5 Ways We Speak And Understand Our Own Love Language

5 Ways We Speak And Understand Our Own Love Language

Communication is key.

Everyone has their own preferred way of expressing and receiving love.

There are five main love languages when it comes to receiving and giving affection. Relationships, intimate or otherwise, are built on a myriad of factors. One of those factors being how you emotionally fulfill the needs of your partner. This could be something as simple as holding their hand while walking down the street, or bringing them a cup of coffee to show you were thinking of them.

Here are five ways that people speak and understand their own desired love language...

1. Words of affirmation

If this is your love language, you probably feel most cared for when your partner is open and expressive with you. One way to express emotion is to use words that build up your partner as well as yourself. You love when your partner is honest with how they feel about you, and especially when they show that there’s action behind their words.

You love written words just as much as spoken words. Sometimes, something as simple as receiving a sweet note from your partner could brighten your day.

In your partner telling you how wonderful they think you are, and how much they appreciate you, you feel especially cared for. Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love.

2. Quality time

This love language is about spending time together, while being fully present and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial. This means giving your partner your undivided attention, and I don't mean sitting on the couch watching television.

When you spend time doing mindless tasks, or something that requires most of your attention — you’re not paying attention to each other. It could mean taking a walk, just the two of you, or going out to eat at a trendy restaurant.

Quality time means putting away your phone, turning off that game of Fortnite, and spending genuine time together. It means getting lost in conversation and rediscovering why you found each other attractive or interesting to begin with.

Time is a precious commodity, it’s important to use it well.

3. Receiving gifts

Those whose love language is receiving isn’t so much material, but more emotional. A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, "Look, he was thinking of me today," or, "She remembered I wanted that for my birthday."

To give someone a gift requires thought and preparation. It could be an act so simple as remembering her favorite candy at the movies, or knowing how he likes his coffee. To those whose way of expressing affection is receiving, the gift itself becomes a symbol of the thought put into it, regardless of the cost.

It is the thought expressed through the thoughtfulness of the gift and as an expression of love.

4. Acts of service

Imagine your boyfriend knew you had a busy week ahead of you, so he filled up the gas tank in your car so you didn't have to. If this is your primary love language, this action will come across romantic and attractive.

Consider actions such as cooking a meal, plugging in their phone if they forget, or picking up flowers on the way to your house. Those acts may seem small, but knowing that your partner did something so considerate without expecting anything in return, odds are you'll feel special and adored.

You feel the strongest in your relationship when your partner shows you his feelings more than he tells you. A gift requires thought, planning, time, effort and energy, regardless of size or cost.

If done with a positive spirit and the genuine intention, they are expressions of love wrapped up in whatever shape or form it comes in.

5. Physical touch

If your primary love language is physical touch, this goes far beyond the bedroom. Public displays of affection such as holding hands, extended graizes and hugs communicate care. Physical accessibility is vital for those who crave touch, while neglect and abuse can prove to be unforgivable and irreparable.

A gentle embrace during a hard time is just the encouragement you need to strengthen your day. Physical touch is a powerful vehicle for communicating. Holding hands, kissing, embracing and sex are ways of communicating emotional love.

For some, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved and uncared for. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love of their partner.

How do I figure out my love language?

Your upbringing can influence the way you give and receive love, as well as the way your parents expressed love growing up.

When you want to show someone you care about them, what thought comes to mind? Your most basic instincts can show your primary love language.

Painful past experiences can also explain your preference in behaviors. If someone you previously trusted hurt you in a deep way, or failed to express their love for you in a positive way, it may not have been that they didn't care about you, but rather you weren't being loved in an effective way for you.

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If you're picturing the vines in your head, you're doing it right

In 2017 we had to say goodbye to one of the best websites to ever roam the internet: Vine. In case you have been living under a rock since 2013, Vine was -(sad face)- a website and app that took the internet and the app store by storm in Winter 2013. It contained 6-second videos that were mostly comedy- but there were other genres including music, sports, cool tricks and different trends. Vine stars would get together and plan out a vine and film it till they got it right.

It was owned by Twitter and it was shut down because of so many reasons; the viners were leaving and making money from Youtube, there was simply no money in it and Twitter wanted us to suffer.

There's been a ton of threads on Twitter of everyone's favorite vines so I thought I'd jump in and share some of my favorites. So without further ado, here are some quotes of vines that most vine fanatics would know.

1. "AHH...Stahhp. I coulda dropped mah croissant"

2. "Nate how are those chicken strips?" "F%#K YA CHICKEN STRIPS.....F%#K ya chicken strips!"

3. "Road work ahead? Uh Yea, I sure hope it does"

4. "Happy Crimus...." "It's crismun..." "Merry crisis" "Merry chrysler"

5. "...Hi Welcome to Chili's"

6. "HoW dO yOu kNoW wHaT's gOoD fOr mE?" "THAT'S MY OPINIONNN!!!.."

7."Welcome to Bible Study. We're all children of Jesus... Kumbaya my looordd"

8. Hi my name's Trey, I have a basketball game tomorrow. Well I'm a point guard, I got shoe game..."

9. "It's a avocadooo...thanks"

10. "Yo how much money do you have?" "69 cents" "AYE you know what that means?" "I don't have enough money for chicken nuggets"

11. "Hurricane Katrina? More like Hurricane Tortilla."

12. "Hey Tara you want some?" "This b*%th empty. YEET!"

