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Servers, Here’s My 2 Cents— You Aren't Automatically Entitled To A Good Tip

Good service is what gets you good tips.


And before you try to crucify me, you should know I'm a server myself. I've been waiting tables for almost two years, working my way through college, paying my bills and saving for my wedding.

Lately, I've been seeing all over Facebook that if you aren't prepared to tip 20% then don't go out to eat at all. And I get it, bad tips and getting stiffed sucks. But tipping is supposed to be based on service. Crazy to hear from a server, right? Except that's exactly how I learned to become a good server. If I wanted to make good money, I had to give good service.

When I first moved from hosting to serving, my old manager told me that if I ever got a bad tip or stiffed entirely for that matter, the first thing I should ask myself is was there anything I could've done better. Sometimes the answer is honestly no. There are some people in the world who feel like they shouldn't have to be the one to pay a server's wages, and there are others that think a few dollars is all they should have to leave regardless of the bill.

We don't have to like it or agree with it, and it is frustrating to feel like you did everything you could to make sure they had a good meal and get nothing for it. It sucks, and it's upsetting, and some people just can't be pleased. But those people aren't the ones I'm talking about.

Because there are other times yes, I could've done something better. I could've gotten their refills out quicker, checked on them more often, smiled more. I honestly could've given better service. The best servers have off days or get weeded. If I'm having one of those days or if I'm running around like a mad woman, I'm not mad if I don't get the best tip in the world because chances are they didn't get the best service in the world.

I never walk up to a table and expect them to automatically leave me a certain amount; I just do what I can to make them happy and hope for the best. Most of the time it ends in my favor. If it doesn't, I remind myself that something is better than nothing and move on to the next table.

Thankfully the bad days don't happen to me nearly as often as it did when I first became a server. Over time I've learned how to balance all the craziness and smile while I do it. And because of that, I make pretty good money, and I'm very thankful for it

But I'm so over entitled servers who think that doing the bare minimum means they should get that 20% every time. Honestly, they make the servers who work hard for their living look bad. They're the ones who make guests think all servers are entitled and don't deserve the money.

There's a big difference between a bad tip from someone can never please, and a bad tip because of bad service. If you want the good tip, then give good service. From someone who does it themselves, I promise it's not that hard.

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16 Reasons Nurses Have Been And Will Continue To Be The Most Trusted Profession

Because there is more to nurses than bed baths and medications


For the past 17 consecutive years, nurses have been the most trusted profession in America. How do we know? Gallup does a poll every year to Americans rating different professions on honesty and ethical standards.

Nurses were number one as 84% of Americans rated nurses as high or very high when it comes to honesty and ethical standards. This isn't anything new, either. Gallup says that "With the exception of one year, 2001, when firefighters were on the list after the 9/11 terrorist attacks, nurses have far outpaced all other professions since they were added to the list two decades ago."

So, what made them chose nurses as the most honest and ethical?


1. They hold the hands of your loved ones

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Nurses work 12-hour shifts. They are with your loved one more than anyone else in the hospital. Every family member cannot be with them 24/7, nor is it healthy to be. They encourage caregivers and family members to go home; take a shower, eat a meal, and sleep.

You cannot be there for them if you aren't there and healthy. That is where nurses come in. They'll take the hand for a while. Whether they are just going through a rough patch or taking their last breath, they will be there for comfort, support, and guidance.

2. They teach and help you understand

Education is a huge part of their jobs. They teach a diabetic how to take insulin. They teach the liver failure patient on what their lab values mean. They teach the importance of your diagnosis. They teach about medications. Nurses teach A LOT.

They should probably have a dual degree in education. They also help you understand things you did not understand. Physicians, for example, may not explain things in terms you understand. Nurses can help clarify and make sure you are comfortable and informed about what is happening.

3. They help you feel human again

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It is helping you in the shower after a long night. It is giving a bed bath when you just cannot move. It is helping you go to the bathroom after just giving birth. It is offering you a toothbrush. It is talking to you like a human being and not talking down on you.

Nurses and nursing assistants are responsible for making sure you are as comfortable as you possibly can be. Hospitals are not fun and if you are there, it is possible you are not your best self. That is where they come in.

4. They provide open and honest communication

Nurses almost always ask open-ended questions. Why? How much information can you get from "yes" or "no"? Nurses are the people who communicate with you on a different level. They are honest, show empathy, and want to help. They open the room up for whatever you want to discuss. It is one of their many positions.

