It seems as if nowadays every girl is in a relationship, posting adorable Instagram pictures with their S/O, or holding hands oh-so in love in public. Deep down, you wish you had that and it feels like you won't ever have that.
Society nowadays emphasizes the idea of a relationship to the greatest extent. You can constantly see people sharing things on Facebook about what their ideal relationship looks like based on a tweet or how they want their future to look like. All this sounds intimidating and scary but it doesn't have to be that way.
Before you get yourself into a relationship, you need to ask yourself if you are ready for one. A relationship isn't just pretty flowers and romantic dates, there is an effort to be made, where tears are going to be shed, anger will be felt, and work needs to be put in.
If you're like me, you probably desire a relationship until you snap out of it and realize you are looking for a long-term relationship where marriage and family are on the horizon. And honestly, I'd rather wait a little longer than to be stuck with someone when I could be working on myself and discovering myself as a woman.
I think that a lot of the times when relationships go wrong is when something in us or in the other person isn't fully resolved. Meaning, that there are broken people who get into relationships without healing a wound from their past nor do they fix their anger or trust issues. Or simply, they just want to live life to the fullest and explore their options in life. As a result, they end up breaking their own and the other person's heart with more work to put in.
This may sound controversial, but you shouldn't find a partner so they can have the responsibility of fixing your flaws. It is your job to find peace of mind whether it's through therapy, self-care, spending time alone or spending time with the people you love.
Before looking for a relationship, analyze yourself and your flaws. I can't expect a great relationship when I am still clinging to my ex or I'm a crazy jealous girlfriend. People don't like that and no matter how much it may be fetishized by some, it's toxic and useless.
My point here is that you need to prepare yourself for what a relationship brings. It's not always flowers and romantic dates as mentioned before, there is the ugly stuff as well. Are you ready to deal with that?
Always remember, put yourself first before getting into a relationship. You may love the other person, but you have to love yourself more in order for things to work out.
And if you're like me and you're thinking long term, I'd say it's best to wait. I know I have a plethora of things to work on and I don't want to drag my partner into my issues.
So girl, don't feel bad if you're single. Things happen for a reason and God/the universe/a higher being may just be aiding you in the right direction and saving you for the right person. Also, don't base off people's happiness with what they post on social media. Everyone has their own set of problems and not everything is as it seems.
Now go put a face mask on, treat yourself, and think about your next move on how you're going to rock the world!