Servers, Here’s My 2 Cents— You Aren't Automatically Entitled To A Good Tip

Servers, Here’s My 2 Cents— You Aren't Automatically Entitled To A Good Tip

Good service is what gets you good tips.


And before you try to crucify me, you should know I'm a server myself. I've been waiting tables for almost two years, working my way through college, paying my bills and saving for my wedding.

Lately, I've been seeing all over Facebook that if you aren't prepared to tip 20% then don't go out to eat at all. And I get it, bad tips and getting stiffed sucks. But tipping is supposed to be based on service. Crazy to hear from a server, right? Except that's exactly how I learned to become a good server. If I wanted to make good money, I had to give good service.

When I first moved from hosting to serving, my old manager told me that if I ever got a bad tip or stiffed entirely for that matter, the first thing I should ask myself is was there anything I could've done better. Sometimes the answer is honestly no. There are some people in the world who feel like they shouldn't have to be the one to pay a server's wages, and there are others that think a few dollars is all they should have to leave regardless of the bill.

We don't have to like it or agree with it, and it is frustrating to feel like you did everything you could to make sure they had a good meal and get nothing for it. It sucks, and it's upsetting, and some people just can't be pleased. But those people aren't the ones I'm talking about.

Because there are other times yes, I could've done something better. I could've gotten their refills out quicker, checked on them more often, smiled more. I honestly could've given better service. The best servers have off days or get weeded. If I'm having one of those days or if I'm running around like a mad woman, I'm not mad if I don't get the best tip in the world because chances are they didn't get the best service in the world.

I never walk up to a table and expect them to automatically leave me a certain amount; I just do what I can to make them happy and hope for the best. Most of the time it ends in my favor. If it doesn't, I remind myself that something is better than nothing and move on to the next table.

Thankfully the bad days don't happen to me nearly as often as it did when I first became a server. Over time I've learned how to balance all the craziness and smile while I do it. And because of that, I make pretty good money, and I'm very thankful for it

But I'm so over entitled servers who think that doing the bare minimum means they should get that 20% every time. Honestly, they make the servers who work hard for their living look bad. They're the ones who make guests think all servers are entitled and don't deserve the money.

There's a big difference between a bad tip from someone can never please, and a bad tip because of bad service. If you want the good tip, then give good service. From someone who does it themselves, I promise it's not that hard.

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10 Things People Who Addictively Drink Diet Coke Are Sick Of Hearing

In tribute to the most wonderful beverage in the world during my attempt to detox.

Hi I'm Katie, and I'm a Diet Coke-aholic. It's been 28 days, 22 hours, 2 minutes, and a handful of seconds since my last Diet Coke and I think I'm going to die. I'm not kidding — I've had dreams about the stuff, it's bad guys. I figured with the new year I would try and be healthier. I said I would give up Diet Coke for a year, a whole year. So when I found myself sitting in my room missing the feeling of drinking a nice cold Diet Coke I couldn't help but reminisce on all of the super annoying things people say about my "addiction."

1. It'll cause cancer

The original study that “firmly concluded" that Diet Coke “definitely causes cancer" was done by Italian researchers where they overfed almost 2,000 rats aspartame (the main sweetener in diet soda) at a rate and concentration that no human being would ever likely consume. So although a link was found between aspartame dosage and cancer in rats a similar study on humans confirmed no link between the two. Maybe they'll find something in the future, but right now I get to drink my can guilt free. Science.

2. You know, Diet Coke won't make you skinny

I haven't been to the gym since October. Trust me, honey, I'm not drinking the stuff for the health benefits. I'm drinking it for the delicious taste.

3. Have you ever thought about cutting back a little?


4. Have you ever thought about swapping it out for seltzer water or something else?

No. Seriously? Are you kidding me? Please stop suggesting stupid things.

5. Put the bottle down!

Some people think that it's a problem. I think that it's a solution.

6. Diet Coke is actually worse for you than regular Coke.

Ok cool. Thanks, doc.

7. Do you know how much money you're probably spending?

No, and I don't want to find out. I have been successfully avoiding the answer to this since 2010.

8. All that soda will impact your mood.

You're damn right it will. If I'm stressed, or sad, or angry — you name it, a Diet Coke is guaranteed to make me smile. So thank you for pointing this out because yes, Diet Coke does affect my mood.

9. The sugar will rot your teeth

a) It's the carbonation, not the sugar that rots your teeth b) I brush my teeth and practice other oral hygiene regardless so I think I'm OK.

10. You have a problem.

Yeah, it's you. I am fully aware that I drink more Diet Coke than some people but I'm OK with that.

Despite all of the nonsense people insist on talking to me about I will always have a special place in my heart for Diet Coke. See you in 2017, my love.

Cover Image Credit: Coca-Cola Co.

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Famous 48 In Scottsdale, AZ Is Making A Comeback

Famous 48, known for its Arizona local comfort food and alcohol, will open on February 12, 2019.


Scottsdale is gaining a new and impressive sports bar a few miles North of Old Town Scottsdale. Famous 48 promises a casual vibe, comfort food and a sanctuary for guests who enjoy locally made craft beer and sports.

Formerly located in Old Town Scottsdale, Famous 48 is moving eight miles north to The Shops Gainey Village, a mall that currently houses locally owned shops and restaurants.

The new location is convenient for shoppers and residents of the area who like to enjoy a relaxing, hospitable restaurant experience.

This particular sports grill is set aside from others because of its love for Arizona, its residents and innovative food and serving styles.

The eatery possesses a unique and creative menu that includes many American and Arizona dishes. From waffle-pressed macaroni and cheese to crispy southwest egg rolls, the traditionally made food is guaranteed to satisfy your cravings. Other popular picks on the menu include baby back ribs (pictured below), fish-n-chips and the skillet cookie.

Along with artisan foods, Famous 48 also offers an extensive list of innovative craft cocktails, beer and wine -many of which are local to Arizona.

Cocktails such as the Fashioned48, Prickly Pear Mojito and the Red Rock Sunset all feature a taste of the valley as they include ingredients that are home-grown and made locally.

The new interior of the 4,500 square-foot building is an ideal atmosphere for sports-lovers and families. It will include horseshoe-shaped booths, a comfortable bar, and 36 TVs.

The climate in Arizona is great for outdoor dining, and Famous 48 uses the sunny weather to its benefit. Seating is available inside and outside and includes an indoor/outdoor bar.

The interesting name, "Famous 48," is suiting for the establishment because Arizona was the 48th state to be admitted into the Union on Feb. 14, 1912. Arizona's culture is reflected in the design of the building, the menu and the sunny vibe that the restaurant strives to create.

The restaurant is owned by the company Square One Concepts along with other familiar eateries like Bourbon & Bones, Cold Beers & Cheeseburgers and Wasted Grain.

Founder and CEO S. Barrett Rinzler has been named "2017 Restaurateur of the Year."

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