5. They help bring life into the world


Imagine celebrating life every single day. This is the reality for many Labor and Delivery, Postpartum, NICU, and well-baby nursery nurses. You are not alone. The nurses are the one increasing your pain medications when needed or helping you get through and respect your natural birth plan.

They encourage you every step of childbirth. They'll let you squeeze their hands, put a cold rag on your head, and place your baby on your chest after it's all over. Nurses are the ones who care for you and your whole family.

6. They are EVERYWHERE

Hospitals, schools, community, clinics, group homes, rehabilitation centers, outpatient centers, offices and your primary office, home health care, pharmacies, senior living centers, and so much more.

Nurses are not just trusted in hospitals. They are everywhere.

7. They advocate for you

Nurses give you a voice. The patient always comes first in their eyes. When they feel something is wrong, they WILL advocate for you. They are the people you want on your team.

They help you make informed decisions and translate things you may not understand. They will make sure you have all the tools you need, they ensure your safety, they educate you, and they connect you to resources you may need.

In fact, they are your biggest cheerleaders! They want you to get better and be your best possible self. Many times, nurses develop relationships with patients who have around for a while. Relationships are professional, yet they also become your biggest fans.

8. They are empathetic 

Nurses are special. They find out early on in nursing school whether they have the skills to be a nurse. The one's that make it are usually the empathic ones. They are able to put themselves your shoes, which is a huge reason why nurses give the care they do.

9. They help you cope, patient or not


Nurses always have "two" patients: the actual patient and the family. It comes with the job! They do not just educate the patient; they educate the family, too. They also help you cope. Losing a loved one is never easy.

Although you may not be their patient, they'll still hold your hand, guide you, support you, and give you the resources you need to get through tough times.

10. They see you at your worst 

This is a positive thing. When you're at your worst, you need the most help. Nurses are always the first on the scene to care for you in all aspects; big or small.

11. They are active outside of their workplace

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Nurses (and nursing students) do a lot of community work. They see the bigger picture of why a patient may not take their medications or why they might not understand something. They are always out trying to help the community with screenings and education.

12. They practice and heal holistically 

Nurses practice holistically, meaning the focus on healing the whole person. According to American Nursing Today, it takes a "mind-body-spirit-emotion-environment" approach to the practice of traditional nursing. Holistic nursing is based on a philosophy of living and being that is grounded in caring, relationship, and interconnectedness.

A holistic nurse recognizes and integrates the principles and modalities of holistic healing into daily life and clinical practice. Holistic nursing encourages nurses to integrate self-care, self-responsibility, spirituality, and reflection in their lives."

Yes, they take into consideration everything, not just the physical body.

13. They don't judge


Okay honestly, they’ve seen it all.

14. They are always learning and bettering themselves

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First, nursing school is DIFFICULT. Students have 12-hour clinicals, countless care guides, and a heavy course load. It is one most difficult majors. Yet, their pain is your gain! You want your nurse to be the best.

They hold your life in their hands! Along with making it through school, they are always learning on the unit, keeping up to date on evidence-based research, complete CE's (continuing education), and have countless certifications.

15. They listen

They don't listen to answer, they listen to listen. They'll listen to your worries, your stories, and anything you want to share. They have your back.

16. They encourage bonding and support

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Studies have shown that visitors and having support have an impact on patient outcomes! This included rapid recovery, boosting moral, and reduce anxiety and delirium. It also helps if you are there. You'll be better equipped to care for your loved one.

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4 Indisputable Reasons Your Next Meal Should Be Chick-Fil-A

The best fast food if we're being honest.


Who doesn't love Chick-fil-A? It's usually one of the most popular restaurants on a college campus, and we've all seen the super long line for the drive-thru at lunchtime.

1. Chick-fil-A chicken nuggets are the superior chicken nuggets.

I feel like it's hard to argue against Chick-fil-A chicken nuggets. They taste good and actually look like chicken. McDonald's McNuggets simply don't compare.

2. Chick-fil-A has the best sauce selection.

Whether you're a traditional honey mustard/BBQ sauce person or a specialty sauce type of person, Chick-fil-A has the sauce for you. Nothing compares to some good Chick-fil-A sauce every once in a while.

3. They have great breakfast options too.

We all know Chick-fil-A is known for their classic chicken sandwich, but they also have great breakfast. They have healthy options as well as their delicious chicken minis. No fast-food breakfast can compare to chicken minis.

4. Waffle fries. Need I say more.

I've never had waffle fries as good as Chick-fil-A's waffle fries. They're convenient for scooping sauce and they taste delicious by themselves. No fast food fry compares to Chick-fil-A fries and you cannot convince me otherwise, because I've tried all the fries already.

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