Waiting for Godly man

Why I Would Wait For A Man Who Shares My Love For God

I'd be more than happy to wait for him to come along.
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Ever since I can remember, I have dreamed of meeting a good guy and being in a stable relationship by the time I graduated college. I thought that was a normal thing and expected to meet my guy early on in my college career. Unbeknownst to me, I was very wrong. Most girls don't even know a good man by the time they graduate, let alone commit to them. I have been on my fair share of dates and experienced a few long-term relationships, but I have yet to find my forever. But for a guy like him... I'll happily wait.

For a man who will never treat me the way others have...

Women are special creatures. We're all different... but we all need love and support. I've met guys who blatantly insult my faith. I've met guys who only want to get into my pants. I've met guys who think I'm just a toy to be played around with then thrown away. These are not the men I've dreamed of. I will wait for the man who will never treat me the way those guys did. I will wait for the man who knows I am a princess and treats me as such. Women are not toys. We have emotions and feelings just like guys do and we are probably more in tune with our emotions than guys are. Stop treating us like crap. Stop acting like you're so much better than us. Stop playing with us and treat us with the respect we deserve.

For a man who pursues God with vigor...

The relationship I will always care the most about is my relationship with God. I will wait for the man who shares that value with me. My Father comes first, then my love life. I will wait for the man who feels the same way. No more messing around with these lower case c Christians that only go to Church to make Mommy and Daddy happy. I will wait for the man who can't wait to walk through the church doors with me every week as we worship our Lord God Almighty.

For a man who loves me because of my past...

Every person on this Earth has a past. We have memories and experiences, good and bad, happy and sad. With each experience, we grow as a person and learn from our mistakes. We learn from prior relationships and adapt to a new way of doing things. We've all been hurt in our past and we've all made mistakes. Therefore, I will wait for the man who knows every second of my past and loves me because of it. I don't need a man in my life who is afraid of a little pain and hurt. I need a man that knows that hard times produce wisdom and grace. My past is just that and I have learned from it just as I hope he has learned from his.

For this man, I will wait.

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The Truth About Dating A Girl With An Anxiety Disorder

She knows how annoying she can be, but she just prays you love her regardless of her flaws.

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Anxiety: A nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.

The definition makes it sound really daunting. Truthfully, there is no one way to describe generalized anxiety disorder if you have it. It is hard to live with, hard to cope with and unfortunately, really hard to date with.

Girls with anxiety are different than the average girl when it comes to relationships. That's just an honest statement, no matter how much it hurts me to say it.

We need the constant reminder that you love us, even though we know in our hearts that you do. We panic when you don't answer your phone, in fear that we did something wrong. We care about your feelings when you say that we don't need to worry and we need to be a little calmer. But it's so damn hard.

It isn't easy to love someone who worries about everything 24/7. Half the time, we know we shouldn't be doing the things we do. We know we shouldn't blow up your phone or ask just one more time if you are mad at us. But we can't help it. It says it right in the definition: compulsive behavior due to excessive uneasiness.

Being with a girl with anxiety is probably downright exhausting. It's exhausting for us to have our minds constantly running and worrying. But I promise it's worth it.

We come to you with everything because you are the one person who always knows how to make us feel better. When we are happy, you are the one person we want to be happy with. We all know the constant reassurance, reminders and the same old arguments get old. It gets old to us too.

There was never a time I wanted to have a panic attack because my boyfriend wasn't answering his phone. In my head, I knew where he was because he was usually in the same three places. I knew he wasn't mad at me because I didn't do anything to make him upset. I knew how busy he was with his classes and he was probably studying and I needed to give him space. But the little voice in my head always argued, "What if you did something wrong? What if he's ignoring you because he's angry? What if he's seen your messages and calls, but no longer wants to be with you?" And then I give in. I call, I text, I cry, I panic. Only to feel even worse 10, 30 or 50 minutes later because you answer angrily, telling me what I already knew after I did what I knew I shouldn't have done.

Having anxiety is almost like having a drug addiction. You know all the things that trigger you. You know all the ways to stay away from the bad places in your mind so you don't end up relapsing. But you do anyway and it hurts worse every single time.

Dating a girl with anxiety is as hard as it gets, but she will love you like no other. She is so incredibly thankful for all the things you put up with to be with her. Because she is worried about being loved, she goes the extra mile to always remind you how much you are loved. She always asks if you are ok because she cares about the answer and knows what it's like not to be ok.

The truth is that dating anybody with anxiety is difficult, but it isn't impossible. You get back everything you put in, even though you may not realize it. Trust me, she is sorry for being the annoying, crying, worried, naggy mess and it embarrasses her because she knows better and she wants to be better for you. But please love her. Hold her, understand her, listen to her, calm her, be there for her. In your heart, you know she would turn around and do all the same things for you in a heartbeat.

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7 Things To Remember When You're Sad About Being Single

I don't need a significant other, I have my significant self.

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Let's stop the stigma around being single. Those who aren't in a relationship are not "weak," "missing out," "lonely," etc. We're doing just fine on our own, honey. There may be many plus sides of being in a relationship such as having a cuddle buddy, someone who, without a doubt, will always buy you food, or sharing your love for in each other in endless, cute ways. Buuuuttt... let's not forget these reasons why being single can be so amazing!

1. You save money 

Less shopping for you on Valentine's Day, birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc. SAVE THAT MONEY, HONEY!

2. You can flirt with whoever you want...

...for the most part, at least. Definitely not if they already have a significant other. But now, you don't have to feel guilty for having googly eyes for someone else!

3. You can completely unplug whenever 

You don't have to worry about constantly keeping tabs on someone. No more answering to someone's every call. You can go completely tech-free whenever!

4. You have more time...

...to find yourself, love yourself, and put yourself first. Also, just more time to watch Netflix and hang with family and friends.

5. You are saying goodbye to heartbreak 

No one can breakup with you if you're single, #facts.

6. Everything you do is for yourself 

Decision making can be hard as it is, so making decisions that benefit you AND another person can be draining. Now, you don't have to worry about making someone else happy.

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