Engaging In Self-Care Has Changed My Life

Engaging In Self-Care Has Changed My Life

Self-care embodies more than the occasional face mask.


There once was a time in my life when I believed in perfection. Whether it involved my grades, my personal friendships and relationships, or simply the way I was choosing to present myself to the world, I strove to maintain a certain sense of flawlessness in all aspects of my life. That was, of course, before I came to realize that these notions of perfection are unattainable. As life tends to move rapidly before our eyes, we often tend not to focus greatly on the changes occurring until we designate the time to reflect on them. Within these moments of reflection, it is natural to think that one may feel overwhelmed. Yet, the true resolution to overcoming this feeling lies within the ways that we choose to approach it.

After completing almost two years of college, I have come to realize that my personal experiences throughout this time period have played a significant role in shaping me into the person I am today. I remain grateful, as they have consisted mostly of moments of happiness and growth - though that is not to say that I have not faced hardships. In days of old when I was forced face to face with intense stress, there had been times when I simply did not know how to cope. Instead of acknowledging my sources of struggle, I would choose to be counterproductive and continue to push myself to my limits. It was not until my sophomore year that I realized I needed to make a change.

Over the past few months, I am proud to say that I have begun engaging in more self-care.

More often than not, the first thought that comes to mind when a college girl says "self-care" is an expensive face mask and a bottle of wine. Though I am in favor of both, my journey has helped me to understand that self-care embodies so much more than what is perceived. In essence, I now understand that it is acceptable to spend a day in bed if necessary - to decline an invitation for a night out and catch up on school work. It is acceptable to spend an hour at the gym to feel your best, or to indulge in cravings in moderation. It is acceptable to remove toxicity from your life, and it is acceptable to be forgiving of those who have hurt you so that you may heal. Most importantly, it is unapologetically acceptable to do whatever you believe will make you happy.

By adapting my behavior to acknowledge and fulfill these deeper standards of self-care, I say with ease that it has changed my life for the better. My disposition is softer and my heart is lighter - both things I may never have come to change if I had not decided to take better care of myself.

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50 Things To Be Happy About

It's the little things in life.

It is always easier to pick out the negatives in life. We tend to dwell on them and drown out the happy moments. I asked a friend to tell me something that made them happy. They sarcastically laughed at my question then thought about it for a minute. Nothing. But they could easily come up with things that made them unhappy. Then I read them my list, and they were smiling and laughing in agreement the whole time. There are so many more things to be happy and laugh about than we realize. After all- it's the little things in life that can mean the most! Here are 50 things that make me happy. What are your 50?

  1. The first warm day of the year
  2. Laughing so hard your abs ache
  3. Freshly washed sheets
  4. Looking through old pictures
  5. The smell of a coffee shop
  6. Eating cookie dough
  7. Reading a bible verse that perfectly fits your current situation
  8. Seeing someone open a gift you got them
  9. Eating birthday cake
  10. A shower after a long day
  11. Marking something off your to-do list
  12. Drinking ice cold water on a really hot day
  13. Dressing up for no reason
  14. Breakfast food
  15. Being able to lay in bed in the morning
  16. Finding something you love at the store
  17. And it’s on sale
  18. Cute elderly couples
  19. When a stranger compliments you
  20. Getting butterflies in your stomach
  21. Taking a nap
  22. Cooking something delicious
  23. Being lost for words
  24. Receiving a birthday card in the mail
  25. And there's money in it
  26. Finally cleaning your room
  27. Realizing how fortunate you are
  28. Waking up from a nightmare and realizing it wasn't real
  29. Fresh fruit
  30. Walking barefoot in the grass
  31. Singing along to a song in the car
  32. Sunrises
  33. Sunsets
  34. Freshly baked cookies with a glass of milk
  35. Summertime cookouts
  36. Feeling pretty
  37. Looking forward to something
  38. Lemonade
  39. Comfortable silences
  40. Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing you have more time to sleep
  41. Surviving another school year
  42. The cold side of the pillow
  43. The smell of popcorn
  44. Remembering something funny that happened
  45. Laughing to yourself about it
  46. Feeling weird about laughing to yourself
  47. Printed photographs
  48. Wearing a new outfit
  49. The sound of an ice cream truck
  50. Feeling confident
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4 Ways Being Confident Can Improve Your Life

Everyone knows that it's better to be confident, but here are some actual ways it will change your life!


I haven't always considered myself to be a confident person until recently. Now that I am, I can see the various ways it has impacted my life.

1. You'll be glowing!

Confidence makes you look so much better because of the way it radiates off of you. Confident people can light up a room right when they walk in it. You don't have to be prettier or smarter than anyone to have this confidence; you just have to be proud of your own individual differences.

My confidence doesn't stem from the way I look or the way I preform at school or work, but from the recognition I have of my own big heart. I am confident because I know I'm kind, funny, and friendly. People can see this in me now that I'm aware of it, but I wasn't always.

2. You'll have less fear!

When you're confident in yourself, you won't have to think twice before putting yourself out there. You won't be as scared of doing things because you'll be more confident in your ability to do them. Once you push past your fears, they will begin to diminish.

If you're scared to approach someone you like, do it anyway because confident people never let fear stop them from trying.

3. You will feel empowered most days!

Not only will confidence improve the way you look and the way others see you, but it will also have you feeling better emotionally. I've gained a lot of confidence this past year and I feel a lot stronger because of it. While I still have days where I'm sad or days where I struggle, the confidence I have that I will get through it makes it happen much faster.

Feeling good about yourself is crucial to your happiness. So, stop procrastinating the hard work of falling in love with yourself and decide to stop seeing yourself in a negative light.

4. People will notice!

Being confident will change your own personal life, but it will also change the way everyone around you sees you. We are the energy we give off. Good things will start coming into your life if the energy that you are exuding is positive. Better people will be attracted to you and your confidence will be something everyone notices.

I didn't even realize how confident I had become until my friends started pointing out the way they could tell I had become a much happier person. Don't let your smiles be fake and don't walk around with a slouch when it only takes slow, little changes to make a big difference in your overall life!

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