I recently reached out to an associate I met in university a few years ago for some advice. When I had first met them they were pretty high up in my university's mentorship program, and had helped me to meet one of my favorite people ever. I'd ever meet at that university. Not only that, but they had been a bounty of useful information as well. I figured "heck, if I'm going to look for advice, I might as well start here." So I reached out to him.
And I must say, it was good advice. Things to help me stay on top of my own procrastination and tips on what to do when the existential crisis of not realizing what I'm going to do entirely before I die starts to get to me. He offered advice like "Don't should yourself," which he said came from his mentor. And that is when the thought struck me: nobody knows what the hell they are doing.
Even mentors are just pouring water out of their sinking ship. I just happened to find someone who would share their technique. That is something I don't think I have capitalized on as much as I should be now in college, and I know for damn sure I didn't in high school. Looking back now I can tell I should have done a lot of things, but asking more questions and looking to the people who came before me was something I should have done.
There are over 7 billion people on the planet. It is just plain foolish to think that they are all huge dicks who won't give you the time of day. Sure, no one wants to put themselves in a position of weakness, and it is hard to admit when we are wrong. But we also aren't doing ourselves any favors by trying to grit our teeth and push through. Everyone is wrong at some point, might as well ask the people who screwed up first what you ought to do.
By no means does this mean give up on trying to figure things out solo. There is certainly a lot of charm in learning something by yourself the first time, But when a wall is hit there is no shame in turning to the wisdom of others, either!