Every self-help and lifestyle book I've come across has had a section or anecdote about finding oneself. I think finding yourself is a false state of searching for who you want to be and never being content with who you are. It is normal to want to "find yourself" in the sense of what hobbies you're good at, your favorite music genre and other trivial things that most people use to define who they are. But truly finding yourself will never happen, not because you will never be content with who you are or never feeling secure with your being but because one solitary state of who you want to be will never exist.

Throughout your whole life, you are changing every single day. The person you are today will not exist tomorrow or in 5 years or 30 years. Your goals and purpose for your life change constantly. When I was 10 years old I wanted to be a doctor, but now I want to venture into the film world. It was alarming being a freshman in high school in my first health science class, just not feeling anything for health care anymore. It used to intrigue me and I wanted to be a doctor so bad when I was younger, but now I had no intentions of enjoying this class or even trying to be a doctor. Why did my goals shift so much? Why is my new interest of film on the complete opposite side of the occupation spectrum than my last passion? Because I grew up.

I realized that health care is not what I wanted to do, I only wanted to do it because I liked the idea of helping people, it was never a truly deep passion for me. I chose film because I'm selfish. I love film and it has nothing to do with wanting to help others, and that's OK. That is a true passion, something that you do for you. My aspirations are constantly changing, though what I believe in and my morals don't, that's not all of who I am. Who I am today has different goals than yesterday, and that is normal.

Instead of trying to find a list of things to define you, I suggest focusing on bettering the version of you that you are today. The way you act today will bring you to the ideal you have in your head of who you want to be. You have to make the effort to be the best possible version of yourself and your true self will show through that. The way you handle the situations life throws at you and how you go about your day reveal your true self.

There is no searching to do, you already have it. You just have to bring it out by focusing on your goals for now and doing what you think is best for your current state of being.

So go out there and try a new hobby, cook new food, find more music or go to the gym. Do whatever you think is necessary to bring out the true, best version of you – today.