Girl, You May Have Dodged Your Joe Jonas But Your Joe Alwyn Is Waiting For You

Girl, You May Have Dodged Your Joe Jonas But Your Joe Alwyn Is Waiting For You

Call it what you want, but I will find my forever and always eventually..


Yes, I said it. In 2018 as a college student, it is so easy to get wrapped up in relationships and wanting to be in one or at least to be at a friendship level with someone of the opposite sex. When you constantly have it on your mind, it's also hard to resist the quick snap chat add and conversation you would try to have with said snap chat boy. But what I have learned is that it doesn't always pan out as you want it to past all the snapshots.

I think that at the end of the day, it may be better to wait for someone like Joe Alwyn who is going to understand and get to know who you are as a person. Joe Jonas may be cute and all, but does he really understand all your quirks outside of who you are on social media and other places? The answer is probably not, and that's ok.

I also think that its okay to unfollow this Joe Jonas type person that was previously in your circle, even if your close friends still include him in their lives. It doesn't mean you have to ignore him when you see him next when it happens, it just means that you can be ok with crossing paths and not feel like you need to walk away.

But it does mean that someday, just someday that you'll find your Joe Alwyn when you least expect it. Maybe you just need to focus on your journey before he steps in. Focus on taking care of yourself, maybe that means spending some time taking a bubble bath and watching The Carrie Diaries. This is just a time for growth, and its okay to feel emotions, it's all apart of the process girl. Just don't fixate on finding your person, enjoy life and he will walk or run on in when he's supposed to (hopefully walk not run haha).

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.

They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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I Am Not Anyone's Second Choice

I'm not just here as your last resort.


I always see those inspirational quotes/pictures going around on social media about how it's okay to cut toxic people out of your life. For the longest time, this wasn't something that I related to at all. I had my friends and I didn't have any problems.

But throughout my time in college, I've had people in my life that I realized only cared about me when it was convenient for them.

This has proved true in my relationships and friendships. I never really realized it until I started thinking more about it, but since I was younger, I've always been taken advantage of. Like I've said before, I have such a big heart and I always forgive people, even when they don't deserve it.

Most of the relationships I've been in, I came away feeling like I was just being used. I also had a friend that made me feel like that way as well. All of these people only reached out to me when everyone else wasn't available. They only reached out to me when they just didn't want to be alone, and they knew that I would text them back, hang out with them, be there for them.

It got to the point where these relationships all made me feel like I was just people's second choice. Like they didn't care about me unless they had no one else to hang out with.

But I'm not anyone else's second choice.

I've finally gotten to a point in my life where I've realized that I do have toxic people in my life. And I've finally come to the realization that I have to cut those kinds of people out.

I'm not the kind of person to say that I'm any better or any worse than those around me, but I definitely don't deserve to be taken advantage of or used. No one deserves that.

And I'm not going to be treated like that anymore because I'm not a second option. For anyone.

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