13. "Get to Del Taco. They got a new thing called Freesha-- Free-- Freeshavaca do"

14. "Mothertrucker dude that hurt like a buttcheek on a stick"

15. "Two brooss chillin in a hot tub 5 feet apart cuz they're not gay"

16. "Jared can you read number 23 for the class?" "No I cannot.... What up I'm Jared, I'm 19 and I never f#@%in learned how to read."

17. "Not to be racist or anything but Asian people SSUUGHHH"

18. 18. "I wanna be a cowboy baby... I wanna be a cowboy baby"

19. "Hey, I'm lesbian" "I thought you were American"

20. "I spilled lipstick in your Valentino bag" "you spilled- whaghwhha- lipstick in my Valentino White bag?"

21. "What's better than this? Guys bein dudes"

22. "How'd you get these bumps? ya got eggzma?" "I got what?" "You got eggzma?"

23. "WHAT ARE THOSEEEEE?" "THEY are my crocs!"

24. "Can I get a waffle? Can I please get a waffle?"

25. "HAPPY BIRTHDAY RAVEN!" "I can't sweem"

26. "Say Coloradoo" "I'M A GIRAFFE!!"

27. "How much did you pay for that taco?" Aight yo you know this boys got his free tacoo"

28. *Birds chirping* "Tweekle Tweekle"

29. "Girl, you're thicker than a bowl of oatmeal"

30. "I brought you Frankincense" "Thank you" "I brought you Myrrh" "Thank you" "Mur-dur" "huh...Judas..no"

31. "Sleep? I don't know about sleep...it's summertime" "You ain't go to bed?" "Oh she caught me"

32. "All I wanna tell you is school's not important... Be whatever you wanna be. If you wanna be a dog...RUFF. You know?"33. "Oh I like ya accent where you from?" "I'm Liberian" "Oh, my bad *whispering* I like your accent..."

34. "Next Please" "Hello" "Sir, this is a mug shot" "A mug shot? I don't even drink coffee"

35. "Hey did you happen to go to class last week?" "I have never missed a class"

36. "Go ahead and introduce yourselves" "My name is Michael with a B and I've been afraid of insects my entire-" "Stop, stop, stop. Where?" "Hmm?" "Where's the B?" "There's a bee?"

37. "There's only one thing worse than a rapist...Boom" "A child" "No"

38. "Later mom. What's up me and my boys are going to see Uncle Kracker...GIVE ME MY HAT BACK JORDAN! DO YOU WANNA SEE UNCLE KRACKER OR NO?

39. "Dad look, it's the good kush." This is the dollar store, how good can it be?"

40. "Zach stop...Zach stop...You're gonna get in trouble. Zach"

41. "CHRIS! Is that a weed? "No this is a crayon-" I'm calling the police" *puts 911 into microwave* "911 what's your emergency"

42. "WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? "

43. *Blowing vape on table* * cameraman blows it away* "ADAM"

44. "Would you like the spider in your hand?" "Yea" "Say please" "Please" *puts spider in hand* *screams*

45. "Oh hi, thanks for checking in I'm still a piece of garrbaagge"

46. *girl blows vape* "...WoW"

47. *running* "...Daddy?" "Do I look like-?"

48. *Pours water onto girl's face" "Hello?"

49. "Wait oh yes wait a minute Mr. Postman" "HaaaAHH"

50. "...And they were roommates" "Mah God they were roommates"

I could literally go on forever because I just reference vines on a daily basis. Rest in peace Vine

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The Johns Creek International Festival Showed That It Should Happen Every Year Across The Nation

The two parts of our community are unity and diversity and the Johns Creek International Festival showed both with flying colors!

Diversity, unity and equality are three traits that are very prominent in the community we all live in. These traits help signify who we all are as individuals and groups of people and they determine how we act towards other people. This year, here in Johns Creek, Georgia there was an International Festival on April 21, and it had everything planned to perfection.

There were tents from local restaurants and companies, live music from performers by locals and so much more to enjoy. This was the very first annual festival that happened here, and it showed me that a festival like this should happen everywhere nationwide because of the number of people who come out and enjoy seeing other cultures.

Other cultures are sometimes hard to come by depending on the community you live in, but at this festival, there were cultures from all over the place. There were performances from China to India to even American Rock. All the performances were once in a lifetime because the performers were nothing less.

In addition to all of these professional performances, there were also performances from local schools. These include the River Trail Yo-Yo club and the Taylor Road Middle School Jazz Band. There were even Northview High School performances that killed it on stage.

These types of performances were from different parts of the world which made me realize that the rest of the world has performances just as cool and amazing as ours, but we do not see them much.

The only thing that was amazing was not only the performances, of course, but also the plethora of food trucks that were present throughout the festival. These food trucks were from all over the world as well, from Mexican to Indian to even food from Honduras! There was even rolled ice cream which I must say was to die for.

Now do not get me wrong; there were other things there besides food and performances like the tents. There were rows of tents selling their beauties from around the world. There were also tents that were playing games that are native to their motherland like at the India tent, there were people playing cricket. Lastly, there was a kids' tent that was doing crafts from all around the world, like an African face mask.

These are only a few of the fascinations that were present at this one of a kind festival, but even with these few things, thousands of people came out and supported and enjoyed the day. I know I learned a lot and I hope to see another one soon and somewhere around the nation because let us be honest, we do not know much about other cultures, and this is a fun way to learn about them. It is a step in the diverse and unified direction!

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