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A Friendly Reminder Some Friendships Should Come To an End

"There is such thing as a toxic friendship and it has to come to an end."

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I have a strange problem that consists of seeing the best in people. While there is nothing wrong with holding a positive perspective of others, it has ultimately let me down. Sometimes reality doesn't measure the expectations and it, actually really freaking stings.

Sometimes there's a flashing red light that gets overlooked, but enough is enough. There is such thing as a toxic friendship, and it has to come to an end.

It's never easy to cut these friendships loose because that's not how the began. These are friendships like any other and hold close memories, making it harder to walk away.

But there is a difference between the friendships we should hold close and those we need to learn to let go. I can't begin to tell you how many times I've given the wrong person a second chance. I hate cutting people out of my life and because of it I have a very high tolerance and give one too many second chances, but some have ultimately left me more hurt.

Recently one of my close friends and I reconnected and while I was happy our friendship was moving forward, the incident that broke us apart happened again. After that, I just decided to let it all go. There was no need to continue something that brought me back to a bad time. Besides, that's not how I would like to remember our friendship. The reason I mention this is because even though I didn't want to face it, our friendship had already served its purpose, and now there was nothing good left.

However, I would like to say I still do and will continue to give people the benefit of the doubt, but there are some friendships where there is nothing left to do than to say a farewell and be thankful for the moments shared. And being able to distinguish who to close the door to and who to leave the door open for is hard, but only you understand the friendship best.

Everyone's situation varies, and the first thing I learned is to think long-term. Who is the person, and what role do they play in your life? Will you be okay if they no longer play this role? Should they even still be around and do you genuinely see the relationship heading towards a favorable light? And if you know it ends back to the problem, remind yourself your worth and that this is just one person out of many. I will say one thing, you can't go through life comparing people, there is always going to be better, and there is still going to be worse, but you can't categorize them, every one is different and shouldn't be limited to either placement. Be open closing doors as much as you are to meeting new people because none of us are the same. And we all deserve a chance, just make sure it's a healthy one.

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