The Key To Being An Adult Is Finding Yourself First

The Key To Being An Adult Is Finding Yourself First

It is important to not lose yourself within the stress but to find yourself amongst it


Growing up happens so fast and can hit you like a ton of bricks sometimes. Being a senior in college, it hits you fast because soon you will be out there searching for a career that will practically set your future in stone. For some people "adulting" comes even faster for those who work right after high school and college students get a taste of "adulting" and then are thrown in after they graduate.

Times when you are struggling with payments and bills, you miss when you were a child and didn't have a care in the world, besides maybe losing your favorite toy when it is right within your eyesight. Studying and working non-stop may make you feel like you are on a never-ending merry-go-round. It feels like you are doing the same thing every day and unfortunately, that comes with being an adult. That doesn't mean you can't have fun and relive those free days because it is important to keep that part of you. Make time for yourselves and go on a hike or do something that you used to love to do; even if it is just reading a couple chapters of the book you've been meaning to get to.

Being an adult comes with a lot of expectations but every person is different and so being an adult doesn't have to mean the same thing to everyone. Being an adult doesn't mean you can't occasionally act like a child. Who cares if you want to run around screaming in the snow or paint a pretty picture. Being an adult comes with a lot of responsibilities and downsides but it also comes with upsides believe it or not.

When you are an adult you are finally starting the life that you have been dreaming about since you were little. Remember when you were in middle school and you were saying who you wanted to be when you grew up? Now you are grown up and whether you became your middle school dream, you can't deny that you finally made it. Another bonus is what comes with responsibility, comes with independence and being able to make all your own choices and focus on yourself.

When growing up you must think about yourself which is hard for a lot of people because it is easier to put people in front of ourselves. Growing up and becoming an adult is choosing your future that only you can choose. If you chose a career based on what other people want, then you will never be happy which is an adult's worst nightmare. Bills and the stress of being an adult can stop a lot of people from living the life they want to live. It is important to not lose yourself within the stress but to find yourself amongst it.

The biggest thing I learned about becoming an adult is, well, the stress of it and that money really does NOT grow on trees but also that the most important thing I can do to be successful is finding myself before I even start my future. You can't start a career or future without knowing yourself and knowing what YOU want your life to be like.

So, if there is anything to take from this article is that it's okay to not be okay about becoming an adult because it is scary and it is important to find yourself so you can be independent and take on the responsibilities. I wish you all the happiness.

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10 Pieces Of Advice From My Parents That Have Helped Me Survive This Thing Called Life

I don't like admitting that they're right, but they've helped me through more than they'll ever know.


As I've entered my 20s and have made it halfway through college, I've learned that life can be hard and challenging at times. Like many kids, when I was growing up, I could care less about what my parent's advice or opinions were. Nine times out of ten, I would do the complete opposite of what they said. Once I got older and actually started listening to their advice and put it into perceptive, I learned that they're right more often than I'd like to admit.

1. Don't take things for granted

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I've learned to cherish what I have because I might not always have it. It's easy to take life itself and many things it involves for granted. They've taught me to take a step back from this crazy life sometimes and be grateful for all that I have.

2. Don't be afraid to put your heart on your sleeve


My parents have taught me that if you feel something, don't be afraid to say it or embrace it. If you love someone, then tell them. Don't be afraid to put your heart out there just because you might get hurt.

3. Be vulnerable

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In life, in relationships, in your work. Take risks, get shot down, and then try again. Being vulnerable is scary yet so powerful.

4. You can never have too many shoes


Otherwise known as it's okay to treat yourself. Life is hard, so take care of you. If that means going on a shopping spree every once in a while, then so be it.

5. You're going to be okay

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Whatever it is you're going through, you're going through it and you're going to come out on the other side. It may seem horrible now, but you'll learn from it and be okay in the end.

6. You have to have friends in life


It's important to have people to lean on, especially on your bad days, and to celebrate with on your good ones. You can't just have you or a significant other to rely on.

7. Never be afraid to share your opinion

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Don't be afraid to put your thoughts and opinions out there because they might be wrong. They could have a huge impact on someone or something.

8. Don't stress over things you have no control over

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Everyone is on their own path, which means everything will work out the way it's supposed to, even if it doesn't make sense right now. Again, you're going to be okay.

9. Happy, healthy, wealthy, wise


My dad always says if you tell yourself every day that you're happy with yourself or your life, you're healthy and strong, you're wealthy in love and surrounded by great people, and you're knowledgable or wise, then you can achieve anything in life.

10.  S*** or get off the pot

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My all-time favorite piece of advice. Making decisions can be hard and scary, especially if the outcome could be getting hurt in the end. So, you either make a decision and roll with it no matter the outcome or you walk away.

Thanks, mom and dad for always being a phone call away when I need it! Just know that your advice and words of wisdom don't go unnoticed. For others, your parents have been on this planet much longer than you have and most likely experienced the same situations that you're dealing with. They don't have all the answers, but they are there to help.

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