Stop Saying Tomboy, It's Only Oppressing Your Daughter

I'd Rather Call My Future Daughter Strong And Powerful Rather Than Degrade Her And Call Her A Tomboy

I never want my daughter someday to believe she is weak and has to change.


Growing up, I was definitely considering a "tomboy." I never liked the idea of cheerleading or constantly having my nails painted in pink. I always preferred being "one of the guys," and playing dodgeball, tossing a football, or just chasing each other in a game of tag. Not to brag or anything, but I could also talk about football since my dad did his best to educate me.

I also hated brushing my hair, for which my mom talked me into getting a pixie cut because I always refused to style it in the morning when getting ready for school. I swam and took taekwondo lessons, which required me learning how to punch and kick to defend myself. I also hated the idea of wearing dresses or a skirt because they just seemed uncomfortable to me. I wasn't your typical girl growing up, and I understand that. I actually embrace it.

I was the girl who also loved listening to Green Day and the Ramones because that's what my dad listened to. I loved wearing the color black because, for a while, Hot Topic was my favorite store (mainly because I could buy band tee shirts there). When asking what I wanted to be when I grew up, I thought of being a soldier like my dad. I didn't see myself being a "mother" as a career like most little girls in first grade.

Even though I don't remember my parents calling me a tomboy, it was how I identified myself. I only told people I was a "tomboy" because that's how my teachers and classmates in elementary school described me.

Now, looking back on it, I hate using the term "tomboy."

All it does is belittle young girls that they are always inferior to men, that masculinity is above femininity. I never want my daughter someday to believe she is weak and has to change. Gender is on a spectrum, and it should be celebrated as such.

I want my daughter to be celebrated as strong and powerful. I want her to go out for football if that's where her passion is, not just say no because that "isn't something that girls do." My daughter should be able to feel comfortable in her skin without feeling the need to have to conform to gender norms.

If she doesn't want to be a mother, great.

If she wants to wear baggy sweatpants and loose fitting tee shirts.

All I want for her is for her own happiness and to be comfortable in her body rather than feeling like she has to conform for people to accept her. Whatever passion or things she likes, as long as she is healthy and safe, that's all I should care about as her mother.

As her mother, I will embrace her for who she is rather than what she looks like. You don't have to be dressed "pretty in pink" to be seen as attractive. Looks aren't everything anyway. It is who you are on the inside that matters.

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I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals

It is OK for me to not want to be equivalent with a man.


To start off, I am not writing this to bash feminists or get hate messages. I am simply writing this to state why I do not perceive myself as a feminist.

March is International Women's Month and that is what has got me thinking about how I view myself as a young woman in the 21st century. I enjoy every day getting to soak up the world as a young lady, particularly in the South.

If you know me, then you know that I love and utterly adore Jesus. He is so perfect. He is everything. He is my whole life. Some people might say that I am a "Bible-thumper" or someone who has had too much Kool-aid and maybe I am, but I know who my Creator is and that He died for me, and that is all that matters.

In my young age, I loved to just sit in church with my parents and absorb all that God would deliver. As I have grown up, I have ventured off and joined a church that is different than my parents, so the responsibility falls more on me, but I love that. Since this era of independence began, I have thoroughly enjoyed taking ownership of my faith.

I spend a lot of time chatting with God, worshipping Him in all kinds of ways, and just diving deeper into His Word. Through all of this growth as a Christian, I have learned a lot, but something I have learned is a concept that some may not agree with, which does not surprise me.

I do not believe God meant for women and men to be equal.

There, I acknowledged the elephant in the room.

It is a shocker, I know, but I have some Biblical evidence to back up this belief that I have.

Let us begin in Genesis. God created man and then he created woman. This was two separate occurrences and order is key. He created Adam and then Eve.

Jesus treated women with grace and kindness, do not get me wrong. I mean just look at how He treated the woman at the well, the one who used all of her expensive perfume to cleanse His feet and not to mention His own biological mother! He has a truly unique place in his heart for women, but He also has special intentions for us in the world and in the family setting.

We are to submit to our husbands.

We are to be energetic, strong, and a hard worker.

We are to be busy and helpful to those in need.

We are to be fearless.

All of this is explicitly laid out by God in Proverbs 31.

We are not to be equal to our male counterparts. Jesus does not lay out the Proverbs 31 man, but He rather lays out the Proverbs 31 woman.

A husband or man is to be the head of the household as Christ is to the church.

A man is to love a woman so deeply that represents how he loves himself.

A man is to leave his father and mother.

Women and men are not equal in God's eyes, but they each represent Him in their own ways that the other needs.

If we were all equal, we would not need one another and therefore we would not need God. I am so thankful that we were not created equal. I am so thankful that God is so great that He could not just create only man or woman to represent His image. He is so perfect.

So, you see I am not a feminist, and it is OK.

It is acceptable for me to have this belief that God intended for men to lead women. It is also okay for people to have differing opinions. Writing this was not easy, but I know that not all people agree.

To feminists and those that are not, you are allowed to believe whatever you wish but have evidence to back it up.

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In Case You Haven't Heard, My Body Means My Choice, So Deal With It

With all the political differences and laws trying to be passed, based on what a woman can do with her body, demonstrates how the United States decides to use their power and control others by the means of it.


Since the beginning of America, there have always been minority groups, which include African American, Hispanics, the disabled, homosexuals, and women. Such minority groups have made it their responsibility to fight for their rights and earn justice for it. However, there has recently sprung up a debate on abortion policies, attempting to alter and re-write the rules on Roe vs Wade per state to pursue when or if abortion is illegal based on certain circumstances.

Now, I am not writing this in any means to deter you from your individual opinion on this situation or your perspective, but I do believe that I have a voice in this situation since I am a woman and this situation affects me if any of you individuals like that or not. And most of all, I deserve to be heard.

Starting off, in no means should a man, government officials, or anyone for that matter be able to decide what is acceptable to do with my own individual body, EVER. How have we become a country that thinks it is more than okay to tell what others can do based on the decision of another person. See, we have this thing called bodily autonomy which means we have independence over our own body, or at least we should. A prime example of this is when an individual dies, a surgeon can not remove the person's organs (if they were an organ donor) until the designated power of attorney says it is okay to do so. However, it is apparently acceptable and illegal for someone who has become pregnant through rape or in general is unable to care for a child to receive an abortion and loses their bodily autonomy for the following 9 months. How does a corpse have more rights and bodily autonomy than a pregnant woman does today?

Currently, the state of Alabama has passed a bill that makes abortion illegal under any circumstances and committing this now known felony, can lead to a very long jail sentence. In fact, committing abortion in Alabama (for the woman or the doctor) can lead to a longer jail sentence than someone who raped another individual. Wow. How is that acceptable????

Many states are following in Alabama's lead and we need to put a stop to it before it becomes too far. We women, need to fight for achieving our bodily autonomy and band together and show America that we are a force to be reckoned with.

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