5 Ways We Speak And Understand Our Own Love Language

5 Ways We Speak And Understand Our Own Love Language

Communication is key.
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Everyone has their own preferred way of expressing and receiving love.

There are five main love languages when it comes to receiving and giving affection. Relationships, intimate or otherwise, are built on a myriad of factors. One of those factors being how you emotionally fulfill the needs of your partner. This could be something as simple as holding their hand while walking down the street, or bringing them a cup of coffee to show you were thinking of them.

Here are five ways that people speak and understand their own desired love language...

1. Words of affirmation

If this is your love language, you probably feel most cared for when your partner is open and expressive with you. One way to express emotion is to use words that build up your partner as well as yourself. You love when your partner is honest with how they feel about you, and especially when they show that there’s action behind their words.

You love written words just as much as spoken words. Sometimes, something as simple as receiving a sweet note from your partner could brighten your day.

In your partner telling you how wonderful they think you are, and how much they appreciate you, you feel especially cared for. Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love.


2. Quality time

This love language is about spending time together, while being fully present and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial. This means giving your partner your undivided attention, and I don't mean sitting on the couch watching television.

When you spend time doing mindless tasks, or something that requires most of your attention — you’re not paying attention to each other. It could mean taking a walk, just the two of you, or going out to eat at a trendy restaurant.

Quality time means putting away your phone, turning off that game of Fortnite, and spending genuine time together. It means getting lost in conversation and rediscovering why you found each other attractive or interesting to begin with.

Time is a precious commodity, it’s important to use it well.


3. Receiving gifts

Those whose love language is receiving isn’t so much material, but more emotional. A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, "Look, he was thinking of me today," or, "She remembered I wanted that for my birthday."

To give someone a gift requires thought and preparation. It could be an act so simple as remembering her favorite candy at the movies, or knowing how he likes his coffee. To those whose way of expressing affection is receiving, the gift itself becomes a symbol of the thought put into it, regardless of the cost.

It is the thought expressed through the thoughtfulness of the gift and as an expression of love.


4. Acts of service

Imagine your boyfriend knew you had a busy week ahead of you, so he filled up the gas tank in your car so you didn't have to. If this is your primary love language, this action will come across romantic and attractive.

Consider actions such as cooking a meal, plugging in their phone if they forget, or picking up flowers on the way to your house. Those acts may seem small, but knowing that your partner did something so considerate without expecting anything in return, odds are you'll feel special and adored.

You feel the strongest in your relationship when your partner shows you his feelings more than he tells you. A gift requires thought, planning, time, effort and energy, regardless of size or cost.

If done with a positive spirit and the genuine intention, they are expressions of love wrapped up in whatever shape or form it comes in.


5. Physical touch

If your primary love language is physical touch, this goes far beyond the bedroom. Public displays of affection such as holding hands, extended graizes and hugs communicate care. Physical accessibility is vital for those who crave touch, while neglect and abuse can prove to be unforgivable and irreparable.

A gentle embrace during a hard time is just the encouragement you need to strengthen your day. Physical touch is a powerful vehicle for communicating. Holding hands, kissing, embracing and sex are ways of communicating emotional love.

For some, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it, they feel unloved and uncared for. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love of their partner.



How do I figure out my love language?

Your upbringing can influence the way you give and receive love, as well as the way your parents expressed love growing up.

When you want to show someone you care about them, what thought comes to mind? Your most basic instincts can show your primary love language.

Painful past experiences can also explain your preference in behaviors. If someone you previously trusted hurt you in a deep way, or failed to express their love for you in a positive way, it may not have been that they didn't care about you, but rather you weren't being loved in an effective way for you.

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35 Major Life Facts According To Nick Miller

"All booze is good booze, unless it's weak booze."
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Fact: If you watch "New Girl," you love Nick Miller.

You can't help it. He's an adorable, lovable mess of a man and you look forward to seeing him and his shenanigans each week. While living the infamous and incomparable life of Nick Miller, and obviously Julius Pepperwood— he has learned many valuable laws of the land. And, although Nick refuses to learn anything from anyone besides his mysterious, old Asian friend Tran, he does have a few lessons he'd like to teach us.

Here are 35 facts of life according to 'Nick Milla Nick Milla':

1. Drinking keeps you healthy.

"I'm not gonna get sick. No germ can live in a body that is 65% beer."

2. Dinosaurs never existed.

"I don't believe dinosaurs existed. I've seen the science. I don't believe it."


3. A paper bag is a bank.

"A bank is just a paper bag but with fancier walls."


4. Having sex is similar to delivering mail.

"I'm like a mailman, except instead of mail it's hot sex that I deliver."

5. Moonwalking is a foolproof way to get out of any awkward situation.

Jess (about Nick): "Now he won't even talk to me. I saw him this morning and he just panic moonwalked away from me. He does that sometimes."

6. Using a movie reference is also a great way.

Cece: "Come on, get up!"

Nick: "No, I don't dance. I'm from that town in "Footloose."

7. There's no reason to wash towels.

Nick: "I don’t wash the towel. The towel washes me. Who washes a towel?"

Schmidt: "You never wash your towel?"

Nick: "What am I gonna do? Wash the shower next? Wash a bar of soap?"

8. Exes are meant to be avoided at all costs (especially if/unless they're Caroline)

"I don't deal with exes, they're part of the past. You burn them swiftly and you give their ashes to Poseidon."

9. IKEA furniture is not as intimidating as it looks.

"I'm building you the dresser. I love this stuff. It's like high-stakes LEGOs."

10. You don't need forks if you have hands.

Jess: "That's gross. Get a fork, man."

Nick: "I got two perfectly good forks at the end of my arms!"

