I never thought that I would write this article. I never thought there would really come a day where I would feel such a deep desire to address this on-going issue.
I'm not comfortable talking about my experiences with Anorexia, and I really don't think there will be day where I'm 100% ready to disclose all the horrible things I went through, but, enough is enough. And this is something that I need to say in hopes that people will think more carefully of their words.
On social media and just in regular day-to-day life I so often hear in passing someone say "Oh my God, what have you been doing? You look anorexic" with a quick laugh to show that they were joking. I've even seen someone on Instagram post on someone's picture "Why does your butt look bulimic and your waist look anorexic?". It physically nauseates me to hear or read these type of statements because this life-threatening disorder is seen as an easy punchline to so many people. Not only that but it negates the trauma that so many people who have recovered or are recovering are going through.
Whenever I come across someone describing an eating disorder as either an insult or even a compliment, it causes me to clench my jaw and become so rigid because these words, even after six years, still hurt all the same.
Some may think I'm being too sensitive. I am after all writing this during a really stressful school week and this might have been the one thing to cause me to completely tip over the edge, but, we have mostly all come to the consensus to not use disorders as a way to joke around. Just recently a creator on The Odyssey wrote an article addressed to those who still use the 'R' word and how as a collective nation we need to refrain from using hurtful words to describe beautiful individuals. Why can we not then come to the same conclusion for those equally wonderful people who have or still are suffering from something that is out of their control?
I'm sure people will just roll their eyes and say "Please. It's not that big of a deal" after reading this. I'm sure people will think I'm just another over-dramatic white girl who wants to complain about something.
But it is a really big deal. I wouldn't be writing about it if it wasn't.
To those who are still using Anorexia or any other eating disorder as a punchline to a joke, I am begging you to stop. It's not funny and it never will be. It's also not even remotely close to a decent compliment. When I was fourteen-years-old I starved myself to the point where I needed to be hospitalized and you telling someone that they look anorexic makes me so unbelievably angry because that is not something that should be said or taken lightly.
There are so many different ways to say what you want to say. We're all smart individuals, so please consider extending your vocabulary and using other words to express what you're feeling without making light of this disorder or completely romanticizing it.