It happened three months ago. Get over it.

It was a year ago, get over it.

Come on, that was like the sophomore year in high school. You have moved on since then.

There is no time stamp on your feelings. It is easy to continue on with life and forget what happened. That could be a bad break up, a betrayal from your best friend, or a traumatic experience. You can fill your schedule with back to back events to captivate every part of your mind so you just simply forget. That never happened. You can forgive the situation. You can understand that it happened and realize that there is no magical time machine to take you back so you could have stopped yourself from ever getting into that predicament.

However, that is not the reality. We are not robots. So stop trying to wrap your heart in metal and put chains all around it. Let it bleed out its emotions. Let the world hear your roar because you can do that.

No matter how long ago something happened, you still can still have feelings towards it. Your heart can still feel hurt. You can still feel on edge or worried when triggers start popping up around you. You can still be human and feel.

Life would be so much easier if we could just shut it all off and move on. The simple fact is that we are able to move on with life after betrayal, heartbreak, or tragedy. However, those feelings, no matter how many shots you take, classes you sign up for or episodes of "Orange Is the New Black" you binge watch, still lay deep within. And that is OK and normal.

There is no expiration date when you should be done having emotions. Whatever it was it obviously affected you, and the feelings are going to be felt. You are not an emotionless monster who can just walk around not giving a d*mn about what happened. You are human, so embrace it.

Of course, I am not saying it is healthy to lie in bed for a year after and still cry yourself to sleep. I mean, actually, you can do whatever you want. Whatever healthy way (please refer back to the word healthy) you decide to deal with your feelings, it is up to you. Different things work for different people. And with that, we are all different so our healing times varies. However, there is no time set for when you need to get better. Take your time and realize the feelings you have. Be human and express them.

There is no train conductor yelling at you that the train of life is leaving and you need to hop on board right now otherwise you will miss your opportunity. You still can and will succeed, even if you are still attached to your emotional side. You can move on and still having feelings of hurt. Don’t ever deny the feelings you have inside of you. Never feel like it is not OK to bring up something that has hurt you in the past. Our past is what creates us to be the person we are today, so obviously, it has shaped you in one form or another.

It is OK to still look back at memories and laugh at the happy times. And it is OK to still feel pain from the sad times. It is OK to remember. Just know it will get better a day at a time and there is no rush to it.