It's OK To Fight With Family, But Always Forgive Them
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Every Family Feuds, But Forgiveness Is Always The Best Answer

In a perfect world, everyone would get along. We wouldn't necessarily have all the same opinions and beliefs; regardless, we would still get along.

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Every Family Feuds, But Forgiveness Is Always The Best Answer

We don't live in a perfect world. We don't always get along with everyone. Tempers flare, words fly, and feelings get hurt. Arguments, disputes, disagreements, whatever you call them — they're inevitable.

I think the most upsetting and difficult aspect of arguments is when it's between you and someone you love. Whether it's a parent, sibling, or friend, clashing with the people closest to you takes the biggest toll. Disagreeing with loved ones hurts us the most for two major reasons: it's often rooted in unpleasant truth and the making up process is sticky.

I think most of us expect our family and friends to be honest with us, or at least hope they'll be honest. No matter what the situation, no matter how uncomfortable, we want the people we love to tell us the truth. After all, if they won't, then who will? The problem lies in how we actually receive this truth, especially when it's unfavorable. By nature, I think people tend to be defensive; we don't like to be scrutinized. If we do face criticism, regardless of it being constructive and well-intended, we automatically run to justify ourselves. We can't stand to face even the slightest amount of judgment without a rebuttal. However, the truth is that the truth hurts. The truth is that we often can't handle the truth. What initially may begin as a thoughtful gesture from our loved ones becomes a fiery clash of strong opinions and emotions.

When the voices quiet and the emotions settle, the storm clouds of apology and forgiveness loom over each person involved. While "clearing the air" is the ultimate path to healing, it usually follows a cloudy, gray path. We can't take back our words, we can't undo the damage. So, how do you apologize to the people you love the most for offending them? I think this is the ray of sunshine amidst the clouds; our loved ones will forgive us faster than anyone else. While it may not be instantaneous, it's the love our family and friends have for us that ultimately leads them to accept our apologies. The same can be said when we're the ones left feeling hurt and betrayed. Sometimes, we can harbor resentment, but it always gives way to forgiveness. We all fall short and push our loved ones away at some point or another. In reality, none of us usually deserve forgiveness, but it's how we maintain and sustain these close relationships.

Disputes, spats, quarrels, quibbles, whatever you call them, conflict with loved ones will always be the most troubling. While disagreements are inevitable, navigating through damaged feelings and making amends is imperative to reviving and restoring these relationships. In fact, I'd dare to say our closeness to the people we love stems from the resilience of our relationships.

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