I recently went and took a walk around the Botanical Gardens by myself a few days ago. I took in the fresh air, had some time to talk and clear my head, and just enjoyed the good weather around me. I saw so many people with their significant others, families, and friends.
Before I went and took this mini solo trip, I asked so many of my friends to join me. I got the usual responses of being too busy drowning in homework, or they had made other plans. Since I transferred to Athens, I found myself with 3 friends that are my go to people, and if they're busy I'm basically stuck missing an event I was looking forward too. No shade towards my friends, they're amazing, but our schedules don't always line up. Sadly, that's the sad part of growing up.
I remember sitting in bed all dressed up waiting to go to an event just for some last minute cancellations to happen. I missed out on so many things just because I was scared to do things alone or show up alone. I didn't want to look weird or out of place, but then this year, I decided to embrace the benefits of solitude.
So before you start to think I'm crazy, here are just some of the few benefits of going to events alone.
1. CHOOSING YOUR OWN SCHEDULE:
If you're anything like me, I love having a planned out schedule. I want to know what I'm doing, where we're going, and how long we are staying there. I know I'm a control freak, but sometimes my social meter runs out and I'm ready to leave! Anyway, if you go somewhere alone you have the liberty of leaving whenever you please. You don't have to wait on anyone or feel bad because you want to leave and your friend doesn't.
2. MEETING NEW PEOPLE
I transferred to UGA, and it was really hard to meet new people. Our school is massive and it can be hard finding your place. There are so many organizations to choose from and it can be overwhelming. I always try to remember that people were in my place and that most people won't deny a smile and a simple "hello". If you go to places alone, and I guarantee you will meet new people. Who knows, maybe you'll meet your new best friend there
3. NOT MISSING EVENTS YOU WANT TO GO TO
Like I've stated before, I've missed out on so many things I wanted to go too. I would lay in bed with FOMO seeing everyones social media posts and being so upset I didn't go because my friends couldn't. I regretted it every time and it stinks not being able to go to your favorite concert, or to a special event in Athens. SO GO! Even though it's easier said than done, its better than not checking it out.
4. GETTING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
If you're shy (like me), it can be so hard to push yourself to talk to new people. You feel awkward because you're alone and maybe even have some anxiety. On the bright side, going to places alone builds your confidence. It may not happen right away, but it does help you become more social and not be afraid to speak to people. You could also have people coming up to you, I promise you're not the only one that has gone to events alone.
Even though it is easier said than done, take the risk and go to a concert by yourself or watch a movie alone. You might surprise yourself and end up really enjoying it!