Here Are 5 Things I Want You To Know

To My Future Husband, Here Are 5 Things I Want You To Know

These are the things I want in a marriage.

This is for my future husband, whoever you may be.

Hi sweetheart, I’m 19 years old writing this. I know its early to be thinking about marriage, but, I was looking for inspiration to write and I thought of you. I thought of what our marriage would be life. I thought of all the things I want and I hope you would want too. I know we will have differences in opinion, but there are some things I see essential to a marriage. These are important. Not only are will they bring you closer to the enigma that is women, but, they will give insight to who I am as a woman, a leader, a princess and, of course, your wife.

1. Please, darling, respect and encourage the maintenance and wants of us women.

We aren’t spoiled or prissy for splurging on the services that keep us to be as radiant as we are. Us women want our hair snipped and our feet soaked. We deserve elegant clothing and jewelry that glistens in the sun. We love fine food and a variety of culture that opens our souls. Now, I understand that not every person has the luxury of enjoying some of life’s perks. However, if we are lucky enough to be able to indulge, please, allow me.

2. We love to listen and learn.

As much as us women love to share our views and our secrets, we want to hear yours even more. We need to know the wheels are turning in your head. We want to see that you recognize the world around you and question it beyond its face value. We want you to elevate us in intellectual ways. Read, watch and absorb everything and anything. Our husbands are supposed to see life with us. You can add so much to what we see on a daily basis, so, speak up! I’m not only marrying you for your devilish looks, I marrying your brain too.

3. Respect is essential.

Through the inevitable fights, the “silent treatments” and the tears, respect will be the staple of our marriage. That is the only way it will survive. If we don’t respect each other what’s the point? This entails all arguments, all adversities and all differences in the marriage. We must be a unit. A unit can face the world together and tackle anything. All decisions must require both of our approval: no lying or secrets. If we respect each other not only will that ensure any issue can be resolved, but, it will keep our marriage together, forever.

4. Support us at our highs and lows.

Do not wait for me to lose my job and to gain five pounds of depression weight. I want support when I am peaking in my career, life and looks. I want encouragement and genuine interest in my passions and work. I want you to care just as much as I do and when I face failure I need a push. I need you to see the potential I have to be the best when I can’t see it myself.

5. We love to be loved.

Any woman just want’s the person they want, to want them back. It’s simple. So even after years of marriage, and plenty of hardships, we still want you. We want to know that you still want us too, so, remind us. Flowers, dinner, kisses, cuddles and hugs does all that. Why humans tend to take such amazing things for granted; I guess it’s a part of our nature? However, a marriage needs constant reminders of why it exists. Physical and emotional connection is key to keeping the love alive. So every now and then come home with a rose or a kiss. We will love both just the same.

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What Do You Do When Tragedy Strikes Your Former Home?

In my desperate attempt to figure this out, I'm writing about it.


On November 8th, I woke up with a voicemail from my mom. It went a little like this,

"Hey, it's Momma. I'm sorry it's really early your time, but I wanted to have you hear from me before you got the news on. There was a mass shooting in Thousand Oaks last night at a country bar about ten minutes from where our house was in Moorpark. There are 12 people dead, the shooter is dead, and a cop. It was college night at the bar, so anyone over 18 could go in. There were students from multiple colleges there, that's all they know so far. It's just horrible." And so on. I made it about halfway through the voicemail before I pulled out my laptop.

A thousand thoughts ran through my mind. This is what is referred to as one of the safest towns in America. This town was a short drive away from my home in Moorpark. These people are mostly my age. Then, the worst one occurred to me. What if when they display the victims' pictures, I recognize a face?

According to USAToday, the Thousand Oaks shooting is the 307th shooting on the 311th day of 2018. Are we supposed to allow ourselves to be desensitized to this gun violence? I sure hope not. I'll save you the agony of listening to how the rest of my day went. Long story short, I watched the news and cried more than I'd like to admit.

As the day carried on, I watched the pictures come up on my computer screen. I scrolled through social media and looked at my friend's posts of their friends being safe. Somehow, that did not calm me down. I watched the victim's faces pop up one by one on my laptop, and I listened to the stories.

All country music lovers, all college students, all heroes who helped save the lives of others before they lost their own. It was not until Friday that I realized I did recognize one of the faces. I logged onto my Facebook to get rid of a notification, and there it was. A picture of my childhood swim coaches, and Noel Sparks. Now, I understand that it's been years, but that doesn't make it any better. Each victim of the shooting had so much more life to be lived, and my heart breaks for each one of them. I send all of my love to the family, friends, and everyone affected by the Borderline shooting.

Not even a day later, there was news of a fire that is rapidly spreading. According to CBS News, The Woolsey fire has burned 98,362 acres of land and is only about 57% contained. While this fire has only 3 confirmed fatalities, the second fire that is burning in California has taken the lives of 56 people and burned 140,000 acres of land. I can spit out as many facts as my fingers can research, but it doesn't change the fact that my heart aches for my former home. When all of this tragedy happens and I'm 1,835 miles away, I have never felt so helpless. I donated to the victim's families, but I have not found a way to make sense of this in my mind. Why do these things happen? There's no concrete answer to this question, so am I going to wonder it forever?

If you would like to find a place to donate to the Borderline victims' families, click here. If you would like to find a place to donate to the victims' of the fires, click here.

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