11. Sex has a very specific definition.


"It's not sex until you put the straw in the coconut."

12. Doors are frustrating.

"I will push if I want to push! Come on! I hate doors!"

13. All booze is good booze.

"Can I get an alcohol?"

14. ...unless it's weak booze.

"Schmidt, that is melon flavored liquor! That is 4-proof! That is safe to drink while you're pregnant!"

15. Writers are like pregnant women.

Jess: "You know what that sound is? It's the sound of an empty uterus."

Nick: "I can top that easily. I'm having a hard time with my zombie novel."

Jess: "Are you really comparing a zombie novel to my ability to create life?"

Nick: "I'm a writer, Jess. We create life."

16. All bets must be honored.

"There is something serious I have to tell you about the future. The name of my first-born child needs to be Reginald VelJohnson. I lost a bet to Schmidt."

17. Adele's voice is like a combination of Fergie and Jesus.

"Adele is amazing."

18. Beyoncé is extremely trustworthy.

"I'd trust Beyoncé with my life. We be all night."

19. Fish, on the other hand, are not.


“Absolutely not. You know I don’t trust fish! They breathe water. That's crazy!"

20. Bar mitzvahs are terrifying.

Schmidt: "It's a bar mitzvah!"

Nick: "I am NOT watching a kid get circumcised!"

21. ...so are blueberries.

Jess: "So far, Nick Miller's list of fears is sharks, tap water, real relationships..."

Nick: "And blueberries."

22. Take your time with difficult decisions. Don't be rash.


Jess: "You care about your burritos more than my children, Nick?"

Nick: "You're putting me in a tough spot!"

23. Getting into shape is not easy.

"I mean, I’m not doing squats or anything. I’m trying to eat less donuts."

24. We aren't meant to talk about our feelings.

"If we needed to talk about feelings, they would be called talkings."


25. We're all a little bit too hard on ourselves.

"The enemy is the inner me."

26. Freezing your underwear is a good way to cool off.


"Trust me, I'm wearing frozen underpants right now and I feel amazing. I'm gonna grab some old underpants and put a pair into the freezer for each of you."

27. Public nudity is normal.

"Everbody has been flashed countless times."

28. Alcohol is a cure-all.


"You treat an outside wound with rubbing alcohol. You treat an inside wound with drinking alcohol."

29. Horses are aliens.

"I believe horses are from outer-space."


30. Turtles should actually be called 'shell-beavers.'

Jess: "He calls turtles 'shell-beavers."

Nick: "Well, that's what they should be called."

31. Trench coats are hot.


"This coat has clean lines and pockets that don't quit, and it has room for your hips. And, when I wear it, I feel hot to trot!"


32. Sparkles are too.

"Now, my final bit of advice, and don't get sensitive on this, but you've got to change that top it's terrible and you've got to throw sparkles on. Sparkles are in. SPARKLES ARE IN."

33. Introspection can lead to a deeper knowing of oneself.

"I'm not convinced I know how to read. I've just memorized a lot of words."


34. It's important to live in the moment.

"I know this isn't gonna end well but the middle part is gonna be awesome."


35. Drinking makes you cooler.

Jess: "Drinking to be cool, Nick? That's not a real thing."

Nick: "That's the only thing in the world I know to be true."

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The Zodiac Signs As Bath And Body Works Scents

Just in case you want to know what scent you are!

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Bath and Body Works fans could be considered to be part of a cult. The scents draw you in as if calling your name, if you ever
wondered what your scent should be based on your zodiac sign, here it is!

Aries: Country Apple

The rather impulsive Aries takes their time picking and choosing the scents from Bath and Body Works. The soothing scent of a fresh apple orchard is just what they need on a daily basis to keep up with their shenanigans.

Taurus: Japanese Cherry Blossom

The personality of a Taurus is stubborn, or what I like to say, is stuck in their ways. When they first discovered this scent in middle school, this was it. This is the only scent you will find anywhere around a Taurus.

Libra: Pink Chiffon

Pink Chiffon is another cult classic. This best selling scent went out of style for a hot second but is back and bigger than ever.

Leo: Thousand Wishes

Thousand Wishes is a purr-fect scent for a Leo. The light scent adornes the wearer just the right amount to get the desired reaction from those around them.

Aquarius: Be Enchanted

The rather cold personality of an Aquarius is counteracted by the loving scent of Be Enchanted. The scent is just enough tenderness for the wearer to be relaxed.

Gemini: Moonlight Path

Gemini's constantly change their favorite scent and are in and out of the store almost weekly to by new lotions, candles, and body washes. You will never see a full empty bottle of anything, however, Moonlight Path is the scent they keep coming back to again and again.

Virgo: Sea Island Cotton

The clean personality of a Virgo must be matched with the clean scent of Sea Island Cotton.

Capricorn: Cucumber Melon

Another clean scent of Cucumber Melon is the exact thing a Capricorn needs. The balance and calming scents are what make this scent so attractive to a Capricorn.

Scorpio: Paris Amour

The light scent is what you would expect from an extreme sign like a Scorpio. The scent lightly washes over the wearer in almost a cloud that

Sagittarius: Cashmere Glow

Cashmere Glow is a perfect scent for the winter sign. The vanilla and golden peach scent is just the mixture that creates the perfect accessory in the chilly months.

Pisces: Warm Vanilla Sugar

This lovely scent accentuates the lovely personality of a Pisces. They can never get enough of this scent so they just keep buying and buying until they have a full stockpile.

Cancer: Velvet Sugar

Velvet Sugar is the perfect blend of red velvet and strawberries and a Cancer is always changing their mind. The wearer can tell if it is a more red velvet or strawberry kind of day, and that is the balance that they need in their lives.

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