Everything Is Better At A Distance

Everything Is Better At A Distance

When you really stop to think about it, everything really is better at a distance.


We have all heard it.

"Distance makes the heart grow fonder."

But does it really? Does it really make everything better when you are far away from those people and that situation?

For me, so far, it has worked out pretty well.

Being away from home has taught me to appreciate my roots a little more. It has helped me appreciate my family and friends back home a lot more than I expected.

Yeah, it sucks because you can't help but feel homesick for those people and familiar surroundings, but it's all worth it when you go back and just feel complete again.

In my opinion, everything is better at a distance because it keeps you from getting tired of it so easy.

If you spend too much time in one place or with one person, then it just gets boring.

When I travel, I give myself two weeks at most in a place before I get bored to death. And I can only go back to visit that place after at least a year since my last visit.

Yes, I have my own guidelines.

Many people also see it from the relationship level.

Let's take my mom's relationship with my grandma, her mother-in-law, as an example.

"Your mom is her mother-in-law's favorite because she's far away, unlike her other in-laws," was what my dad said over dinner one night. And he's not wrong.

My mom is easily my grandma's favorite in-law and they always spoil each other because they rarely ever see each other.

It does suck not being around someone for more than like two weeks a year, like in my mom and grandmother's case, but the time you spend with them just makes it so much more precious.

The same thing can be said when you date online or do long distance dating.

You can message them all day and every day if you want, but that won't change what they really are when you meet them in person.

In this type of situation, people have often already made their own assumption of that person up in their mind just off the little they know about them; however, they can be completely different when you meet them in person.

Then you end up heartbroken, but it was good while it lasted.

So, while there might be some negative factors to the distance approach, it can ultimately be the thing that keeps you happy and appreciative of what you have.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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