Rather Than Complaining Today, Think Of Everything That You're Grateful For

Rather Than Complaining Today, Think Of Everything That You're Grateful For

Praise yourself for what you've accomplished and smile about everything going right.

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Complaining is a hard habit to break. It doesn't take much effort and it actually has a pay off (in the short term). You get to feed your ego and ditch all responsibility for your own happiness, success, and well-being. Haven't had any luck finding a job? Complain. There must be something wrong with the hiring managers. Is there a long wait time at the restaurant you just got to? Complain. Obviously, the workers are too slow and incompetent. Got a speeding ticket on your way home? Complain. Clearly, that police officer has nothing else better to do with their life than badger you.

What happens when we complain, though, is that we weigh ourselves down with negativity, regret, and a general dissatisfaction with our lives. We harp on what we don't have, what we did wrong, or what others did wrong to us. We forget to think about everything that we do have, what we did right, and things that others have done to help us. Most importantly, we forget to be thankful. And truthfully, there is always something to be thankful for, especially when others have it much worse.

Haven't had any luck finding a job? That sucks, but at least you still have some money saved up. Long wait time at the restaurant you just got to? That sucks, but you and your friends can bond while you're waiting. Got a speeding ticket on your way home? That sucks, but at least you got home safely. It's okay to be sad, upset, hurt, or angry -- we shouldn't try to mask our emotions behind fake optimism; however, we should always try to see the good in our situations, not because we're playing 'misery Olympics' and since there are people dying of cancer, we should never be upset about what we face in our daily lives, but simply because being grateful feels good. It keeps us happy and helps us extend that same grace to others.

If you're feeling bitter today, think of South Sudan. According to Oxfam International, "This year's harvests [in South Sudan] will be poor or non-existent for many, this is an extremely worrying sign for the long dry months ahead. 4.8 million people — nearly half of the population — are facing extreme hunger." South Sudan has had a tough break since the onset of their civil war, which started in December 2013. More than 4 years of constant battle has destroyed their economy and threatened the lives of many, causing over 1 million South Sudanese people to flee the country, opting to go to neighboring countries such as Uganda and Ethiopia. In an article from Panntv, Nyabolli Chok, a local South Sudanese woman, reminisces about how she was unable to feed her three children, causing them to ultimately leave the country. "We were eating leaves off of trees," she cries.

Now, I don't know about you, but I think I'd rather have one hundred speeding tickets than to have to eat leaves off of trees. I don't know about you, but I'm pretty damn glad that the worst tragedy I've experienced this summer is having my study abroad plans fall through (long live the RU screw). When I think about the children in South Sudan that are hungry and in poverty, and the parents that feel like shit because they can't do anything to provide for their kids, I don't have it in me to complain. I don't have it in me to dwell on life's bumps and obstacles; because let's face it, we all have them, but we have the power to not let them control our thoughts and feelings.

If you're feeling bitter today, think of what you're grateful for. Praise yourself for what you've accomplished and smile about everything going right. And most of all, don't forget to help others.

If you'd like to support South Sudanese People, you can donate to a few organizations I trust, like Africare, American Refugee Committee, and International Rescue Committee.

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A Love Letter To The Girl Who Cares Too Much About Everyone But Herself

You, the girl with a heart full of love and no place big enough to store it all.

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Our generation is so caught up in this notion that it's "cool" not to care about anything or anyone. I know you've tried to do just that.

I'm sure there was a brief moment where you genuinely believed you were capable of not caring, especially since you convinced everyone around you that you didn't. But that just isn't true, is it? Don't be ashamed of this, don't let anyone ridicule you for having emotions.

After everything life has put you through, you have still remained soft.

This is what makes you, you. This is what makes you beautiful. You care so deeply and love so boldly and it is incredible, never let the world take this from you.

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You are the girl who will give and give and give until you have absolutely nothing left. Some may see this as a weakness, an inconvenience, the perfect excuse to walk all over you. I know you try to make sense of it all, why someone you cared so much about would treat you the way they did.

You'll make excuses for them, rationalize it and turn it all around on yourself.

You'll tell yourself that maybe just maybe they will change even though you know deep down they won't. You gave them everything you had and it still feels as if they took it all and ran. When this happens, remind yourself that you are not a reflection of those who cannot love you. The way that people treat you does not define who you are. Tell yourself this every day, over and over until it sticks. Remind yourself that you are gold, darling, and sometimes they will prefer silver and that is OK.

I know you feel guilty when you have to say no to something, I know you feel like you are letting everyone you love down when you do. Listen to me, it is not your responsibility to tend to everyone else's feelings all the time. By all means, treat their feelings with care, but remember it is not the end of the world when you cannot help them right away.

Remember that it is OK to say no.

You don't have to take care of everyone else all the time. Sometimes it's OK to say no to lunch with your friends and just stay home in bed to watch Netflix when you need a minute for yourself. I know sometimes this is much easier said than done because you are worried about letting other people down, but please give it a try.

