There Is A Fine Line Between Being Proud Of Your Accomplishments And Entitlement

There Is A Fine Line Between Being Proud Of Your Accomplishments And Entitlement

News Flash!! You do not get the chance to reserve some special right because you are you.
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Have you ever had those people that just flaunt their accomplishments right in front of you? You may know it as "humble brag." I know all of us are guilty of it a bit but there are people who do it all the time!

I grew up in a decent size town in central/southern Illinois (so I was still surrounded by cornfields). I came from a middle-class family where life was really great. When I got to college, I was ready to make an identity for myself. I knew what I wanted to go into, I had a pretty good head on my shoulders and I was ready for a fresh start in a new city!

As I got to know more people, I realized that some people have a lot stronger opinions than me when it comes to certain topics. So much so that they would say or do anything to show that their opinion was the right one. Even when there were facts and research to back it up. I knew that college broadened your horizons and gave you a different perspective on life, but I did not realize it would fight you until you were faced with silence.

Over time, I became used to people disagreeing with me and I would often give in because they felt they were better than me.

I never really knew why people treated me differently or fought me on certain things. I talked about this with others who experienced the same thing and gave me one word for it: Entitlement. It's the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment. They feel that just because they have dealt with an experience or aren't from the same area, it makes them an expert.

As I start to get into my major, it is required that you get at least one internship in order to get real-world experience. Living in a city that has many college students fighting for internships, it is really competitive. You would even say it's a "dog eat dog world." As I talked about it with my classmates, many people would brag about all of the connections they have in their field and have to turn down other internships because they already got their dream internship.

Maybe it's just me feeling sorry for myself because although I try my hardest and took every opportunity to get an internship, I failed to get the magic email that said: "you got it!" But it sucks to know that people have it so easy and that they deserve all these different opportunities because they have the special privilege to do so.

I know people who have to deal with people having some sort of entitlement all the time. You see it when working with customers and just dealing with people every day. There will always be somebody that thinks they are everything and the world revolves around them. News flash!! You do not get the chance to reserve some special right because you are you (unless your Beyonce). You are just like the rest of us trying to live life.

So play nice and consider other people before taking rubbing it in other people's faces.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


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To The High School Senior Wishing She Could Fast-Forward To Graduation, Careful What You Wish For

Don't wish this time away.

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As the last stretch of my freshman year of college stands before me, I've been thinking a lot about where I was a year ago today. I've thought about how fast the time has gone, but also how much has happened in that year.

A year ago, I decided what college I was going to and was getting ready to graduate, and honestly counting down the days until graduation. Senior year was almost over, and I couldn't wait to walk across that stage, get my diploma, and FINALLY get to start my real life. However, now that it's a year later I honestly barely remember all those little moments and it feels like literally a world ago when I was in my high school and making my Senior Board full of pictures of my childhood. And part of me wishes that I hadn't wished all that time away.

So, to my high school seniors out there — I encourage you to cherish all the memories you are making. I encourage you to spend time with your parents and savor the meals you have with them and enjoy the conversations where your mom asks all the mom questions about your day, and your dad tells a story from his childhood that you've heard a million times before. I encourage you to appreciate the friends you have, and whether or not you plan to stay friends with them after graduation, be grateful for the time with them in this season and the role that they played in your life.

I ask you to look around your high school, stop and stare at the walls that you've probably been praying to get out of for a few months now and appreciate the memories and times you've had in those buildings. Whether or not high school was a great time for you or a bad time, it was a time of growth and the place where you matured and made mistakes and succeeded.

Seniors, enjoy these last few months because before you know it you'll blink and it will be a year later and you'll be miss those days that you complained about, those teachers you rolled your eyes at, and those friends that you shared that time with.

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