It is easy to fall into the idea that we need to find love when we are young, that we need to find that right person as fast as we can. But maybe it is time to slow down, take a breath, and take care of ourselves.

A relationship is not always going to be the answer, and that specific person is not always going to be the one. It seems to be that we need to date quite a few people before we are going to find our lobster.

But life is not just about finding love, yeah it is a nice aspect, but it should not be our only goal. When we are young we need to find ourselves, adventure, discover who we are and what we love. We don't need to be constantly looking for a person to be with. Wait for it to come to you, because I promise you something will fall into place and the less you push it to happen the greater it is going to be.

Go on dates, have fun, but don't always feel the need to be tied down in a relationship, constantly being tied to another person. Now is the time to be free to do what we want to do, enjoy discovering the person we are meant to be, and finding out what we want in life. Now is the time to look forward to the future, make the most out of a college experience, and transform into the person you are meant to become.

Dating at a young age is fine, I'm not saying not to do it. The key is to not just be in a relationship just to be in a relationship, or always having to date somebody. Now is the time to take some time to ourselves and explore our possibilities.

And we also seem to fall for just the wrong people when we are young, causing us to hurt. Why do we place ourselves in a position to be with someone we know is immature and not ready to date, when we know they will end up disappointing us in one way or another.

Right now are the years to fall in love with ourselves. If we can not love ourselves, then there is no way that we can love someone else. We need to be happy and confident with ourselves before we can sustain a healthy long lasting relationship.

God has his plan for us, but we also need to have a plan for ourselves. It is time to look at the big picture, not settling for temporary happiness, or relying on someone else to make us feel good about ourselves. We should feel good about ourselves on our own, love ourselves for who we are, not how another person makes us feel.

Don't fall in love until you are completely ready. Don't put your heart on the line for a temporary person. Don't push something that is not meant to be. And don't love someone else before you can love yourself.