To A Failed First Date(s)

To A Failed First Date(s)

God doesn’t want us to settle for just anyone, he wants us to have the right one.

To a failed first date(s),

Thank you. You were a perfect gentleman. You picked me up, opened my car door, and complimented me on my obvious efforts for the evening. You listened to me, you laughed, you cared. And although the conversation was a little dull, and the candle light not quite right on your silhouette, I will always value you. Needless to say it didn't work out between us, I kindly declined a second date, but don't think I don't think about you. You showed me that not only do good guys still exist, but my prince charming too. You may have not been the man of my dreams, but you made the man of my dreams become a man of reality. Thanks to your chivalry, you’ve given me hope, and perspective. That’s just what God wanted.

I think we (both men and women) grow hopeless when first dates don’t work out, but we shouldn’t, because like the abundance of life’s hardships, it’s all part of Gods plan. God doesn’t want us to settle for just anyone, he wants us to have the right one. That may mean going on one-too-many failed first dates, and that’s okay. Don’t get discouraged. The date was not pointless, not even close. Think about it this way, in realizing why you won’t be perusing a relationship past the first date, you realize what type of date you would like to peruse. Maybe someone wiser, or more adventurous, family oriented, or faithful. Helping you to distinguish what your type is, what kind of man will compliment you best, and who will make you happiest. So don’t be afraid to dream him up; set your standards high. There is no such thing as “too high” of standards, and don’t let anyone not meeting them tell you any different.

But don’t get too caught up in finding him just yet! You’ll miss all the fun of dating! For now, bask in your singleness, and enjoy the pampering. Because, hey, not only will you be getting lots of free food along the way, but every Mr. Wrong is one step closer to Mr. Right.

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9 Questions You Should Never Ask Someone In A Long Distance Relationship

"Aren't you afraid they'll cheat on you?"


When you're in a long distance relationship, everyone will always have a million and one questions- usually a million more than if you were in a relationship that didn't have any distance at all. As I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years now, I've learned that some questions will get asked more than once and some will be equally annoying every time you're asked said question(s). Here are x questions you shouldn't ask someone in a long distance relationship.

1. "Aren't you afraid they'll cheat on you?"

I mean, even if we lived right down the road from each other, he could very well cheat on me then. In my opinion, distance has nothing to do with it. Our relationship (and most long distance relationships) are heavily built on trust. So, no, I'm not afraid.

2. "Why don't you date someone who is close to you?"

Because it just didn't work out like that. I didn't exactly choose to date someone who lived in a different country, but that's how it turned out and although it isn't easy, we've made it work.

3. "You know a long distance relationship isn't a real relationship, right?"

How so? Are you saying it isn't a "real relationship" because we don't live right next door to each other? It's still a very real relationship whether we're living in the same house or we're 1,000 miles away.

4. "How are you able to be in a relationship who you only see from time to time?"

Exactly how you think we would. We talk every single day, mostly through text and have the occasional phone call or video chat. Is it easy? No. But is it worth it? Of course it is.

5. "How do you know he just isn't trying to move to the U.S?"

I don't think I have to worry about that.

6. "How does intimacy work?"

I'll let you think about that one.

7. "What do you do for sex? How do you deal with that?"

Well, that's a little invasive, don't you think?

8. "Oh... so a long distance relationship is like an open relationship?"

Nope. A long distance relationship is like a long distance relationship. Sure, some people have open relationships, but not us. Our relationship is just like yours and many others except we don't live close to each other.

9. "Why would you do that to yourself?"

Do what to myself, exactly? To be fair, I didn't choose to do anything to myself. The only thing I really "chose" was to be with someone who lives very far away, but we both knew what we were getting into from the beginning. So, I'm not "doing" anything to myself. We're just making the best out of a difficult situation.

Don't get me wrong, we don't mind that you ask us questions, but sometimes, you really have to think before you speak. Please stop with the invasive questions or trying to invalidate our relationship solely because we live far away from each other. Our relationship is just as valid as yours, I promise.

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