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Fight For Your Right

Leave Abusers in the Dust

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Fight For Your Right
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It seems so frequent in today's society that women are plagued by the issue of abusive relationships. I have been in the middle of verbally and emotionally abusive relationships and likewise have seen my friends go through them. Some of them are currently suffering through them which is my purpose for writing this article.

I'm brokenhearted, down, and discouraged by what I'm seeing. Girls are getting texts from guys after a week saying how in love they are with them and how they will never leave them. A week later they're claiming that their friends think they can do better or that the woman isn't doing enough for them in the relationship. They sever bonds between their girlfriends and her friends. They make her become so isolated that they feel trapped. Sweetheart, I know. I've been there.

I've been the girl who gets told "I love you" after two weeks. I didn't know what to do with it at first, but I let it slide. I've been the girl who has had her boyfriend of two weeks talking about marriage, which to be honest was entirely uncomfortable and I was too naive to run once I saw those red flags. Weeks later the guy started getting loud with me in front of crowds of people, acting like he would leave, he clinched his fists at me in anger, and to almost everything I wanted to do he would make up some elaborate reason why my preferences were so insignificant to his. The thing is, this isn't the only encounter I've had with the subject. But it is an example of what emotional abuse is like in a relationship. I felt inferior to him. I allowed him to put it into my mind that I was the lesser of the two of us. And honestly, looking back I realize that I was more miserable in that relationship than I even realized.

Now, for those of you who understand what it's like to be told that you're not enough by a guy, I want to encourage you right now. Don't be afraid to leave. Leaving is the best thing you can do. He isn't worth your tears and though he makes great, elaborate apologies, he will never mean them. He will always go back to the way things were. You're priceless. You're a beautiful treasure and you deserved to be looked upon in that way. If you're scared of change, let me tell you that change is good. You'll be sad for a while but you'll eventually come out on top with so many friends to back you up. If you're worried that you'll never find better, I can assure you that you will. I see what a good relationship is now and I thought it would be impossible to find someone who was that good. Girls, stick to your standards no matter how impossible they may seem. The personality traits you want in a significant other should never be compromised. There's no purpose for good enough. You can and will find that above and beyond person if you remain patient and focused upon where the Lord is directing you.

I love you all so much. You're not alone in this battle. You're never alone in this battle. Sadly it's an epidemic that refuses to subside. But remember, my dear, you are worth the world.

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