Hardships Are A Part Of Our Relationships, But That's Life

Hardships Are A Part Of Our Relationships, But That's Life

Failure in relationships is part of life, whether it is with someone who is blood-related or a long-term friend.
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If there is one thing that I learned throughout my college career, it is that relationships are hard. So freaking hard.

We're not even talking about romantic relationships. We are talking about the relationships that we have with the people around us - our family, our friends, our roommates, and our boyfriend/girlfriend. Relationship building is part of human nature and we all desire to grow and belong. However, we all know how hard relationships actually are, with the commitments that we make that require time and care.

As these relationships grow, we become vulnerable, and as we become more vulnerable, our expectation for this person increases. We start to depend on this person and expect this person to know you inside and out. This doesn't come only with romantic relationships, but in our relationships with our friends and even with our family members.

But the only person that truly understands you is, well, you.

I've learned that many relationships in your life will come and go, and it gets to a point where you may feel lonely, but during this time is when you prosper! I have learned that it takes loneliness to build a stronger heart, as well as a growth within who you are and your understanding of yourself.

Many times when I talk to people about relationships, whether it is with a married couple, siblings, or best friends, they all end with, "Relationships are hard, but it's how you make it work that matters."

Relationships are hard because we are all different individuals, with different ways of communication. But if there is one thing I can conclude with, it's that in a relationship with an individual, acknowledging that as you have your weaknesses and sensitive areas, your friend, dad, mom, sister, boyfriend/girlfriend has their own weaknesses and sensitive areas as well.

It's so crucial and makes a huge difference once you realize that in a relationship, there needs to be clarification and a certainty that both sides want to work on their relationship with each other so that the journey is not a one-way street, but a two-way street of receiving and giving.

Failure in relationships is part of life, whether it is with someone who is blood-related or a long-term friend. Relationships are hard but there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, so don't give up on those you love and on those who love you back!

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To the one who got away, from the one who wishes you were still here

I guess all I can really do is just try to take care of myself and move on the best I can because I don't know if I will ever get you back.

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Hey,

I know it's been a while, but I had a few things I needed to get off of my chest. I won't lie, you have been on my mind. I haven't forgotten about you, that's a fact. I'm sorry things ended the way they did. I wish it could have been better.

I wonder what our life would be like if we had started dating and if circumstances played out better. You really did make me laugh constantly, I definitely fell for your goofy personality. We had similar interests too, but in our own ways that made our relationship special. I could listen to you rave on and on about the things you love.

You were the first person I didn't feel pressure to not be myself around you. I didn't have anxiety with you like I had experienced with other guys in the past, and it was such a nice change. You made me feel beautiful and made sure I knew it even when I felt my worst. You made sure I knew I could talk to you about anything and you would listen. You were there for me no matter what. Until things started to get hard and things between us changed.

I could feel it, I didn't want you to slip away. Not you, you who was so kind to me, so caring. I didn't want to lose that. And I felt like I have.

I appreciate being able to still be in touch with you, but I feel like I can't talk to you when I'm not sure if you want to talk to me. It hurts. Even though I know we both don't want to lose each other completely, it definitely doesn't feel the same. My heart breaks a little every time I see your name, a picture of you, a post you make. Everything hurts because I feel like you don't want me. Or didn't want me.

I don't know what the case is exactly because I haven't gotten in touch with you in a while, but I don't really like how we left things. I know we both tried our best to figure things out, but there are some questions I need to get off my chest. Have you moved on? Was I good enough? Am I good enough for you? Do you still want to talk to me?

I guess all I can really do is just try to take care of myself and move on the best I can because I don't know if I will ever get you back.

From the girl who wishes she could still be with you.

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