The Fluid Process Of Finding Happiness And Adopting Adaptability

The Fluid Process Of Finding Happiness And Adopting Adaptability

You are beautiful, capable and on the path to your most authentic life.

The power of the mind to create patterns, establish behaviors and develop a lifestyle based upon the nature of our ideas can become a great tool for growth or a potential source of imprisonment.

For human beings it seems one unifying factor across cultural identities and backgrounds is the desire to actualize our notion of “the good” and to live a life that is as abundant with peace, fulfillment and happiness as possible.

I would argue that in general most human behavior stems from the driving desire to be happy and that depending on the self-control and awareness of the person in any given circumstance, the pathways taken to achieve that goal can be logically rewarding or imitating fulfillment. What I mean when I speak of “imitating fulfillment” is that the actions taken to appease short-term desire and temporal pleasures are often justified by only a conceptualization of a fraction of their actual yieldings.

More often than not, the short-term pleasures are the options that may increase the chance of harm or limit productivity for the long-term.

In order for human beings to find greater and sustainable happiness, I believe as many other philosophers and thought leaders have before me, that feeling a sense of purpose is essential. Even greater is when the sense of purpose is self-defined and developed in a means in which it is conducive to the talents of the person, allows for decent financial security and serves others. Without a guiding sense of purpose, the human spirit can lack direction and fall prey to cyclical behaviors of self-destruction.

The purpose does not have to be monumental, nor does it have to be permanent, but I find the happiest people are those who can explain to some degree what they love in life and what feeds their soul.

The key to not becoming overwhelmed by the idea of discovering purpose is to truly understand the fluid nature of life and accepting what you can and cannot control. Adaptability in the process of creating the life you want for yourself is critical. Things do not always go as planned and in any setting, it only serves you to have the ability to move past unexpected changes unscathed. Here is where the balancing act between setting goals and remaining open-minded comes into play.

If you are unable to adjust your actions to the unpredictable nature of life and keep working to achieve your goal through different strategies, you will limit yourself.

By spending time alone, journaling and meditating, we invite our inner voice to speak to us and inform us on the beauty of the moment. By practicing introspection and asking ourselves questions, we can start to piece together the hows, whys and whats of our desires. I think examining why we want certain things, whether they are material items, relationships or titles, is incredibly important.

When we keep an open mind and honor ourselves, we may come to find with greater clarity that all we want is possible, we have all the tools we need to eventually achieve our wildest dreams and happiness lies in every moment before us if only we allow it to manifest.

Disclaimer: I never want my articles to appear insensitive in any way to those diagnosed with Depression, etc. I am not suggesting that all people can meditate away their sadness and change their brain chemistry. I respect the journey of all people with their mental health.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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You May Be In College, But Positive Reinforcement Is Still Essential For A Better Life

It's truly amazing to see how positive reinforcement, especially from a professor or someone who works in your chosen field, can boost your confidence.


Being a freshman in college is tough, and I'm absolutely positive that I'm not the first person to say that. For me, the biggest adjustments came with being far from home, having to make brand new friends, and actually figuring out what I want to do with my life. Now, those first two items were not that difficult to find solutions to, but that last one? That is a completely different story.

In the span of six-seven months, I have gone back and forth, again and again with just about every combination of majors and minors that you could think of. At this moment, I think I've finally found a combination that will truly push me to succeed in my goals. By the end of next semester, I'm hopeful that I will be able to declare my major and minors.

But, the point of this article is to share the point in this current semester, where I really believed that my goals can become a reality. Right now, I am enrolled in a course called "introduction to critical intelligence studies." After much debate with the class, our professor decided to put our midterm online, making it a take-home exam. It consisted of a few multiple choice questions and three essays of our choosing. With the idea that this exam was take-home, I knew that my professor would be expecting us to put our best foot forward and all of our time and effort into making sure we did well.

And I did. This was the first midterm result that I got back and it was a 100. How did I find this out? For one day, instead of class, my professor met with each of us individually for at least ten minutes to discuss what we were hoping to get out of this class. It was during this meeting that she told me my grades and more.

My professor had explained to me that based on my writing, she did not think that I was just a mere freshman. She continued to say that I have a knack for analysis, as well as the fact that it was truly evident that I took in all the information from her lectures and the assigned readings. With my grades in mind and what I hoped to do in the future, my professor assured me that I should have no problem accomplishing my goals. My professor made sure that I had confidence in myself and my abilities, providing me with even more steps that would lead to success.

It's truly amazing to see how positive reinforcement, especially from a professor or someone who works in your chosen field, can boost your confidence. This reinforcement has provided me with the means and opportunity to further push myself. Since this meeting, I have been in constant contact with my professor to learn about different opportunities that can build up my resume. With her help, as well as the director of the program, I've been able to learn more about anything and everything that has to do with intelligence.

I'm proud to say that I want to go into such a field. And I'm also proud to say that I'm thankful for everyone who has decided to push me and not only celebrate my successes — but also to help me learn from my mistakes.

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