5 Things You Need To Learn In Order To Love

5 Things You Need To Learn In Order To Love

Love is an extremely important in your lives. I'll show you five ways to love.


Love is the most common used emotion, and action towards others in the Bible and currently. We often don't even notice the ways we do it and how commonly we truly use it. Love can be the most impacting source of emotion to others if used wisely.

These are the top five ways that we share love.

1. Giving Without Expecting Anything In Return.


Giving back is such an impacting, and meaningful thing to do; but can be used in a negative way if the only reason you do it is so you can get something in return but in all reality, the Lord rewards you for your kindness and love in ways that you don't see coming.

Deuteronomy 15:10 says "Give generously to him and do so without a grudging heart; then because of this the Lord your God will bless you in all your work and in everything you put your hand too."

2. Listen Without Interrupting.


We often need others to listen to us vent about frustrations, excitement or even hard trials; but in return, we need to do the same to others. We need to listen to others while they endure their trials, whether they may be simplistic, or very complicated. All trials are impacting to those that they are attached too; so do the good deed and listen with an open heart and focused mind.

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." – Bryant H. McGill

3. Speak Without Accusing.


In a lot of situations, we tend to accuse or assume without factor to hide or shadow what we truly feel. Instead of approaching a situation with accusing another of something with a fault; look at all perspectives of it and open your mind to receiving wisdom behind what they are saying.

"Assumptions are the termites of relationships." – Henry Winkler

4. Be Patient In All Things.


Being patient in all things can be for the simplest of things from being patient for a friend to respond to a letter, to being patient for a job opening. Patience can lead to not only a better outcome but more meaning in what you receive. Sometimes the best of things are worth the wait.

"Patience is not simply the ability to wait- its how we behave while we're waiting." – Joyce Meyer

5. Learn To Let Go.


Learning to let go can be so crucial to any relationship that we share with another being. We are all human and make mistakes that is why forgiveness goes hand and hand in letting go. Sometimes in situations, we have to take the pride we have forgive others, and let go of what they have done, or said. We might act upon our emotions to commonly and can lead to frustration within ourselves and that's where others need to let go.

"The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward." – Steve Maraboli

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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The Easiest Way To Get Over A Breakup

Laying in your pajamas is not going to fix everything.


Breakups suck. There is no other way to say it. But... the good thing about breakups is that they can be seen as a good thing rather than a bad thing. I think the first step to getting over a breakup is to take time to grieve. Your life is going to be different. A whole person is removed from your life. Removed from your routine.

It's OK to take a day to be sad.

I usually take one to two days to be sad and eat a lot of food. You can't just skip over the loss and think that you will recover. You can't do that. Take your two or so days to be sad. No longer than a week. Don't wallow in your dirty, crumb covered sheets.

Once you have taken your grieving time, get your butt up.

Take a shower and leave your house. Put on your favorite outfit and do whatever you need to to make yourself feel better. Go do something. It can be something as small as getting a coffee or walking with friends. Do something with people. Don't become a recluse and isolate yourself.

Do not post on social media.

It is SO tempting to tweet about how sad you are or post a sad snap but don't. Don't let your ex have that much power over you. Don't give them the satisfaction of how sad you are without them. They are going to move on, so you should too. You should also mute them or unfollow your ex. There is no reason to get upset every time you open your phone and see their face. It's not "childish" or "petty" it's smart.

You have to put yourself first and be selfish at this time.

Once you allow yourself to climb out of your dark hole of pity, jump back into life. Keep your chin up and keep going. The best way to "win" in the breakup is to be happy and move on without them. You may fall, you will get random slip-ups of sadness, but you will be OK. Take what you have learned in the relationship and remember that part. Notice what worked and what didn't.

You are fine, it's just a breakup not the end of the world. You got this.

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