With all of this, please remember that you matter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love and patience and kindness and everything that you have given everyone else. It is OK to think about and put yourself first. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You are so incredibly loved even when it doesn't feel like it, please always remember that. You cannot fill others up when your own cup is empty. Take care of yourself.

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14 Ways For Badass Women To Cope With Their Anxiety

Increase your intellectual abilities and become confident!

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We've all had anxiety at one time or another. The futile worry that creeps up on you at the most inconvenient time. Wondering why your boss said "just take the day off," instead of replying to the long paragraph you sent him about what was wrong and why you needed time off.

Or maybe you're overthinking about last week when you weren't there for your best friend at 2:00 in the morning when she texted and asked if you were up. Your phone rang and you didn't hear it, so now you think she's mad at you.

Regardless, neither of these situations matter. Your boss was just bust and your best friend can't wait to see you again.

Most people have unhealthy ways of coping with anxiety, but here are 15 badass ways to manage your anxiety.

1. Get a teddy bear

As silly as this sounds, having something to hold at night does put you at ease. While you're typing on your computer or scrolling through your phone at night, it helps if you are feeling anxious and have something soft and welcoming at your side.

2. Buy a journal

Anxiety = jumbled thoughts. If you have a journal to write these thoughts down in, you'll be able to tear them apart and decipher what's bothering you and how you can fix it. After so long, you get good at writing your thoughts down and organizing them. You can even write to-do lists (or don't do lists), and that can and will bring simplicity to your busy days.

3. Invest in a weighted blanket

Weighted blankets are proven to reduce stress and anxiety! Throughout the night, they help increase serotonin and melatonin levels. Those two things alone help you fall asleep and stay asleep.

4. Be brutally honest with yourself

Sometimes you have to admit that you made a shitty decision, or that you were being a bad person in a certain situation. We're all human, and we make mistakes. If you own up to your mistakes, learn from them and grow, then only positivity can come out of it.

5. Take a bath with epsom salt/essential oils

Taking a warm bath alone can soothe anxiety, but if you throw some Epsom salt or a stress relieving oil into it; it will work wonders!

6. Exercise 

Exercise is the best way to relieve stress. It gets you out of the house, gets you motivated and feeling good, and can take your mind off of things if you let it.

7. Eat healthier

So many times, people don't understand what a healthy diet and workout regimen can do for them. Naturally, if you eat healthier, it clears your mind of all the litter that has built up over the years from the bad dieting habits that we have. You won't believe me until you try it, but if you eat healthier and work out for 2-3 weeks, you'll see a whole different world.

8. Find a hobby that you enjoy

Playing basketball, reading, riding dirt bikes, fishing, or doing anything that can expand your mind will help you find peace and relieve stress. If you can find a reasonable amount of activities to be involved in, it leaves less time for overthinking. It will also help build your personality and character, in turn making you mentally stronger.

9. Get a sufficient amount of sleep

Sleep is important. Get enough sleep. Oh yeah, and drink a lot of water. It helps.

10. Limit alcohol intake

Have you ever felt anxious or heavy-headed after a night of drinking? Or maybe when you wake up the morning after, your heart rate is a little faster than usual? I'm not talking about a stomach ache and a hangover. I'm talking about the anxiety that comes from obsessive alcohol intake. Most of us do it, but you need to know that it does cause anxiety. Although it may be a temporary fix, it doesn't help forever.

11. Strive for not only success, but hearty happiness

It's one thing to strive for success, and that is great and all... but doing that 25/8 does cause anxiety and stress. Too often, we're focused on what other people think success is, but the utmost respectful success is personal happiness. So don't forget to strive for happiness, because in the end, that's what is going to matter the most.

12. Come to a realization that perfection is a standard set by society

Perfection is something that everyone longs, whether they like to admit it or not. What you... what WE need to realize is that perfection is only a definition in a book. It's a (typically unrealistic) standard set by society that may not be what is best for us and our mental stability. Perfection isn't going to get you that job, perfection isn't going to make that boy or girl like you, and perfection absolutely is not going to make you love yourself. What you and I need to focus on is being the best version of ourselves that we can possibly be, not based on others' values.

13. Be a better you, everyday

Your biggest competitor is you. The only person that is going to stop you from reaching your goals, is you. If you solely focus on making yourself mentally stronger, you can defeat anything that tries to stop you from pursuing your biggest goals and ambitions.

14. Remember, what other people say DOES NOT MATTER

As much as I hate to admit it, one of my biggest weaknesses and causes of anxiety is focusing on what people say about me. I'm always thinking about why someone said what they said, or why someone looked at me weird. Truth is, it does not matter. What someone else has to say about you is not worth a damn. So if you (we) can learn how to look straight through peoples opinions, it can and will bring nothing but extraordinary intellectual abilities.

Obviously, there are multiple ways to deal with anxiety, but this list can help in more ways than you imagine if you truly apply it to your life. At the end of the day, remember that you are here for a reason and there isn't a single thing in the world that should keep you from living a seriously awesome life.

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