For All The Girls Who Wish They Were In Europe This Summer

For All The Girls Who Wish They Were In Europe This Summer

Because I am one of them.
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What I would give right now to be sipping on a cappuccino, sitting in one of those tiny wooden chairs, admiring the glory of the Duomo in the distance. To drive down the winding roads of Dubrovnik just so I could dip my toes in the Adriatic, pretending it was the last time I would ever step foot in the sea. To say that I miss Europe is the biggest understatement of my life.

After scrolling endlessly through my Instagram feed, I realized how much we envy people’s gorgeous vacations. Side note: it’s easy to smile in a photo with a beautiful backdrop. What’s not so easy is lugging your suitcase up four flights of stairs and finding out there is no air-conditioning. Of course, no one is going to post about these things. All I am trying to say is that no one’s vacation is perfect.

That’s not going to stop us from liking their photos and wishing we could copy and paste our faces on top of theirs. To all of you girls who are in Europe this summer, I am so happy that you are. It’s a magical place and I’m grateful that you decided it was worth spending your summer months somewhere further away from home. One of my best friends is going to France this summer and I am so excited for her; finally, she will understand the feeling that overcomes me when I get a stamp in my passport.

To the girls who wished they were there, don’t ponder on it too much. Quit thinking about how much money they must have spent to get there or how much gelato they must be eating. You can live vicariously through someone’s posts, but you cannot abandon your own life. You know, the one that you are living right now, in this moment.

Maybe you are working all summer and saving your money in hopes of taking a trip next year. For that, I applaud you because your efforts are going to pay off. If you’re not, then maybe you should start (especially if you clicked on this article). Chances are there are probably other great things going on in your life right now; maybe it’s time you stopped for a minute to appreciate them. Whether you’re perfecting your craft or learning that it’s okay to be vulnerable in your relationships, don’t lose sight of the present moment. Be present as much as possible.

Don’t assume that you are missing out on anything. Actually, just never assume anything. The truth of the matter is: you’re not. The Eiffel Tower surely isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, neither is the Eurail. The experiences that those girls who are in Europe right now are having were not meant for you, they were meant for them.

You are creating your own story, right now, wherever you are in the world. You are going to have your own adventure, don’t you worry. It may not be this summer, but that doesn’t mean you won’t go to Europe ten more times in your lifetime. Keep doing what you’re doing, and before you know it you’ll be eating pasta for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, too.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.
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Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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7 Things Never To Do While Visiting London

Abandon all hope, ye who use public transport during rush hour.

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As I've said before, London is an interesting place to be, however, there are a handful of things that should be avoided. Of course, mistakes will be made and lessons will be learned, but maybe if you read this, you'll know better faster.

1. Do not stand on the left.

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... of the escalator. Some people prefer to walk down to their train, and if you're in the way, it's as if you were sent from hell itself, especially during rush hour

2. Do not take the Central Line.

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Unless you're going to the Museum of London or St. Paul's. Or you're into weird smells and clinging to the pole because there is no such thing as a smooth ride. To each their own.

3. Do not attempt to get anything to eat in Leicester Square after 4:30.

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Leicester (pronounced like "Lester") Square is one of the best places to grab some grub in Central London because of the sheer amount of choices. Just plan to eat early because everyone else knows that very thing and you'll end up waiting an eternity for a table, then food.

4. Do not rely completely on an app.

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It's totally fine if you have no clue where you going or how public transport works, but once you get the hang of it, you're allowed to trust your own judgment. Maybe you don't have to get off the train then switch twice before getting there instead of riding a few stops more and switching once.

5. Do not attempt to take the Tube during Rush Hour when you have other options.

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Just take the bus if you have to to the national railways. The SWR trains are slow, but at least you're not packed in like sardines and there are usually open seats.

6. Do not forget to check for student discounts and bring your ID.

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Remember this when you go to the palaces, it could save you six pounds and make a real difference if you're going with others.

7. Do not let anything ruin your day.

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There will be a lot of things that will try to ruin your day... Like people who intentionally break some rules above, lines (Sorry, queues), poor navigation skills, etc. Still, you're in London. Savor your visit, and don't let any mistakes or people without common decency ruin your visit.

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