Okay, so maybe (definitely) there were more than just 10 times. Truth? Probably add 10 zeroes to that one number 10, and that fact would be more accurate.
I'm tired of not understanding. I'm tired of every situation where even when I play it cool, I end up playing the fool.
It's annoying! And here are the top 10 moments I was left with my cards all out on the table and the guys I was playing with just got up from their chairs...and left:
1. They say they want confident girls who make the first move...
I did that. I do that...and apparently, they don't! I ALWAYS make the first move...and it NEVER worked. Twice, I asked a guy out on a date. Both led me to nowhere. Three times, I texted the guy I liked first. Nothing happened. Once, I went completely out of my comfort zone and sent a message saying "I loved seeing you with your shirt off..." and he responded three days later with an "I'm not interested."
2. They give nothing but mixed signals. You either like me or you don't!
I'll never forget this one guy who took me out on dates, paid for my food, came to the door... but wouldn't even hold my hand in the movie theatre or try to kiss me when I invited him over to a house I notified him would be without any parents present. We sat through the whole movie, on my couch, with his hands squarely and properly placed on his lap. So, why did you agree to go out with me these past few dates, guy?
3. They message you first and then abruptly end the conversation.
Hey, so...uh...did you suddenly decide my texts aren't good enough for you? I'm so sorry I don't entertain you the way you wanted! Surely, you deserve better than a girl who writes about movies, art, music, or how hot you are. I'm surely the problem here.
4. They walk you back to your dorm but talk about another girl...?
So, there we were. He offered to walk me back to my dorm and the little romantic inside me just blushes the color of the ripest of cherries. But then— oh baby, then — I get hit with, "So there was this really hot girl the other day..." Thank you so much, man! What a great way to let me know we're just bros.
5. They say you're funny...so is it true guys don't fall for the funny girls? Why not...?
I'm always told how funny I am, how bold, outgoing and big-hearted, and I was even hit with the "You have a unique personality." So um...yeah, those very guys with the kind words ended up with other girls days later. Let me know what I'm doing wrong here. Why aren't these qualities what they go for? *Scratches head*
6. They act all sweet and romantic one night and the next... they only want one thing.
And we all know what that thing is. *Damn those romantic comedies for making me think guys with nice lines stay that nice for the long term*
7. Apparently, some only like you when they've been intoxicated... *sigh*
Yeah, it's always nice finding out that you're only attractive to these boys when they had something a little bit strong to drink. What a great self-esteem booster finding that out.
8. They make you feel like you're so important to them... and then subtly show you that you're not.
Either by sending those first texts, asking you out, playing YOUR favorite music... they don't understand how that means the world to some girls. And then slowly, ever so quietly, they reveal to you that they couldn't care less about spending time with you, that there's always another girl out there for them when they're bored with you. *cries silently into chocolate ice cream bucket*
9. They make you think you're not good enough... how???
What magical powers do they weave that somehow they can send my confident, independent self into a nasty swirl of self-deprecation? It's up to us to be stronger, I guess... but they're just so good at making us feel like jack-squat.
10. They stand you up. Was it so hard to text me, oh... I don't know, NOT five minutes before you're supposed to meet me?
Yeah. I won't talk about it. But let's just say, I was out there, ready to get my situation situated... and all of a sudden, he wasn't into it. And he lets me know right when the time of the situation arrived. Oh, and by "he" I mean three guys. This happened five times, with three guys! Okay, so yeah! Thanks, men!