Friendship in college

I Only Have A Few Friends In College And I'm OK With It

My mom always said that she could count her true friends on one hand.


Going in, I thought college was going to be full of socializing, freedom, and new life experiences, but so far its nothing like that. It's full of a bunch of socially awkward kids who aren't sure how to approach one another, myself included.

Once I left my hometown, I figured I would be making friends left and right, but so far it's been a lot of time spent by myself in crowded places with hundreds of others who are just like me. They want to reach out and make friends, but no one is sure how nowadays. It's so easy to get caught up in a spell of overthinking when it comes to trying to start a conversation. "What if I don't say the right thing?" "What if they don't know what I'm talking about?" These are all questions I've asked myself, which has caused me to retreat and stick to being on my own, listening to music, and writing in my journal about how I don't have friends yet.

Being a homebody in a school that is known for students going out has been tough, but I wouldn't change who I am or where I'm attending school. The friends I've made seem to understand the anxiety crowds cause for me, and they offer to just stay in, watch movies, and listen to music with me instead of trying to make me go out.

At first, I was really uneasy about not knowing anybody, but now that I'm in a routine and used to what happens, I don't mind. I see familiar faces, I'll wave or smile, and that's okay with me. With time, I know I'm going to meet people and they're going to end up becoming some of the most important people in my life, but I also know I can't force any of that to happen, so for now, I'm just coasting through with one or two people beside me.

Trying to force friendships, or any kind of relationship really is exhausting. It causes you to be more hurt than just accepting they don't want to have any kind of relationship with you. Trust me, I've just recently given up on trying to make something happen, knowing it probably never will. I promise things are so much better when they happen naturally.

My mom always told me that she could count her true friends on one hand, and I think that's the case with me. I'm not too worried about finding my best friends for life here, because I know that they'll come with time. I like the few people I have, and I know I'll always have my best friend back home when I need someone to talk to about anything and everything. I know I'll also always have my mom, who will forever be one of my people.

My advice, don't worry about trying to make the biggest group of friends that you can once you start school, just try to find some people who you enjoy hanging out with, and you'll be set. Things will go so much easier and you won't waste your time meant for studying with worries about who you're going to hang out with.

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20 'Thank Yous' My Best Friends Need To Hear BEFORE The Semester Ends

Because I don't thank you enough.


When I decided to graduate a year early, I never thought about how hard it would be to say goodbye. The best part of my three-year journey at Florida State was the friends that I had made. The friends you meet in college are the friends you will never forget. Although in two weeks we will be miles apart, this is not the end of us-- this is a different type of forever. At this point, all I can say is thank you for making my time here unforgettable. Thank you:

1. For buying me Ice Cream when I had a bad day.

2. For pushing me out of my comfort zone. 

3. For teaching me the right way to do Happy Hour. 

4. For complimenting me when I wore that tight dress.

5. For forcing me to go to the library with you.

6. For *trying* to make me go to the gym.

7. For giving me great advice that you know I won't follow. 

8. For letting me borrow your new shirt even though you haven't even worn it yet.

9. For forgiving me when I get a little sassy.

10. For telling me I can do better. 

11. For reading my shitty articles. 

12. For ignoring my absolutely terrible singing. 

13. For laughing at my jokes. 

14. For roasting me in the group chat. 

15. For driving me to class when I was too lazy to find parking. 

16. For picking me up from class when I was too lazy to walk back home.

17. For lending me money because I really REALLY needed that extra guacamole.

18. For tolerating my annoying self after your stressful day.

19. For staying up late because I didn't want to watch the scary movie alone.

20. For being the best friends I ever had.


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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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